Janine Eden-Riley MSc, Dip Counc, Cert ED, EMDR
Counselling offers the client a safe, trusting and confidential space in which they can bring their concerns and fears and gain greater understanding. The insights gained then bring new possibilities for addressing life and moving forward in a helpful way. It can help us achieve our potential and live using more of our capacity so we feel more whole, integrated and present.
My upbringing, and some of my adult life, was very challenging and I came into counselling to help me find my own path to healing but also because my experiences had forged a deep empathy and caring for people. I instinctively knew that people can make choices that will support their lives, and make them fulfilling, and how an effective counselling relationship can be key in the process of life.
I am passionate about working with people and supporting my clients to live their lives, address their hurts, find fulfilment and experience joy.
This is what one of my clients wrote about me:
If you are ready to 'cut to the chase' and deal with the real issues Janine is the woman you need.
Be prepared for straight talking in a confidential space - filled with skilful insights, professionalism, fantastic listening, feedback, challenge and a lot of laughter.... afterwards you'll be different..... and be well on the way to your new better way forward... that's how it was for me!
When I read that feedback I wonder how people will feel about the words challenge, laughter and being different. In our most difficult times laughter can seem incomprehensible, challenge too scary, and being different too threatening. Often people want counselling so that they can hold on to what they have, not make it different. The difference could be just feeling more able to be in your own life, without feeling pressured and stressed.
The counselling relationship holds within it all the aspects of our lives, the tears, the laughter, the love and the pain and that is why it helps us to deal with our world, by learning in a safe space, helping us to experience our lives through new eyes.
What is Counselling?
Counselling is a process of building a trusting relationship where you can bring your concerns, fears and issues, to a confidential space. It's a place where you can be heard, and hear yourself, and really seek understanding, support and insight. Different clients want different outcomes, which can be clarified within the session, however put simply I like my clients to feel that their lives progress, get better, more fulfilling and that they feel more resourced to lead their lives.
How can counselling help?
Counselling helps by giving you a safe place to really be able to talk. Often in our lives we can feel defensive and frightened to say all of what we want to say because of potential consequences.
Counselling gives you a space to say and be how you feel, which allows you to really see all the aspects that contribute to a situation.
The relationship with the counsellor is critical, so it’s good to find someone who really fits with what you need. Trust and authenticity are key skills for a counsellor, because often people don't always know what to think and feel. Working with someone who is honest, experienced and knowledgeable can help you to work out what is right for you. It also gives you a space to share your feelings, understand yourself and those around you more clearly.
Ultimately counselling can help you go back into your life and be in it more confidently and clearly, and more able to achieve your goals.
I have a particular interest in:
- Couples counselling.
- Relationship issues and breakdown.
- Family issues.
- Living in a step family, building positive relationships.Career issues.
- Career counselling/issues.
- Self-esteem and confidence issues.
- Childhood issues.
- Health related issues such as stress, depression, ME, chronic fatigue, and fibromyalgia.
- Raising children with Asperger’s syndrome, autism, ADHD.
- Working with young people, helping them to make sense of an increasingly demanding world and fully achieve their potential.
- Feelings of worthlessness, or life being pointless.
- Help and support in gaining direction and achieving your potential.
- Weight loss.
- Loss and grief.
Special Interest in Trauma
Trauma is of special interest to me. Often trauma goes unidentified or is treated in a way that is not appropriate. It is important to understand what trauma is, and why it should be treated in a certain way.
You can suffer from trauma for many reasons but let me put it simply by breaking it into two types of trauma:
Big T trauma - this is when you have a life threatening situation for example, like a car crash or witnessed a life threatening incident. Its a big even and you are left with symptoms such as feeling constantly on edge, anxious, not able to sleep, have flashback or recurrent nightmares.
Little T trauma - this is trauma that could develop through childhood experiences, attachment issues, bullying at school etc.
The big T, little T has nothing to do with how serious either is perceived. Its just a way of saying you can have trauma for many different reasons and it can lead to anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, under achieving at work, weight gain or loss, difficulty in relationships and many other consequences.
Trauma is stored in your body and mind in a specific way and often talking therapy can make it worse rather that make it better. For this reason I am trained in a process called Eye movement desensitisation reprocessing (EMDR for short). It is a very kind gentle process and it isn't a talking therapy, which people who are traumatised often appreciate. It also works quickly which is another huge benefit. If you recognise the potential that you have suffered from trauma, or post traumatic stress disorder, then do get in touch. Please also consider that people often don't know they are suffering from trauma, all they know is that they don't feel right, and don't know how to feel better. If this sounds familiar come and see me. It's my job to know what is going on, and to support you to feel better.
Training, qualifications & experience
BACP accredited Diploma in Humanistic Counselling gained at Lewisham College.
Master’s Degree is Change Agent Skills from The Human Potential Research Group at Surrey University.
Cert Ed in Person Centred Learning – Greenwich University.
Diploma in Trauma Therapy
Advanced Diploma in Couples Therapy
Crucible Training with David Schnarch
Phase One and Phase Two Certification in Human Element Theory.
Diploma in Human Element Theory
John Bradshaw's - Inner Child Therapy Training
Certified Myers Briggs Step One and Two Qualified.
Talent Dynamics Practitioner
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
£100 per hour - my approach is based on the principles of a trauma approach, which means it works quickly and sustainably. This is reflected in my fees.
I work in Old Oxted which has excellent links to the A25, A22 and the M25 (junction 6) all of which are within minutes of the office. There is parking available.
Oxted station is a 10 minute walk from the office.
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Types of client