Linda Wolfenden, MA, MBACP
I've been helping individuals, couples and groups to build self-esteem and to manage physical and psychological life changes since 2002.
During the uncertain times of the current Covid pandemic and the restrictions on our usual freedoms and social lives, most of us are feeling the strain of being separated from friends and loved ones, from our work or leisure colleagues. We miss our routines and our autonomy and loneliness is an even greater problem than ever before. More so, loss of friends and family, of the certainty of a secure job, home, health, future. It is not surprising that mental and emotional wellbeing is much more in the public consciousness. The need to talk and explore these issues, to understand our feelings and reactions and to develop helpful coping strategies has never been more important.
Ordinarily what a lot of the areas of counselling have in common is low self-worth or self-esteem issues. Feelings of guilt or repressed anger that lead to depression and anxiety. If you've said 'I want to get back to being me' or 'I've forgotten who 'me' is', counselling can help.
Nothing is ever new and everything is connected. "Men are disturbed not by the things which happen, but by their opinions about the things,“ said Greek philosopher Epictetus over 2000 years ago and we still struggle with what it means to be human. Together we can build coping strategies by looking at the situation from a different perspective, or 'reframing'. By exploring and challenging personal values, attitudes and beliefs that lead to negative patterns of thought, feeling and actions, we can break the cycle of self-defeating and self-sabotaging behaviour that is often the cause of our present difficulties.
You are not the issue. The issue is the issue, and I see the role of the counsellor as helping to facilitate positive change by working alongside you in a non-judgemental and mutual relationship. Simply put, we work together as a team to resolve the issue or issues that cause you concern.
As a counsellor I have worked in the community, in private practice and as a student counsellor in adult education. I have also taught personal development, parenting and counselling courses in adult & community learning. I have been a staff trainer in stress management and mental health awareness. I have considerable experience of working with abuse and domestic violence and have a special interest in stress and anger work. As a foster carer I live with the impact of insecure attachments every day and know only too well the importance of bonding and stability in child development. And we were all children once.
At 25 I was diagnosed with flitting polyarthritis, a form of rheumatoid arthritis that affects every area of my body. Nowadays, with the additional help of biologic medication, I am probably fitter and more active than I have been for many years, but this condition led me to research wellbeing on a psychosomatic level (psycho: mind, soma: body) and the 4 pillars of health: emotional, physical, mental and spiritual. For this reason I understand the importance of working with clients in a holistic way, integrating all aspects of wellbeing.
Out of this interest, from 2002 I developed the THREAT© Programme for Anger and Stress and have delivered it to groups, couples and individuals throughout Manchester and Salford. It became the focus of my Masters dissertation in 2008. Whether you find it difficult to manage your own anger or struggle to cope with someone else's, this model can help.
The 10-week course is still available to groups by arrangement and has been adapted for couples, family and individual therapy.
Training, qualifications & experience
MA in Counselling Studies, University of Manchester
NCHP Diploma in Hypnotherapy & Psychotherapy
Advanced Certificate in Therapeutic Hypnosis
Diploma in Counselling
Certificate in Education (FE Teaching)
Advanced Certificate in Stress & Anxiety Management
I believe in the importance of continuing professional development to update my practice and keep abreast of changes in the profession. I am a member of the Counselling Northwest Network and am currently updating my CBT skills with an online course. As a former employee of a public body I have been on numerous short courses as well as personally funded training, including NLP, EFT, integrative practice, bereavement & loss, sexual abuse, sexuality, domestic violence & Reiki
As a therapeutic foster carer of young people with complex emotional and behavioural difficulties I undertake ongoing training which complements my counselling role.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
What a lot of the areas have in common is low self-worth or self-esteem issues. Feelings of guilt or repressed anger that lead to depression and anxiety. If you've said 'I want to get back to being me' or 'I've forgotten who 'me' is', counselling can help.
Maybe there are issues of co-dependency (when your mood is overly affected by some other person or a compulsive behaviour), or perhaps you are experiencing the 'Good Girl/Boy' syndrome (where you find it difficult to say no, to express negative emotions, feel you have no control, and smile when you feel like crying).
As above, the 'shoulds' introjected (subconsciously taken on) in childhood often burden us with other people's values that we find difficult to live up to in adult life. That inner voice telling us we should work harder, look better, be better. The consequences can wreak havoc on our self confidence and authentic way of being, always trying to be something we're not, instead of being content just being who we are. Inner child work is a wonderful way of exploring and releasing us from those life principles and allowing us the space to develop our own.
Whatever your issues, you are not alone. You're not 'crazy' and neither are you 'bad' or 'wrong'! These are all issues that can be worked on successfully within the counselling environment.
Individual, family or couples therapy (currently virtual or telephone sessions):
£50 per 1 hour session
(Initial session £30, the reduction offered to reflect the importance of finding a counsellor you feel comfortable with before you decide on the right counsellor for you)
£30 per 1 hour session for Counselling Students completing the required personal therapy hours
Some concessionary places may be available for those on benefits or unwaged (with evidence)
£50 per hour for qualified counsellors
I offer a 3 session plan costing £150:
- A thorough initial consultation including history-taking, brief therapy and relaxation (lasting around 90 minutes)
- Hypnotherapy session in full (lasting around 90 minutes)
- Follow-up hypnotherapy session (lasting around 60 minutes)
Ethical clinical practice determines a minimum of 2 sessions to take a full history and assess the appropriateness of using hypnotherapy. Between the first and second sessions, I write a bespoke script personalised to your individual requirements based on the information you have given. The third session is used to reinforce and strengthen previous therapeutic messages.
I also work with groups. If you have a group of friends or colleagues who might benefit from developing assertiveness, building confidence, raising self-esteem, or managing anger or stress, I can develop a bespoke psychotherapeutic* training package designed to fit your individual needs. Counselling is recognised as a form of teaching and learning and this is perhaps a more cost-effective - and fun - way of working.
I am happy to provide testimonials, with permission from people I have worked with previously.
*psychotherapeutic education - defined as that which addresses both the emotional and educational needs of the client.
Contact me for a no-obligation friendly chat to find out whether I can provide what you are looking for.
I'm 5 minutes from the Trafford Centre
Junction 11 (Eccles/Irlam turn off) M60
Each one of us is unique, and I don't believe in a 'one size fits all' approach where one model is used with every client. Everything is connected - including us - and nothing is new. This is why I work as an integrative counsellor and trainer founded in humanistic Rogerian principles.
This means I combine aspects of mainstream counselling and psychotherapeutic theories and techniques in the way I work - Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), Multimodal, Psychodynamic, Inner Child Work, Gestalt, Existentialism and Hypnotherapy. I would be happy to talk further about this when we meet.
I am a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and abide by their Codes of Conduct and Ethics. I hold an enhanced DBS disclosure.
And finally..I work from home and own a dog. If you desire, arrangements are in place for her to be housed elsewhere during your visits. Otherwise, our friendly 5 year old Schnauzer/Shi Tzu cross will also welcome you to our home and, whilst she is well-behaved, she will be present in the counselling room. She loves company too much not to be!
I look forward to hearing from you.