Karen Tottman

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Stanford-Le- Hope SS17 & Grays RM17
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About me

Counselling can be a difficult journey, and once you make the decision to embark on a self-journey of self-discovery, this can improve your quality of life and coping skills, we can work together for you to achieve your best potential, and to find the real you.

I uses my Integrative psychotherapy techniques and approach, as they can be incorporated into almost any type of therapeutic work with children, adolescents, and adults. An integrative approach can be used to treat any number of psychological problems and disorders, including depression, anxiety, as well as any life crisis you maybe experiencing. I adapt evidence-based treatments to each client and each disorder, and provide all clients with a safe space to explore the challenges that you maybe facing within your life.

I am an Integrative Counsellor, and I have over 20 years of experience working supporting individuals struggling within their lives, and facing a difficult life crisis. I have worked with individuals, couples and families, children, young people and adults up to any age for over 16 years now as a counsellor.

I completed my placement hours at St Luke's Hospice, as well as volunteering after I qualified for 18 months. I feel I use my skills to help you explore your difficult times to help you understand your situation. I offer support short term or long term counselling,  as I adapt these session to work in the clients best interest. 

My experience and knowledge has grown over the years as I have worked with many different issues such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and confidence building. I have worked with clients struggling with suicidal thoughts, as well as trauma, and difficulties with relationship between couples and families.  I offer therapeutic support and explore choices which will be positive to change how you think, feel, and react to life. I adapt the session accordingly to each individuals needs as every individual reacts differently to obstacles they may face.

Changing your life may come easily, or there can be some hard work or maybe it will be somewhere in between!  I work with both individuals and couples, and families with compassion to help you to enhance your life and to live it more fully.

"There are times we all need a bit of extra support and help with life's difficulties."

If you feel anxious or low, are you suffering from depression, mild, moderate, to manic depression, feeling confused or overwhelmed with relationship issues, troubles and feelings? you may be struggling with panic attacks and phobias, struggling with self harm related issues. Depending on what you feel your needs might be for example: Life and work stress; relationship difficulties; low mood; bereavement and loss; trauma; anger; anxiety; low self esteem; couples work; personal growth...  are some of the areas which you may bring to therapy, please ask if you are uncertain about whether we will be able to work together with your issue.

I am always saying if I had a Magic Wand, I would wave my Wand and everything would be ok" "Reality, Life can be difficult, and counselling can help each and every individual person"

Reality is Life can be difficult at time and Counselling can help? Yes, talking therapy helps having a safe space to explore through one's problems as this starts a journey together to find your solutions to gain a better understanding of yourself and find a way forward.

My belief is that our mental health is a paramount of importance, it is also true that having therapy could improve one's lives.

Sometimes we are not doing so well, then my role as a counsellor, would be to support you through those difficult times, and create a better life moving forward.

I am an integrative counsellor, and use different elements from the different schools of psychotherapy.  I believe it is most important that I offer you a warm-safe environment where you can share your feelings. Whether this is due to feeling lost and alone or just want a helping hand to find your way. Life can be a struggle and maybe you need help with: bereavement, relationship difficulties, divorce, depression, stress, work related stress, eating disorders , domestic abuse, anger. any issue please call 07428911002 for any further information, or book a consultation. Just take the first step and give me a call, as let talk about what is working well in your life? What's not working so well? What can you do differently to make small changes within your life.

Counselling can benefit self-awareness and can give an individual the ability to think and feel with their emotions. Working together we can help gain a better understanding of your thoughts and feelings processes, and find your own solutions to problems within your life. Counselling can certainly help find your own solutions to your problems. We could certainly explore why things are happening in your life, but I don't give advice we explore your options and it will then give you a clearly understanding of your self, therefore you can have the opportunity then to change what you need to and have a clearer mind.

I am committed to my professional development and attend different training sessions to enhance my work as a counsellor. I am also a member of the British Association Of Counselling and Psychotherapy and abide by it's Ethical Framework (BACP).


Low-self esteem

Life coaching


Mental Health - Understanding Mental Health Stress/Anxiety/Phobias/Depression/Post-Natal Depression/Bipolar Disorder/Schizophrenia/Dementia/Eating Disorders/ADHD Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder/OCD Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder/Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD Anger Management Programme

Please contact me as that is the first step in arranging support within your life, to find solutions to gain a better insight within your life.  Karen on 07428911002, or if you prefer email me your enquiry. ktottman@btinternet.com I would be more than happy to check my diary for availability to suit us both so we can have an informal discussion around your needs for therapy.

My Information:

I am an Integrative therapist and I work from the forms of psychotherapy and this combines different therapeutic tools which adapts to fit the needs of the individual client. By joining foundations drawn from different schools of psychological theory and research. Integrative therapy becomes a more flexible and inclusive method to treatment. As singular forms of psychotherapy, as this is adapted to the clients’ needs, and an individual plan created for every client’s individual needs.

