Dr Helen Lewis

Relationships are at the heart of who we are; whether those are the relationships with our partners, our past, or ourselves. The way we connect, communicate, and respond to others, and ourselves, is shaped by early experiences, deep-seated patterns, and emotional wounds that we may not even realise are there. Sometimes, despite our best efforts, we find ourselves stuck; repeating the same arguments, struggling with emotional intimacy, or carrying the impact of past trauma that still shapes the present.

Perhaps you and your partner are caught in a cycle of conflict or emotional distance, struggling to communicate or repair after trust has been broken. Maybe the same arguments keep happening, no matter how much you try to fix things. Or maybe you’re carrying the weight of past trauma; memories or experiences that won’t seem to let go, leaving you feeling anxious, stuck, or emotionally shut down.

As a Clinical Psychologist, I specialise in helping couples and individuals make sense of these struggles and move towards a more secure, fulfilling way of relating to themselves and others. My approach is warm, compassionate, and evidence-based, drawing on a range of therapies that I have trained in to an advanced level:

• Schema Therapy – As a Certified Schema Therapist, I work with individuals who feel trapped in long-standing emotional and relational patterns. These patterns, often formed early in life, can lead to self-criticism, people-pleasing, emotional avoidance, or a deep fear of rejection or abandonment. Schema Therapy helps uncover these ingrained beliefs and behaviours, offering a structured approach to breaking free from old cycles and building healthier ways of thinking, feeling, and connecting with others.
• EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) – As a qualified EMDR therapist, I help individuals process distressing memories and trauma that continue to affect daily life. Whether you’re dealing with PTSD, childhood trauma, or painful relationship experiences, EMDR can reduce the emotional intensity of these memories, shifting deeply held negative beliefs and allowing you to move forward with greater emotional resilience and self-trust.
• Gottman Method Couples Therapy – Relationships can be challenging, especially when communication breaks down or conflict feels never-ending. I have completed Level 2 training in the Gottman Method, a highly structured, research-based approach designed to help couples strengthen their emotional and physical connection, improve communication, and rebuild trust. Whether you’re navigating persistent arguments, emotional distance, or infidelity, this approach provides practical strategies to help you and your partner reconnect in a meaningful way.
• Systemic Psychotherapy – My training in intermediate-level systemic psychotherapy informs my work with couples by looking at the broader relational patterns that shape interactions. Often, struggles in relationships are not just about two people but are influenced by family dynamics, cultural expectations, and past experiences. A systemic approach helps to explore these wider influences, offering new perspectives on long-standing patterns and creating space for change.

Therapy Can Help You Create New Patterns
Therapy isn’t about quick fixes or just managing symptoms. Therapy with me is about understanding yourself at a deeper level, healing from what’s been holding you back, and developing healthier ways of relating to yourself and others.
 
If your relationship is struggling, therapy can help you:

• Repair trust and emotional intimacy, even after hurt or betrayal.
• Navigate conflict in a way that brings you closer, rather than pushing you apart.
• Break out of patterns of emotional withdrawal or criticism that damage connection.
• Feel more secure and valued in your relationship, strengthening your foundation.
• Reconnect and rediscover 

If you’re struggling with past experiences or emotional patterns, therapy can help you:

• Heal from painful experiences so they no longer define your present.
• Let go of self-doubt and deeply held negative beliefs, creating a more confident sense of self.
• Develop more balanced emotional responses, reducing anxiety, guilt, and avoidance.
• Move forward without the weight of past trauma holding you back.

Therapy isn’t always easy, but it can be life-changing. If you’re ready to start, get in touch for a free 15-minute consultation.

Relationship Issues

Attachment Issues

Emotional Disturbance 

Individual therapy fee: £120

Couples therapy fee: £130

I offer face-to-face sessions on Tuesday afternoon/evening, Thursday evening, and Friday morning. Online sessions are available on Monday 11 am–2 pm.