Love the skin you're in
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Beverley Chambers Qualified Counsellor, Relationship Issues - Reg. MBACP
30th January, 20160 Comments
‘Keep young and beautiful if you want to be loved.’
This is a timeless song originally written in 1930 and was featured on the 1992 album, Diva, by Annie Lennox. However, the words of this song still resonate today eight and a half decades later. In present-day society, people are constantly pressured to look as young as possible for as long as possible.
Recently, Carrie Fisher, who starred in the original Star Wars movies as Princess Leia, received a viral lashing from Twitter fans that criticised the way she has physically aged in the new film, The Force Awakens. The simple fact is that we are all destined to age. How many times have you looked at a picture and realised you were not as bad as you thought? Does that not tell you how much time you wasted on a negative self-image and here you are doing it again!
Living in a society where vanity takes centre stage has given birth to higher anxiety levels, self-esteem issues, depression, negative self-image and eating disorders. The way to address this is to learn to accept you. Take a look around you, relationships with partners and friends come in all shapes, sizes, complexions, etc. and regardless of the media’s interpretation of what is consider beautiful – thankfully, majority of people do not choose who they like and/or love based on that.
Self-acceptance shines through, it brightens your aura and attracts more love and admiration than you could ever imagine. If you do not accept yourself, then how can you expect others to accept you in spite of physical changes? One must be happy with oneself and put self-acceptance first.
There is support to help you learn to be confident about your body such as the book: This Is Who I Am: Our Beauty in All Shapes and Sizes… by Rosanne Olson.
Counselling, mindfulness - look at ways in which you can start that journey to become whole such as this poem by Maya Angelo may help, it did it for me.
About the author
I have worked for 18 years as a counsellor addressing issues such as depression, anxiety, trauma, sexual abuse, relationship issues, addiction to alcohol, therapy groups, family issues. My qualifications are; diploma in counselling and group work, DipSW, alcohol counsellor, life coach, certificate family support therapy, NADA auricular acupuncture.
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