· Experience in Anger Management, CBT and PTSD: Collective treatments for PTSD include talk therapy or cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). These therapy models aim to pacify survivors by talking and expressing feelings about the traumatic event. Nevertheless, people experience PTSD through memory, emotion, and the body.

· Cognitive (CBT) therapy works with the aims to change negative patterns or beliefs that people have lived with for a long time. Exploring the longstanding patterns or themes psychodynamic therapy would explore early in one’s life as well as throughout life to adulthood. This therapy is adapted and broken down so that the client understands and identifies patterns within their life, therefore they can reinforce positive thinking for them to make different choices to empower them to have a more balanced life choice.

· Cognitive (CBT) therapy, is most often suggested for less impaired children and young adults, as it helps with concerns common with autism, such as being overly fearful, as well as anxious, nervousness.

· Cognitive (CBT) therapy, is most often suggested for less impaired children and young adults, as it helps with concerns common with autism, such as being overly fearful, as well as anxious, nervousness.

· Psychodynamic therapy helps" Clients would have long-term therapy, and they would identify and overcome unconscious ways is which they avoid distressing thoughts and feelings. This therapy if effective for a wide range of mental health symptoms', as well as working with anxiety stress-related physical conditions.

Long-term therapy creates a safe place to talk, and build a trust between therapist and their client. Moving forward to identify their behaviours, which then empowers them to implement changes within their life.

Within my client base is wide ranging. As I have extensive experience working with individuals struggling with anger issues, as well as severe anxiety, unhappiness, depression, panic attacks, bereavement, work related and personal stress, as well as general life. Additional experience within working with clients with anger problems and difficulties relating to trauma/PTSD. I offer counselling to children, young people, adults, couples and families, face to face, as well as on-line.

I uses my Integrative psychotherapy techniques as they can be incorporated into almost any type of therapeutic work with children, adolescents, and adults. An integrative approach can be used to treat any number of psychological problems and disorders, including depression, anxiety, as well as any personality disorders. I adapt evidence-based treatments to each client and each disorder.

Any further information needed then please contact me, as more than happy to arrange a free telephone enquiry, where you can have a time that would be suitable for both of us, to explore the reasons you would require counselling. 

Kindest Regards

Karen Tottman-Napier MBACPdip 


Training, qualifications & experience

  • On-Line 80 Hours training
  • Mental Health - Understanding Mental Health Stress/Anxiety/Phobias/Depression/Post-Natal Depression/Bipolar Disorder/Schizophrenia/Dementia/Eating Disorders/ADHD Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder/OCD Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder/Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD Anger Management Programme
  • Mental Health
  • Anger Management Programme
  • Palliative Care
  • Safeguarding Children
  • Safeguarding Adults
  • Transactional Analysis & Inner Child Training.
  • Couples Therapy Training
  • Life Story Work Shop
  • Traumatic Loss & Suicide and its Affects
  • What is Play Therapy Workshop
  • Mindfulness for Healthy Living Workshop
    BACP Certificate of Proficiency
    Hypnotherapy Training
    Pods Trauma, Dissociation Disorder & Recovery
  • Working with Shame and Compulsively
    Attachment Focused Counselling Training 2014
    Barnardo's Adoption Service Certificate Approved Counsellor with Barnardo's Adoption Agency
    Certificate of Attendance Safeguarding Children Foundation
    Certificate of Attendance Adoption Counselling Workshop
    Certificate of Proficiency of British Association of Counselling Practitioners
    Introduction to couple work training programme.
  • CPCAB Counselling and Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
    Certificate in Counselling Studies
    Certificate in Counselling Skills
    Play Therapy Training (3 Day Course)
    Working with Loss and Grief
    Supporting Substance Misuse Clients Awareness Training
    Equality and Diversity Training (20 Hours)
    Enhanced Certificate CRB 25th/02nd/2013
    Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Training 23rd/01st/2013
    Child Protection Training 2011
    Go Girls Multi-Agency Training 8th/03rd/2011
    Safeguarding Children Training 2010
    OCR Level 3 NVQ Teaching Assistants
    Level 2 Stop Smoking Training
    Brief Interventions Stop Smoking Training 1st/04th/2011
    Thurrock c-card Outlet Training 2010
    Sexual Health Awareness Foundation Training (SHAFT) 2010
    Delay Multi-Agency Training 26th/10th/2010
    Introduction to the Study of Psychology 2005

Member organisations

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Personal Statement

I worked for Open Door from April 2010 until June 2019; working with young people is the focal point of our role. We attend a variety of settings including primary schools, secondary schools, and a special needs school. All settings are in Thurrock and we deal with children and families from a range of backgrounds and ethnicities. Working with each age group has given me vast experience in assessing the therapeutic needs of the client; then designing a counselling programme in order to target the specific issues that particular child is facing, in a way that is suitable for their age or educational needs.

