Fadime Tiskaya

Psychotherapy is an opportunity to build an understanding of the experiences we have had throughout our lives that contributed to the current narratives we hold about ourselves. These narratives not only can get in the way of personal growth and relationships, it can also impact our mental health in various ways and in turn lead to unhelpful patterns of behaviours and a sense of being stuck. I recognise that the struggles of an individual need to be explored within the context of both family and past experiences as well as within the wider societal environment that they are living in. 

I try to create an environment that optimises the chance for clients to feel safe enough to meaningfully explore their experiences, dilemmas and struggles. This approach builds on the existing strengths of individuals through developing better self-reflexivity and recognising patterns of unhealthy behaviours that can become repetitive, with an aim to help them to find new ways of living and relating to others in ways that make sense to them and to develop more autonomy in their life.

I work collaboratively with individuals, couples and families. I believe in being open about my own thinking and sharing my perspectives and expertise as appropriate. I try to do this in a way that encourages a thoughtful dialogue, that is experienced as helpful, leads to fresh insights and perspectives. I am sensitive about managing this respectfully and rely on my authenticity and my deep theoretical knowledge in my practice.

I am an experienced Systemic Psychotherapist offering individual therapy, couples therapy and family therapy. Alongside my private practice I have been working for Tavistock and Portman NHS Foundation as a senior clinician and lecturer for more than ten years.

I have broad range of experience of working with individuals, couples, groups and families from diverse backgrounds, struggling with a wide range of emotional and mental health difficulties, including; anxiety, low mood, depression, trauma, relationship difficulties, attachment issues, grief, gender dysphoria and work-related issues.

I have extensive experience of working with children, young people and adults who are neurodivergent, have a diagnosis of Autism and / or Learning Difficulties, ADHD as well as complex health conditions and other disabilities. I also work closely with families experiencing a wide range of difficulties and interpersonal issues. 

I have a great deal of experience in working with couples, including those who are going through separation or divorce, and I am adept at fostering a supportive and safe environment to help individuals find ways to speak with one another about their differences and difficulties between them. 

​What do I offer

I offer Brief and Long-Term interventions considering what clients want from the process. 

Individual Psychotherapy  

Individuals who see me present with wide range of issues including experiencing anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, relationship difficulties and work-related distresses. Therapy can help to gain a better understanding of the contributing causes to your current state of mind and support a process for you to get to a position where you develop more autonomy in your life and relationships.

​Couples Therapy

Couples who come to me for therapy often seek help when they are no longer able to discuss or resolve issues effectively and behave in a way that push them apart and gradually experience a deep emotional disconnect. 

Others may seek therapy at points of significant changes and transitions in their lives, such as becoming parents, grandparents, having an illness, experiencing a loss or other life events that impacts their relationships and closeness. At other times they seek support at the point of going through separation or divorce. This significant decision can be more complicated, when couples have young children. 

I offer a safe space to explore ways in which couples can work on understanding themselves and each other within their relationship, so they can communicate with each other and rediscover their connection.  

Therapy will also support couples to adjust to the changes in their lives whatever they may be. It can also help with developing new ways of co-parenting during and post separation.

Family Therapy 

Family Therapy offers an opportunity to family members to explore roots to their relationship difficulties; Whether it might be related to individual’s mental health difficulties, the impact of life circumstances such as; health-related issues, loss, disability, transitions, new additions to families, adopted children, blended families, adult children, estrangement etc. 

We work collaboratively towards family member’s developing a better understanding of each other, recognising unhelpful patterns that were formed over the years, in order to resolve conflict, reconciliate, rebuild and strengthen their relationships with an aim to create a supportive and mutually nurturing family environment.

How family therapy can help;

·       Conflicts with adult or adolescent children

·       Issues between couples and in-laws

·       Parents and adult children relationships

·       Mother and adult son/daughter relationships

·       Father and adult daughter/son relationships

·       Adult sibling relationships

·       Helping elderly parents and coping with illness

·       Creating a successful blended family

·       Step-parent relationships

·       Relationships with former spouses

·       Intercultural and interfaith relationships

·       Family cut-offs and estrangements

·       Sharing custody of your child 

·       Collaborative separation divorce

·       Co-parenting

Parent Sessions

Becoming a parent can be a very emotional journey right from the beginning. The changes come with this important life cycle can trigger a lot of emotions for each individual, can impact couple’s relationship and make the family life complicated. 

Individuals’ values and belief can clash when children are parented by two parents, (or more adults), which can lead it to be a more complex task for adults and a confusing situation for children. 

As much as it is seen as one of the most rewarding and wonderful aspect of one’s life, parenting can be a challenging job that can sometimes confront individuals on many levels. 

Parent sessions can offer a safe environment where you can reflect on your parenting; its challenges, dilemmas and/or developing effective ways of parenting and co-parenting with your partner. 

Parent sessions will also support you gaining a better understanding of your children’s needs, emotional difficulties and/ or challenging behaviours, as well as finding ways of supporting them appropriately. 

