Hilary Sanders

I trained with London Marriage Guidance 20 years ago, completing a 3 year diploma in Couple Counselling and a one year Foundation course in Psychosexual Counselling with The Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships and have worked in a variety of settings since. For the last 17 years I have worked in private practice and was affiliated to Relate for ten years. I continue to undertake professional training and meet regularly with other therapists to deepen our practice and exchange ideas. I feel well equipped to meet the person or couple who enters the room and help them identify their specific needs and work towards a new and enhanced understanding.

I help the client(s) to re-evaluate their ingrained personal narratives and beliefs about themselves and understand the effect that these may be having on current behaviour and thinking. Often in life we get stuck in repetitive patterns which can lead to low self esteem, depression, irritability and circular thinking and arguments. The origins of these mental and emotional cul-de-sacs need to be tracked and understood before they can be left behind. Much of the process is about becoming more conscious of the unconscious patterns and responses and so enabling different choices in reacting to people and situations and emotions. The more we understand and know ourselves, with compassion, the less we are encumbered by old survival strategies, once useful but now not so helpful and then we can experience life and relationships differently and more productively. The work can enable a more reflective response rather than a reactive one, which can change the way couples interact and the resulting atmosphere. For individuals the experience can change current relationships with all those encountered and enhance a sense of fulfilment in the self and acceptance, without a continual search for the elusive magic bullet. I don't have any magic bullets but I do believe that inhabiting oneself more fully and compassionately is more effective and lasting and brings about real change.

£85.00 per session

I offer early morning, daytime and evening appointments.