About me
Why do I keep feeling like this?
That is usually the question underneath everything else, and it might have been there for a long time before you finally search for a counsellor. Why do I keep ending up with the same kind of person, even when I could see it coming? Why does the anxiety not go away, even on the days when nothing is actually wrong and there is no good reason to feel like this? Why do I lie awake going over conversations that finished hours ago, checking whether I said the wrong thing, whether someone is quietly annoyed with me, whether I handled it well enough? Why do I feel responsible for everyone else’s mood while somehow never quite attending to my own? Why can I not just let things go?
Most people who find their way to me have already spent a long time trying to solve it themselves. You may have read about anxiety, depression and mental health, about attachment, about why people do what they do. You may understand things clearly and then find yourself doing them again anyway, which is its own particular kind of exhausting. Sometimes a crisis or breakdown brings people here; sometimes it’s the build up of the smaller things.
The reason that gap exists — between knowing something and actually being free of it — is that the things which shape us most do not live in the thinking part of us. They tend to have roots in experiences that happened long before we had language for them, in childhoods where the emotional atmosphere was unpredictable, or where love felt like something that had to be earned and could just as easily be withdrawn, or where a child learned, quietly and without anyone spelling it out, that their needs were too much, that keeping themselves small or useful or undemanding was simply the safest way to be. That runs underneath everything — in who you are drawn to, in how much of yourself you feel safe showing, in the anxiety that sits just below the surface of a life that looks, from the outside, perfectly fine.
You may arrive here with all sorts of things sitting on the surface; anxiety, relationship difficulties, a pattern you cannot seem to break, the particular exhaustion of always being the capable one, a loss, a life that has changed shape and left you unsure of who you are inside it. What tends to be shared is the sense that knowing it is there is no longer enough, and that something needs to shift at a deeper level than thinking about it differently.
That is the work, and the kind of change that shows up gradually in ordinary life rather than arriving as a single moment of clarity. A conversation you found yourself having that you had been avoiding for years. A feeling you noticed and stayed with rather than immediately trying to make it go away. The old reaction beginning, and something in you pausing, and choosing differently. The grip of anxiety loosening.
I work with adults online and face-to-face, with rooms in Deeping St James PE6, accessible from Peterborough, Stamford, Spalding and Bourne, and in Sherwood Nottingham NG5. Sessions from £50, with concessions available.
If you have spent a long time going round in circles with this, this might be where that stops.
If you would like to find out more, you are welcome to get in touch. I offer a free 20-minute introductory call, no obligation, just a relaxed conversation to see whether we might be a good fit.
Training, qualifications & experience
I have over 5 years of experience working with adults across a wide range of concerns, including bereavement and loss, anxiety, trauma, depression, and relationship difficulties. I work with people from many diverse backgrounds, and each person brings their own unique story to the work we do together.
Qualifications
Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills
Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Skills
Level 5 (Edexcel) Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
Level 3 Award in Breathwork Coaching, which I draw on to support clients with stress, anxiety, and emotional regulation.
Training
Bereavement Support Foundation Course
Stress and Trauma Training
Working with Anger and Violence
Working with Clients with Anxiety
Level 2 Safeguarding Children
Level 2 Safeguarding Adults
I am a Member of the National Counselling & Psychotherapy Society (NCPS), and I am fully insured and ICO registered.
Member organisations
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Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
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Fees
£50.00 - £60.00
Concessions offered for
Additional information
Sessions are from £50.00.
There is no fee for the initial short conversation (online or phone).
Please contact me for concessions for counselling students, trainees and low incomes.
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