Within my job role working for Open Door I regularly attend child protection training to up date my knowledge on safeguarding children and working with vulnerable adults. This is important for me because confidentiality is a key part of the role of a counsellor; particularly when counselling children as confidentially cannot be promised.

I attend regularly group supervision and also have one to one supervision following the requirement of BACP guidelines as a counsellor. I regularly attend team meetings to review clients and explore positive outcomes, this is to evaluate the importance of our service and to share ideas on how to allow a child to progress.

Throughout my counselling qualification grief counselling played a huge part of my training. I actually completed my placement hours with Dove community counselling service in 2009. After I qualified I completed voluntary hours for a further year. I have a very good understanding of the grief cycle stages, and following my clients journey through the shock stage by addressing the person who has died as lost, following this could possibly lead to the denial stage where they are not ready to accept their family member has died. The anger and guilt stage explore their blame, and they question why is this happening to me. None of these stages from my experience are set in stone each individual has their own experience following each stage. Throughout each stage it is essential to assess and adapt the sessions according to the child’s age and what stage of the grief cycle they are at. Working in a secondary school I would work on memory books, timelines, and exercises I call “My world” exploring with post-its and this allows me to gain targeted personal information, which I would then assess and use to move forward.

I am an approved adoption counsellor and work for Barnardo’s alongside families struggling with different issues surrounding Adoption/Fractured Attachment.

Working with young people and their families around their attachment issues, working alongside families to repair/understand and move forward within their lives.


£75.00 - £150.00
Free initial telephone or online session

Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Keyworkers
  • OAPs
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Additional information

Fees: Please note that my fees are sliding scale, and my prices vary between the different rooms, also day to evening sessions.

Payment plans can be arranged, therefore please let me know as we can make cost arrangements to suit your budget.

First sessions are a one-off fee of £90.00 pounds, for up to 60 minutes. (Initial Consultation for individuals, although couples/Families are a one-off fee of £150.00 pounds, and following individual appointments are £75.00 for 50-minute appointments. Couples/families counselling would be at a cost of £120.00 pounds for 60-minute appointments, although I could arrange 90 minutes for £150.00 pounds. Home visit can be arranged at a cost of £150.00 pounds for 60 minutes, 90 minutes at a cost £175. All fees are payable in advance to confirm your appointments for the following week. If you are unable to keep your appointment half fees are payable once an appointment has been booked. Full fees are payable less than 7 days' notice.

Fees: My fees are sliding scale, depending on your circumstances, which can be discussed at your Initial Consultation. (Please discuss Fees and how much you feel you can afford)

My Evenings Fees:

Fees: One-to-ones would be at a cost of £75.00 pounds for 50 minutes, as well at £150.00 pounds for 90 minutes.

Fee: £75.00 Pound: If you block book six sessions of counselling face to face, the cost would be£450.00 (Small discount of £75.00) cost would then be £375.00 small saving for booking in advance.

8:00pm evening sessions for Individuals are at a cost of £75.00 pounds for 60 minutes, Couples/Relationship Counselling would be at a cost of £90.00/£120.00/£150.00 pounds for 60/90 minutes.

Reduced fees for students can be discussed at an Initial Consultation.

Students: Please note that I can offer a payment plan for students, although all session are to be paid for in advance.

An Initial Consultation would be at a cost of £90.00 pounds. Then For example 12 sessions of students counselling fees £500.00 Reduced fees (saving £40) Please note that student fees are already offer at a reduce fee. Students' fees £45.00 per session All fees paid in advance to secure reduced fees. You can break the payment down into four payments of £125.00 pounds.

Payments in advance: Book 6 sessions of 1--1 individual counselling for £375.00 pounds. (Saving £75.00) Any session that are rearranged will accrue an additional charge.

Payments in advance for Couples: Book 6 sessions for £450.00. (Saving £90.00)

(60 Minutes)

Payments in advance for Couples: Book 6 sessions for £600.00 pounds. (60 Minutes)

(Saving £120.00)

Payments in advance for home visits: Book 6 sessions of home visits £120.00 for 60 minutes £600.00 (Saving £120.00 Pounds)

Payments in advance for Home Visits: Book 6 sessions of home visits at a cost of £150.00 for 90 minutes £750.00 (Saving £150.00)

Payments in advance for groups: Please note that my groups are on hold at the moment. My groups were held on a Thursday evening, and they started at 6:30pm and run until 8:00pm. Initial consultations to join a group would be at a cost of £50.00 pounds then the cost of the Eight group weekly sessions would be at a cost of £400:00 All Groups on hold at the moment.

