I am offering online (Zoom or Whatsapp) or telephone counselling and psychotherapy until there is greater clarity and safety around meeting for face to face sessions.
I work in the following areas:
- Anxiety, shock, trauma
- Fear and sadness
- Life transitions
- Sexuality, gender diversity & lgbt
- MIndfulness and compassion
I am interested not only in a client's pain and dysfunctional patterns, but also in their inherent wisdom and compassion. I see the task of psychotherapy as helping clients bring awareness and kindness to their own experience and to support them in seeing beyond any limited views of themselves and their life.
I try to help clients find ways of being that are more spontaneous, creative, open-minded and flexible. I would like clients to let go of some fixed ideas about themselves, their relationships, and their lives. I think this helps clients to feel more connected with themselves and others.
As a contemplative therapist, my aspiration is to help clients connect, or reconnect, with their brilliant sanity: their sense of spaciousness and clarity. I invite clients to connect fully with anything that arises from their experience with awareness and openness so that their inner wisdom and emptiness can give rise to a deeper sense of compassion for themselves and others.
Living with anxiety is a natural part of being alive. It is how we respond to anxiety, distress, and emotional difficulty that matters. The approach I work with acknowledges our deep, inherent, natural health, and focuses on what gets in the way of that health. The more we connect to our authentic selves through exploring our inner lives with acceptance and curiosity, the more we are able to work through our emotional difficulties. This brings with it the potential to retrieve what has become lost to us, and notice our new capacity for growth and change. Recognising that pain is simply part of being alive can be a relief. Emotional distress is not a sign that we have done something wrong, stupid or shameful. Pain and suffering are not signs of some personal defect.
'Anguish maintains its power only as long as we allow it to intimidate us. If we try to avoid a powerful wave looming above us on the beach, it will send us crashing into the sand and surf. But if we face it head-on and dive right into it, we discover only water.' - Stephen Batchelor.
I am a BACP Accredited humanistic counsellor, and I am deepening my practice through studying a mindfulness based masters in Core Process Psychotherapy, which combines Buddhist mindfulness techniques with humanistic and psychodynamic approaches. While I draw from some Buddhist approaches, there is no reason why anyone needs to have any Buddhist interest or understanding to find this kind of psychotherapy helpful. I work in the following areas:
- An important loss or life change
- Not maintaining the stories we tell ourselves about our lives
- A need to acknowledge emotional pain and distress
- The direct expression of emotional difficulty
The work is creative and offers us ways of working with our inner lives at depth and connecting to our felt sense of ourselves and our deep imagination, with the potential for change and transformation in both our inner and outer lives. I work compassionately, with non-judgement and empathy at the heart of the work, with the deepest respect for the client's sensitivity and deeply personal material. I abide by both the BACP and UKCP code of ethics, which includes client confidentiality.
Working with a counsellor
The therapeutic relationship can offer you a space to be seen and met at depth, where the therapist can mirror and respond to your inner thoughts and feelings, at a meeting point between what is both conscious and unconscious. The therapeutic relationship also invites you to notice your resistances, defence mechanisms and to ask you to turn towards what you might be avoiding with curiosity.
When we recall painful events, we can do this in relationship to a counsellor in that moment, to bring mindfulness and kindness to ourselves and to ground ourselves in the reality of the non-threatening present. In that way, we can plant 'good seeds' of connection, mindfulness, kindness and awareness.
It is really important that you feel comfortable with a therapist so that you can work in a therapeutically safe environment that can allow a way through so that the emerging self can show up in a way that allows vulnerability without becoming overwhelming for you.
As a client deepens into awareness and stay connected with our distress, there is the potential for change and movement through difficulty.
Counselling and Psychotherapy:
Humanistic Existentialist Counselling
This approach is client led, and asks us to deepen into our felt sense of ourselves, and asks us to enquire into what needs our attention. Humanistic counselling acknowledges that the client is the expert of where they need to go in counselling, and the counsellor is there to help the client notice and work with their feelings and distress in a way that feels right for the client.
An existentialist approach suggests that there are four main givens in life that can be very helpful in therapy:
- that anxiety is a very natural part of life,
- that we must choose for ourselves how we respond to life's challenges and make meaning out of our existence,
- that death is an ultimate concern for us all,
- that we are all ultimately alone in what we face in life.
Core Process Psychotherapy:
A Core Process approach to health encourages us to stay with our feelings, and to explore our emotional pain and distress. When we stay present with our difficulties, there is the potential to deepen into our inner lives, with acceptance and curiosity.
In staying with what we find difficult, or distressing, we can start to deepen into our being and connect more authentically with our inner truth.
This can feel like a relief, and brings with it a kind of resolution. Core Process Psychotherapy invites us to connect at a deeper level of self, so that we feel more in alignment with our ever unfolding process.
Training, qualifications & experience
2019: BACP Accredited Counsellor/Psychotherapist. Registered Member MBACP (Accred).
2016-2020 - MA in Mindfulness Based Core Process Psychotherapy
2015: MBACP - Member of British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy
2011-2015 - Foundation Degree in Humanistic Existentialist Counselling - Vale and Glamorgan College
2015: Private Practice, Natural Health Clinic
2013: Counsellor - Mind
2011: Counsellor - Cruse Bereavement
I came to practice as a humanistic counsellor and psychotherapist through my own therapeutic journey. Deepening into compassion for ourselves, without judgment or shame, feels to me like the most effective way to allow therapeutic movement and change.
Alongside working as a counsellor and psychotherapist, I also teach part-time in a sixth form college, and have taught in further and higher education for 23 years.
When I'm not reading about growth and development, I enjoy playing the classical guitar, exercising and spending time in nature.
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Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Drug addiction
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic attacks
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Schizotypal personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
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I work on a weekly basis, at the same time each week for an hour's session.
I suggest an initial 8 weeks of therapy with a review at the end of this to see how the therapeutic process is going.
Currently 1 hour sessions are £35, which is a trainee rate. While I am a fully qualified counsellor, accredited by BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy), I am now working towards UKCP (UK Council for Psychotherapy) qualifications.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Some evenings, some day time availability
Types of client