About me
Do you feel stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns?
You may have experienced trauma, neglect or emotional harm, whether in childhood with emotionally immature parents or later in toxic or painful adult relationships or divorce. These experiences can shape how you relate to others, often leaving you caught in cycles of hurt, confusion and self doubt.
You might notice yourself drawn to partners who feel unsafe or unavailable, or stuck in painful family dynamics that never seem to change. Perhaps you seek reassurance, fear being left, or worry you are not enough to be loved.
For others, self protection looks different. You may avoid closeness, stay busy or rely only on yourself. You might identify as a people pleaser or perfectionist, working hard to meet others’ expectations while quietly feeling unseen or depleted. Boundaries can feel difficult to hold, saying no brings guilt, and sometimes closeness feels so risky that you pull away just when things are going well.
You are not broken for feeling this way. These patterns developed as ways of staying safe when love and security felt uncertain.
How I can help
Together, we will explore the roots of these patterns and how they continue to shape your relationships today. My work is trauma informed and relational, drawing on attachment focused and experiential approaches, including Coherence Therapy. This helps us understand the emotional learning and protective beliefs that sit beneath repeating cycles, so change can happen through insight rather than force.
Therapy offers space to make sense of your reactions, reduce emotional overwhelm, and build steadier ways of relating to yourself and others.
Through our work you may begin to:
Understand and heal the impact of past experiences
Feel more regulated and less overwhelmed by emotions
Build confidence in setting boundaries and expressing needs
Soften perfectionism and self criticism
Create relationships that feel more mutual, stable and fulfilling
You deserve more than just getting by. You deserve relationships where you feel calmer, more valued and more like yourself.
I offer a free twenty minute consultation so you can decide whether working together feels right for you. You can visit my website to learn more or arrange an initial conversation.
Training, qualifications & experience
- Level 5 Diploma Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Prof Dip Psy C)
- Complex Trauma Certification Training (CCTP Level 1 and 2)
The CCTP Level 1 & 2 certifications provide advanced training in trauma recovery, focusing on how trauma impacts the brain, body, and relationships. Level 1 covers core trauma responses, while Level 2 delves into attachment wounds, and the lasting effects of childhood abuse.
- Introductory and Intermediate Training in Coherence Therapy
- Level 4 Diploma Counselling Skills and Theory (Dip CST)
- Level 3 Diploma Hypnotherapy and Counselling (Dip Hyp CS)
- Trauma Informed Practice
Continuing Professional Development
- Working with Women Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
- Supporting the Children of Divorced Narcissistic Parents
- Understanding and Working with Attachment Styles
- Applying Attachment Theory in Counselling
- Dealing with Relational Trauma
- Gaslighting: Recognition and Recovery for Manipulated and Controlled Clients
- Ultimate CBT Toolkit
- Certificate in Trauma-Informed Practice
- Online and Telephone Counselling
BSc Critical Care
Masters Degree Healthcare Management
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
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The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations. In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
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Fees
£75.00 per session
Further information
I offer both face to face and online sessions in St Albans, Hertfordshire.
