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Therapy offers the client a safe, trusting and confidential space in which they can bring their concerns and fears and gain greater understanding. The insights gained bring new possibilities for addressing life and moving forward helpfully. Therapy can help us achieve our potential and live using more of our capacity, so we feel whole, integrated and present.
My upbringing, and some of my adult life, was very challenging, and I came into therapy to help me find my path to healing because my experiences had forged a deep empathy and care for people. I instinctively knew that people could make choices that will support their lives and make them fulfilling and how an effective therapy relationship can be critical in the process of life.
I am passionate about working with people and supporting my clients to live their lives, address their hurts, find fulfilment and experience joy.
What one of my clients wrote about me:
If you are ready to 'cut to the chase and deal with the real issues, Janine is the woman you need.
Be prepared for straight talking in a confidential space - filled with skilful insights, professionalism, fantastic listening, feedback, challenge and a lot of laughter.... afterwards you'll be different..... and be well on the way to your new, better way forward... that's how it was for me!'
When I read that feedback, I wonder how people will feel about the words challenge, laughter and being different. In our most difficult times, laughter can seem incomprehensible, challenge too scary, and being different too threatening. Often people want therapy to hold on to what they have, not make it different. The difference could be just feeling more able to be in your own life without feeling pressured and stressed.
The Therapy relationship holds within it all the aspects of our lives, the tears, the laughter, the love and the pain, and that is why it helps us to deal with our world by learning in a safe space, allowing us to experience our lives through new eyes.
What is Therapy?
Therapy is a process of building a trusting relationship where you can bring your concerns, fears and issues to a confidential space. It's a place where you can be heard, hear yourself, and seek understanding, support and insight. Different clients want different outcomes, which can be clarified within the session. However, put simply, I like my clients to feel that their lives progress, get better, become more fulfilling and that they feel more resourced to lead their lives.
How can therapy help?
Therapy helps by giving you a safe place to be able to talk. Often in our lives, we can feel defensive and frightened to say all of what we want to say because of potential consequences.
Therapy gives you a space to say and be how you feel, which allows you to see all the aspects that contribute to a situation.
The relationship with the therapist is critical, so finding someone who fits what you need is good. Trust and authenticity are vital skills for a therapist because often, people don't always know what to think and feel. Working with someone honest, experienced and knowledgeable can help you determine what is right for you. It also gives you a space to share your feelings and understand yourself and those around you more clearly.
Ultimately therapy can help you go back into your life and be in it more confidently and clearly, and more able to achieve your goals.
I have a particular interest in:
Relationship issues and breakdown.
Living in a stepfamily, building positive relationships.
Self-esteem and confidence issues.
Health-related issues including stress, depression, ME, chronic fatigue, and fibromyalgia.
Raising children with Asperger's syndrome, autism, ADHD.
Working with young people, helping them to make sense of an increasingly demanding world and fully achieve their potential.
Feelings of worthlessness or life being pointless.
Help and support in gaining direction and achieving your potential.
Loss and grief.
Special Interest in Trauma
Trauma is of particular interest to me. Often trauma goes unidentified or is treated in a way that is not appropriate. Understanding what trauma is and why it should be treated in a certain way is essential.
You can suffer from trauma for many reasons but let me put it simply by breaking it into two types of trauma:
Big T trauma - this is when you have a life-threatening situation, for example, a car crash or witnessing a life-threatening incident. It's a big event, and you are left with symptoms such as constantly feeling on edge, anxious, being unable to sleep, and having flashbacks or recurrent nightmares.
Little T trauma - this is trauma that could develop through childhood experiences, attachment issues, bullying at school etc.
The big T and little T have nothing to do with how serious either is perceived. It's just a way of saying you can have trauma for many different reasons. It can lead to anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, underachieving at work, weight gain or loss, difficulty in relationships and many other consequences.
Trauma is stored in your body and mind in a specific way, and often talking therapy can make it worse rather than better. For this reason, I am trained in a process called Eye movement desensitisation reprocessing (EMDR for short). It is a very kind, gentle process and isn't a talking therapy, which traumatised people often appreciate. It also works quickly, which is another huge benefit. If you recognise the potential that you have suffered from trauma or post-traumatic stress disorder, then do get in touch. Please also consider that people often don't know they are suffering from trauma. All they know is that they don't feel right and don't know how to feel better. If this sounds familiar, come and see me. It's my job to know what is going on and to support you to feel better.
Training, qualifications & experience
Master's Degree, Change Agent Skills and Strategies (The Human Potential Research Group at Surrey University).
BACP accredited Diploma in Humanistic and Transpersonal Therapy.
EMDR practitioner (Emdria Approved)
Cert Ed (Person Centred Learning)
Diploma, Trauma Therapy
Diploma, Human Element Theory
Advanced Diploma, Couples Therapy
David Schnarch - Marital Therapy/Crucible Training
Phase One and Phase Two Certification - Human Element Theory.
John Bradshaw's - Inner Child Therapy Training
Certified Myers Briggs Step One and Two Qualified.
Talent Dynamics Practitioner
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).
Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.
Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.
All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Areas of counselling I deal with
£150.00 per session
£150 plus VAT per hour - my approach is based on the principles of a trauma approach, which means it works quickly and sustainably. This is reflected in my fees.
I work in Old Oxted which has excellent links to the A25, A22 and the M25 (junction 6) all of which are within minutes of the office. There is parking available.
Oxted station is a 10 minute walk from the office.