This professional is available for new clients.
This professional is available for new clients.
About me
Are you feeling hopeless? Stuck? Fearful? Uncomfortable in your skin or in your relationships? We all know that pain in life is unavoidable, but I'd love to help you carry that burden while we work towards creating the life that you dream about.
There is no "magic wand" that works for everyone so my goal is to work with you to find what works for you specifically. I do not believe in long-term therapy. It is my job as a therapist to teach you to become your own internal therapist so that what we work on together in therapy you can apply to any and every problem, in your life.
If you're not sure where to start, or just not sure about therapy in general, please reach out! I am happy to talk to you for a free consultation and make sure you find the right fit. Ready to schedule a session? Send me a text or an email and let's get started!
I believe that no single approach is better than another and the therapies I use depend on the person I work with and the type of issues being experienced.
I have a wide range of experience in Domestic Abuse, Narcissistic Abuse, Trauma and Relationship Issues. I have also worked extensively within the NHS and private practice for over two decades, with clients that suffer from stress, trauma bonds, PTSD/ Complex PTSD, Anxiety, Depression, Body Dysmorphia, Suicide and Self-harm.
Training, qualifications & experience
- BACP Accredited: 174133
- EMDR Consultant / EMDR UK & Ireland Registration number: 286978
- BPS Membership number: 453832
- University of East London | 2000 – 2004
- BSc (Hons) Psychosocial Studies
Victoria Counselling, Psychotherapy & Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Training | 2002 -2007
- Intermediate Counselling Skills AQA
- Transactional Analysis Inner Child Work
- Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
- Advanced Diploma in Counselling (CBT) AQA
- Practitioners Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
- Diploma in Supervision
- Certificate in Drugs & Alcohol Counselling
- Working Systemically with family violence
University of East London | 2000 – 2004
- BSc (Hons) Psychosocial Studies
J.M Creative Therapy | 2005- 2007
- Creative Therapy Level 1 Diploma
- Creative Therapy Level 2 Advanced Diploma
- Creative Supervision Diploma
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
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BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
Fees
£80.00 - £120.00
Health Insurance/EAP
Further information
Let’s focus on Narcissistic Abuse as it’s possibly the most common type of abuse I am seeing in my practice. . Anyone can be a victim of narcissistic abuse from a partner, parent, friend, work colleague or family member. The abuse they inflict on their victims can be emotional, physical, financial and/or sexual.
From the moment someone meets a narcissist, especially in a romantic form, the abuse starts – this is the love bombing stage. This stage is where the narcissist grooms their victim into making them believe they have met their soulmate by portraying themselves as everything the victim has ever wanted, using techniques such as mirroring and future faking.
Once the narcissist sees the victim falling for their fake charm and manipulation, they start to push the victim’s boundaries to see how much they can get away with and how easy it’s going to be to manipulate and control them. Over time, the mask slips, and the victim starts to see their true identity which is nothing like who they first met. The person the victim fell in love with was a ghost which is why it’s so hard to break away from a narcissist as a trauma bond had been formed. This is where the victim has become so dependent on the narcissist to give them the love and affection which they see little and little of as time goes by. But, they can’t imagine their life without them.
The narcissist often isolates their victims from family and family as it makes it easier for them to abuse their victims without outsiders’ interference. As time goes by the victim starts to lose their identity as gaslighting is one of the most common techniques a narcissist uses to make the victim feel they are losing their mind and everything that goes wrong is their fault.
It’s very common for the victim to go into the trauma response ‘fawn’ and can very often develop complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Experiencing narcissistic abuse can be deadly with many victims turning to self-harm, substance abuse or an eating disorder to try and cope with the horrific abuse they are enduring every day. It takes on average seven attempts of leaving a narcissist as the partner uses clever tactics to hoover their victim back in by making empty promises and pleading for forgiveness. The reason for this is that the narcissist hasn’t finished abusing their victim and it’s their worst nightmare is to be discarded first; they normally need another supply/victim ready before they discard the one they are with.
Validating your story is extremely important in therapy, and ensuring you’re believed.
A narcissist often uses smear campaigns to manipulate others around them to make them believe the victim is actually the abuser and everyone should feel sorry for them. This is also a very damaging part of the abuse to a victim and it makes them feel everyone is against them and feel more isolated. The narcissist will feel no remorse or guilt as they have very little to no empathy. They feel very entitled and display a very God-like persona. They lie continually and will do anything to get their own way.