Corringham Room Only

Thurrock Christian Fellowship

2-4 Chase Road


Stanford Le Hope

SS17 7QH

I offer telephone counselling and Zoom counselling at a cost of £60.00 pounds for up to 60 Minutes. (If you book six sessions £300.00 a small saving of £60.00 pounds)

Please contact me if you would like to know any more about the above. Please contact me on 07428911002. Or email.me ktottman@btinternet.com

When I work

Flexible Please contact me and we can go through all my availability together.

Further information

Experience of working with 1-1 clients with different issues, also relationship counselling between couples and family members. Eating disorders, also mild moderate and severe depression. Post traumatic stress disorders known as PTSD. Grief counselling pre and post bereavement counselling, as creates a safe space to explore difficult times within our lives..

My list of experience grows over the years:

• Mental Health Stress-Anxiety-Phobias-Depression-Post-Natal Depression-Bipolar Disorder-Schizophrenia-Dementia-Eating Disorders-ADHD Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder-OCD Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder- PTSD-Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder/Anger management Programme

• Anxiety (e.g. social anxiety and general anxiety)

• Trauma
• Sexually Compulsive Behaviour
• Substance Misuse
• Addictive Behaviour
• Stress
• Relationship difficulties
• Panic Disorder
• Panic Attacks
• Anger difficulties
• Bipolar
• Phobias
• Personality Disorder
• Pain Management/and dealing with an illness
• Depression

Lack of self-esteem as well as difficulties within ones life.

I worked for Open Door as part of their youth intervention team for 10 years, along side St Lukes Hospice. I left Open Door in June 2019. I am currently still working for St Lukes Hospice, as well as private practice.

My main job role included one to one counselling supporting young people in schools in Thurrock. I also by planning and executing workshops dealing with issues of bullying, low self esteem. friendship and bereavement workshops.

I joined St Luke's to complete my counselling diploma, although after I qualified I volunteered for St Luke's for a further year to gain experience in working with clients, that had bereavement issues with family members of patients at the hospice. These clients were battling with cancer themselves, or a family member and they worked through this difficult time to overcome issues they are faced with one to one counselling support. 
As of November 2013 I started as  seasonal counsellor for Luke's Counselling  where I work one to one with my clients with bereavement related issues.

Since July 2019 I joined St Luke's' team on a permanent basis, bringing all my knowledge and experience that I have gained over the last 15 years.

Some of the different examples of the kind of issues my clients have brought to my counselling sessions were clients with Low self esteem, Trauma, Anxiety, Relationship difficulties, including family relationships, also  Depression, and Anger Management. Grief cycle and unresolved grief, Anger problems related with alcohol and drugs, Fear and domestic violence, Rape and guilt and shame also many other issues.

Counselling can offer you warm safe environment where you can share your feelings. Whether this is due to feeling lost and alone or just want a helping hand to find your way, counselling will help you to explore difficult times in your life, and help you have a better understanding and develop confidence which enhances positive change for a more fulfilling happier life, because feelings are what makes us express our selves as humans. My counselling sessions will connect thoughts and feelings, and together work through why negative experience can drain and effect us in life, and to find solutions together. Emotions can be very powerful, and create sadness within life. Together with not feeling positive, and to work through theses thoughts and feelings are important to restore the balance in life. Counselling can be a journey and to work through negative feelings to feel complete, be positive and enjoy a happier life.

What my clients say:

Dear Karen

I wish to say thank you for helping my son when his need was great.

My son hit a low point in his life and was in need of therapy, my friend recommended your services and from there on you helped him rebuild and find himself once again.

Even though you were very busy with clients you managed to accommodate him and for that I will be forever grateful.

I will be recommending your service to others.

Thank you and take care


P.s. I give permission for this to be shared on the sites that you advertise on.

Karen has been seeing me for over three years now, as I have some good days and some days that my therapy helps me get through and gives me an understanding of my overwhelming thoughts and feelings. Karen has helped me to explore my past history, also linking how my past has effected my life especially within my personal relationships. As I had been through difficult times especially throughout my divorce I felt supported and heard.


I give Karen permission for this to be shared on the sites that she advertiser's on

Thurrock Christian Fellowship, 2-4 Chase Road, Corringham, Stanford-Le- Hope, Essex, SS17 7QH

Grays, Complementary Clinic Ltd, 2 Cromwell Road, Grays, Essex, RM17 5HF

Type of session

In person
Home visits

Types of client

Children (0-12)
Young people (13-17)
Young adults (18-24)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)
Employee Assistance Programme

Key details

I can also offer sessions in Corringham, Grays, as well as Upminster. Therefore please contact me so we can talk about your needs for therapy, any questions please ask and I would check my diary for my availability to arrange this for you.


In person

I am currently looking to take on a couple of supervisee: I  offer supervision as my practice covers Corringham, Grays as well as on-line for Upminster Clients.

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Karen Tottman
Karen Tottman