Vanessa Gaier BA (Hons) Accredited and Registered MBACP
I am a Person Centred Counsellor and Parenting Practitioner.
I believe that I offer a relationship of warmth and empathic understanding and feel that every person provided the right conditions, has the capacity to change. I offer a relationship based on safety, trust and positive regard, allowing a person to explore, understand and feel heard so that they can move forward in their life with more perspective and greater understanding and clarity.
I see you as the expert on yourself but who may for whatever reason need some support from me to work through, reflect upon or understand things better or from a different perspective. This unique relationship is not about advice, or judgements on what you feel or do, but about supporting you to work out things that you may not be able to do alone.
You may feel anxious or depressed which can often make seeking support all the more difficult as reaching out to people is not what you feel like doing, however research has shown that this is exactly what may help to 'disrupt' thinking habits so that you have choice about the way you think and feel.
I think getting the right counsellor is such an crucial part of this special relationship that I offer an introductory consultation to help you decide whether you feel comfortable and able to begin to access the core part of yourself that may have been hidden in the shadows for so long. This is the privilege of my job and the uniqueness of this relationship...
For couples this is an opportunity to hear each other differently and start to communicate in ways that reach greater levels of understanding and empathy for one another's experience. These sessions with allow couples to examine and explore their relationship and themselves in a non threatening and compassionate way.
Often couples have lost their way from one another or are holding feelings or experiences that they feel unable to share with one another safely. They may feel unable to express their vulnerability for fear of rejection or ridicule and need to understand how to reconnect and bond. Couples counselling is also an opportunity for couples who may come to decide they have reached the end of their time together, to use the therapy to end their relationship with love and respect particularly important where children may be involved.
I have many years experience of working with parents who may be experiencing a breakdown in their relationship with their child/children. I help the parent(s) explore what may have caused this difficulty and how to repair their relationship. Children and young people use behaviour to express their hurt and anger and I see my role as supporting parents find a way of reaching out to their children with empathy and understanding. Parents acknowledge that they need to look at their own ways of behaving and responding to help bridge the gap between themselves and their children.
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"When I first met Vanessa I was frail, fearful, disempowered and angry. I was also sceptical and needy - I'd had a counsellor in the past and it hadn't helped. Over the course of our first tentative sessions I relaxed into a process led by her warmth, her humanity, her heart-centred approach and her subtle skill of gently weaving my past into my present. It felt like Vanessa's supportive energy walked with me through some of my most painful experiences as they unfolded, slowly enabling me to become the agent of change I so needed to be. Her expertise shone a light on my dark corners, revealing the shadows lurking there, empowering me to face and engage with them in ways entirely new. She tactfully and congruently mentored me. Her integrity built a foundation of trust which genuinely freed me and has impacted how I see myself, function in relationships and embrace life's wonder and challenges. Metaphorically, Vanessa worked with me to release my butterfly from the cocoon of fear-based relating I had been so long trapped within."
Lynne - 2012 - 2014
A tear rolled down my cheek as I left Vanessa’s for the last time and walked to my car, before pulling up by the park where I always paused to reflect and note down our sessions. Two years had passed since my first appointment, the most difficult and yet enlightening chapter of my life to date.
It was only in our final meeting, as we sat down to consider where I was now, that it dawned on me just how far I had come.
When I first met Vanessa I was in an anxious, overwhelmed state with no one to confide in. Over the weeks and months that followed she helped me to evolve into who I am today; a self-assured open person, teetering on the edge of something.
I still have lots to explore about myself and what I want in life, but I’m now equipped with tools that will allow me to do this. I also have a new sense of perspective - I feel I am in control and the whole world is at my feet, whatever life throws at me. Vanessa is an extremely gifted person-centred counsellor and her home is comfortable and inviting, allowing even the most closed person to feel able to open up. It is a sanctuary away from judging eyes and condescending voices. She is warm, friendly, encouraging and quietly challenging.
My personal growth has been amazing. I credit Vanessa with so much as she provided the support I needed during a time when very little seemed available. I now stand on my own two feet and have a new resilience, yet I feel reassured that her door remains open should I ever need it.
When I came to Vanessa I felt hopeless. I didnt know what to do or who to talk to. My head was a mess of thousands of thoughts of despair and depression. I was at the end of my tether and thought there was no way out. The hardest step for me was to admit to myself that I needed help, that I couldnt do it on my own. I clung to the thought of this cant be what life is supposed to be. Once I contacted Vanessa and had my first session I knew that I had made the best and most important decision of my life.
Vanessa took me in to a cocoon of safety. She gently coached me through the worst times of my life with compassion and understanding. She is an amazing woman with an incredible gift. I felt safe and secure in her hands. After a year of talking, crying and laughing I came out the other side with a set of tools that I use every day. I am making what I wanted to happen for so long happen. I can communicate with my family and partner without getting defensive, angry or frustrated. I can show love without fear. I finally feel like the me inside reflects the confident person I had been projecting to the outside world, rather than a scared kid in an adult world that I didnt feel worthy of. Vanessa helped me see the real me and I will be forever grateful for her.
Training, qualifications & experience
BA (Hons) Person Centred Counselling
Foundation - Pychodynamic Therapy
Positive Parenting Programme
Drug and Alcohol Misuse
Positive Parenting Practitioner
Working with hostility and resistance
Understanding separation and loss
Parent - child work
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I work with families experiencing the possible breakdown of relationships with their children. Many parents experience violence from their children, I work with parents to help repair the damage and heal the rifts that have occurred.
Member of the BACP
Member of the Person-Centred Community Brighton
Abide by the BACP Code of Ethic- dedicated to social diversity, equality and inclusivity of treatment without discrimination. BACP opposes any psychological treatment such as 'reparative' or 'conversion' therapy which is based on the assumption that homosexuality is a mental disorder, or based on the premise that the client change his/her sexuality.
Individual - £50
Couples - £80 1 hour
Students - Sliding scale
I work Monday afternoon from 5pm, Wednesday and Thursday day and evening until 9pm
I offer 1:1 Parenting advice and am trained facilitator in The Positive Parenting Programme
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Tuesday mornings and Wednesday and Thursday day and evening until 9pm
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|