Ben Dustin

Helping you find your way to wellbeing and heal your relationships with others and yourself.

If you've been feeling depressed, anxious, sad, down, or stressed for a long time, lacking any enjoyment with nothing to look forward to, life can feel miserable. Additionally, you may not understand why you’ve been feeling this way but know that you just don’t feel like your usual self, and you may be feeling powerless to change how you feel, or hopeless about things getting better. You might want to talk to someone about how you’re feeling but don’t want to burden friends or family, and may feel nervous or apprehensive, or embarrassed about seeking help from a counsellor or therapist.

You may also be suffering due to difficulties within your relationship, and experiencing resentment, confusion, and other difficult and painful emotions. You might be struggling to understand the dynamics and patterns in your relationship, and why you keep arguing with your partner or don't communicate, or why there is no intimacy when there used to be, asking yourself why your relationship is a source of pain and stress rather than love, comfort and joy.  Alternatively you may be aware that you struggle with feelings of low self-worth, confidence or esteem, and are very critical (strong inner critic) of yourself or others. 

I’ll provide you with a space in which you feel safe, and supported to explore, express and understand your thoughts, feelings and behaviour in confidence and without judgment, so that together we can help you find a way through them so that you can feel greater wellbeing and enjoyment, and discover the solutions to the problems and challenges in your life. I provide counselling and psychotherapy for individuals and couples in South West London and online, in order to help people struggling with a range of issues including depression, anxiety, stress, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, feeling sad, and social anxiety.

Choosing the right therapist or counsellor can be a confusing, daunting and overwhelming experience, and it can be hard to know if you will feel safe and comfortable enough with someone to share with them painful and difficult thoughts, feelings and experiences. That’s why I offer a free initial telephone consultation for up to 15 minutes so that you can see whether I might be the right kind of therapist for you. Please contact me via text, telephone or email if you would like to arrange a call with me. I look forward to hearing from you.

How I can help you

I believe that with the right help, everyone can find relief and freedom from their emotional suffering and effect the change they want to see in themselves, their relationships and their life. Which is why I provide the safety, support and understanding for you to work through your struggles and difficulties and heal from your pain and suffering. I’ll work with you to find solutions to the challenges and difficulties in your life and explore new ways of looking at yourself, your relationships, and life in general.

I'll work to find the right approach for you, adapting to your individual needs in order to help you discover what you want to gain from counselling/therapy and indeed life, and how together we can help you achieve that. I believe in the importance of building a strong, supportive and non-judgmental therapy relationship in which you feel safe to share your difficulties with a trusted and experienced professional who is on your side. I also believe in the value of compassion, and place this at the centre of my work to help you find freedom from your suffering through developing a kinder, more nurturing and more helpful and positive relationship with yourself.

I use Transactional Analysis (TA), a form of psychotherapy to help explore feelings, thoughts, behaviours, and relationship patterns in a way similar to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), incorporating mindfulness to facilitate awareness of thoughts and connection with feelings.

Men's issues, older people, couples, relationship and marital difficulties