Connecting with your child in the way you would have always wanted is possible at any point of their lives, whether they are babies, toddler, teenagers, or adults. By exploring your emotional state of mind and the challenges you have dealt with throughout your parenthood, you can reach to an understanding of the aspects that gets / got in the way of you forming a trusting relationship with your child. 

Autism and Neurodiversity

I have extensive experience of working with children, young people and adults who are neurodivergent, have a diagnosis of Autism, ADHD and Learning Difficulties, as well as complex health conditions and other disabilities. I work very closely with parents and / or other family members to help explore the impact of the diagnosis on the family life and individuals.

With individuals who have a diagnosis of Autism or consider themselves as neurodivergent, therapy often helps them to make sense of their identity in the context of their differences and helps them to navigate their life and relationships by building their resilience and learning to communicate their needs effectively.  

With Neurodivergent Couples 

When both or one of the partners have a diagnosis of Autism or describe themselves as neurodivergent, individuals can experience some confusion and frustration in their relationship, the expectations of their loved ones in their relationship can be unclear at times.  It often takes time for each partner to convey their individuality and familiarising themselves with their partners’ unique ways of expressing their thoughts and emotions and actions.   

I can help create a safe space for neurodivergent couples to gain a deeper understanding and appreciation of each other by exploring different perspectives and learning how to create a nourishing and supportive partnership. 

For parents of children with a diagnosis of Autism, the focus often is, helping them to explore the impact of the diagnosis on the family life, individuals as well as their parenting and to help to recognise their child’s individuality and create a capable environment where their children can fulfil their potentials. 

Clinical Supervision and Consultation

I am a qualified Systemic Supervisor and offer clinical supervision and consultations to fellow Systemic Psychotherapists and clinicians from other disciplines and professions. 

I see supervising as an integral part of my clinical practice, as it offers me a unique opportunity to both support colleagues in the field to extend a wider perspective and learn from their distinctive style. I thoroughly enjoy this collaborative process that evokes new ideas concepts for both parties.

Parent Sessions

Becoming a parent can be a very emotional journey right from the beginning. The changes come with this important life cycle can trigger a lot of emotions for each individual, can impact couple’s relationship and make the family life complicated. 

Individuals’ values and beliefs can clash when children are parented by two parents, (or more adults), which can lead it to be a more complex task for adults and a confusing situation for children. 

As much as it is seen as one of the most rewarding and wonderful aspect of one’s life, parenting can be a challenging job that can sometimes confront individuals on many levels. 

Parent sessions can offer a safe environment where you can reflect on your parenting; its challenges, dilemmas and/or developing effective ways of parenting and co-parenting with your partner.

Parent sessions will also support you gaining a better understanding of your children’s needs, emotional difficulties and/ or challenging behaviours, as well as finding ways of supporting them appropriately. 

Connecting with your child in the way you would have always wanted is possible at any point of their lives, whether they are babies, toddler, teenagers, or adults. By exploring your emotional state of mind and the challenges you have dealt with throughout your parenthood, you can reach to an understanding of the aspects that gets / got in the way of you forming a trusting relationship with your child. 

I have a great deal of experience in working with couples, including those who are going through separation or divorce, and am adept at fostering a supportive and safe environment to help individuals find a way to speak with one another about their differences and difficulties.

Autism and Neurodiversity

I have extensive experience of working with children, young people and adults who are neurodivergent, have a diagnosis of Autism, ADHD and Learning Difficulties, as well as complex health conditions and other disabilities. I work very closely with parents and / or other family members to help explore the impact of the diagnosis on the family life and individuals.

With individuals who have a diagnosis of Autism or consider themselves as neurodivergent, therapy often helps them to make sense of their identity in the context of their differences and helps them to navigate their life and relationships by building their resilience and learning to communicate their needs effectively.  

With Neurodivergent Couples 

When both or one of the partners have a diagnosis of Autism or describe themselves as neurodivergent, individuals can experience some confusion and frustration in their relationship, the expectations of their loved ones in their relationship can be unclear at times.  It often takes time for each partner to convey their individuality and familiarising themselves with their partners’ unique ways of expressing their thoughts and emotions and actions.   

I can help create a safe space for neurodivergent couples to gain a deeper understanding and appreciation of each other by exploring different perspectives and learning how to create a nourishing and supportive partnership. 

For parents of children with a diagnosis of Autism, the focus often is, helping them to explore the impact of the diagnosis on the family life, individuals as well as their parenting and to help to recognise their child’s individuality and create a capable environment where their children can fulfil their potentials. 

Fees 

Individual Sessions: £110

Family & Couple Sessions: £165

I provide an initial complimentary 20 minute consultation to explore the reasons behind your interest in seeking therapy. This will be an opportunity to get a sense whether I am the right therapist for your needs.

​I have concession slots available for those on low income, key workers, students and frontline NHS workers. 

Complimentary 20 min online consultation

limited evening and weekend slots are available

Nearest tube: Highgate /Archway - High Barnet

In-person-  Highgate - High Barnet 

Remotely via Zoom etc