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Brenda Clowes MBACP COSRT

Buckhurst Hill, Essex, IG9 5DJ 0208 505 8328 0208 505 8328 07943 335954 07943 335954 Registered / Accredited
Buckhurst Hill, Essex, IG9 5DJ

About me

Hello, I’m Brenda and I work with both couples and individuals. Couples Counselling and Sexual Therapy are my main areas of work. I trained with Relate in Marriage Guidance, adding Sex Therapy and Infertility Counselling qualifications.

Deciding to come together is a big first step but if your partner is uncertain or unwilling to come I will see you alone so that you can speak about things from your side of the picture. Often partners soften when they see your commitment.

What sort of problems do couples want help with?

Continuing cycles of argument and a hopeless feeling of being back in the mire again, or family issues such as the adjustment from being a couple to being parents, problems with in-laws, or teenage children, roles and unfairness, etc., blended families, or it could be a crisis like an affair or illness.

Many couples know that they love each other and want to stay together but are struggling to find a way. Some couples have had thoughts of separation but want to leave 'no stone unturned’ and can find comfort in talking about parting and the effects this will have.

Couple counselling is a very practical and acceptable way of solving problems, particularly with communication.

How can I help?

Couples with whom I have worked with tell me they find it is easier to say difficult things when they are with me, to expose the hurts and to discover what are the real concerns and hidden issues behind the trivial triggers, scorekeeping and avoidance which goes on. Help with listening and responding dissolves the defensiveness and builds trust or rebuilds the trust that has taken a hammering. Vulnerability then can be experienced as a blessing and draw you closer.

Talking about sex may have felt taboo or too embarrassing but I find clients open to talking when invited. When you are feeling shame or the piercing pain of betrayal maybe talking to friends or family would feel humiliating (or you fear they will take sides). The isolation can be agonising. I understand and want to make it as easy as possible for you to unburden yourself.

The beauty of counselling is in discovering insights into yourself as well as your partner, and things you may not have known, as well as rediscovering the things that drew you together. Rediscovering each other is uplifting.

How do I make the next step?

I know what courage it takes to lift the receiver or email someone out of the blue. Once you have taken the step you can make an appointment there and then, or if you would like to we can have a telephone conversation about the problems you are experiencing before you make a decision to go ahead with counselling, I will be pleased to speak to you. If I am not available please leave a message or text me and I will get back to you.

Training, qualifications & experience

  • Marriage Guidance Counselling
  • Sexual & Relationship Therapy COSRT
  • Fertility Counselling London Hospital Medical College
  • Marital & Couple Counselling & Supervision RELATE.
  • Continuing professional development COSRT, TCCR, BACP, ATSAC
  • Accredited Counsellor COSRT (College of Sexual and Relationship Counselling)
  • Senior Accredited Supervisor BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy)

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.

BACP

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

COSRT

College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists

COSRT is the UK’s leading membership organisation for therapists specialising in sexual and relationship issues.

All members must abide by their Code of Ethics and the performance of accredited members is regularly monitored.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

  • Affairs
  • Bereavement
  • Sexual problems particularly female issues
  • Sex therapy
  • Falling out of love
  • "Just don’t get on"
  • Communication

Therapies offered

  • Behavioural therapy
  • Couples counselling
  • Integrative
  • Interpersonal therapy
  • Person-centred therapy
  • Psychodynamic therapy
  • Psychosexual therapy

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Fees

£65.00 per hour for individuals

I offer a reduction on some daytime appointments

£80.00 per hour for couples

Further information

My approach

I am an integrative counsellor, which means all of the theories (or ways of looking at life) have relevance to me and I will use all, or something from each of them.

The psychodynamic approach to therapy takes into account the influences of the past and how our internal conflicts, maybe from childhood, are adding to the anxiety in the present. We cannot change the past but we can undo the effects of the past in the present which may be having more of a damaging effect than we are aware of.

Marital interaction when applied to couples the question is 'What is the marital 'fit'? 'What were the qualities that made us believe we would be able to give to and receive love and support from this person based on our life's experiences' and 'What didn't we want?'

Systems theory believes that we are all a system within ever increasing systems (couple, family, community etc) and the whole affects the parts.

Behavioural therapy aims to modify the behaviour rather than looking for underlying causes. Behaviour and responses are learned and therefore can be unlearned

Client centred therapy is growth oriented and forward moving, the theory being that by being listened to and having your thoughts and feelings reflected back to you and the therapist being congruent (in tune with and able to use their our own reactions helpfully) you may develop a greater skill of listening to your own thoughts and feelings and be in tune with your own reactions and be released to take action if that seems appropriate.

Art therapy

There is a time when drawing or painting or using clay may be useful. Usually, this is when there are strong feelings or when there is something elusive that needs to be captured You may find one theory means more to you than another.

Please visit my website buckhursthillrelationshipcounselling.co.uk and you can read the articles on this website 'The Creative Process in a Couple', and 'Whatever has happened to sex', which gives you an idea of how I think.

176 Princes Road
Buckhurst Hill
Essex
IG9 5DJ

Type of session

In person
Online
Phone
Home visits

Practical details

Sign language
Other languages None

Accessibility

Wheelchair user access

Wheelchair-accessible premises should have step-free access for wheelchair users and individuals who are unable to climb stairs. If a counsellor's premises aren't step-free, they may offer alternative services such as telephone/web-based appointments, home visits, or meeting clients in different location, so you can choose the option that suits you best.

You can contact the counsellor to discuss the options available.

Under the Equality Act 2010 service providers have a duty to make reasonable adjustments to ensure that individuals with disabilities can access their service. You can read more about reasonable adjustments to help you to access services on the CAB website.

Wheelchair user access

Availability

Daytime and evening appointments on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday & Thursday. Evening appointments are 6.00pm, 7.15pm and 8.30pm. Daytime appointments are more flexible.

Types of client

Young people
Adults
Older adults
Couples
Employee Assistance Programme

Supervision

I have been a BACP accredited Supervisor for 25 years and am currently supervising  counsellors working in many settings including Bereavement Services, Infertility Clinics, Psychotherapy Clinics, NHS Sexual Health Clinics,  and Couple Counselling and Psychosexual and Relationship Counselling in Private Practice and Individual Counselling in Private Practice, in short or long term work.

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