Siobhan Lane Counsellor, Psychosexual Therapist & Supervisor
** Appointments - Currently only online (Zoom) and telephone appointments are available **
I offer a confidential counselling service that covers both Hull and the East Riding. My private practice is based in an anonymous and confidential setting within a 5 minute drive from Hull City Centre. It is in an ideal location for those getting into the city centre or going out, minutes from the A63, just off Hessle Road, Boulevard with free onsite parking available.
Please telephone for further details and for an informal chat or if you would prefer, send me a text or an email and I will reply to you as soon as it is possible.
Hello, a Little About Me…..
I am an experienced and fully qualified Relationship, Individual and Family Counsellor and Psychosexual Therapist. I place such value on my role as a Counsellor and am very passionate about helping people when they are facing one of life’s challenges, as it is at times like this; people tend to feel overwhelmed and desperate and often struggle to see a way forward, without the right support.
Counselling can offer you a safe, confidential place to talk about your life and any issues that might be confusing, painful or uncomfortable that you may need help dealing with. Counselling can help you identify areas where change may be needed and guide you through this stage in your life.
Working with you I will offer warmth, understanding, empathy and a non-judgemental approach in a relaxed and comfortable setting. I will help you gain a better understanding of your current circumstances to enable you to move forward and wherever possible, make positive changes.
The therapeutic relationship with your Counsellor is very important and I believe it is essential you feel completely comfortable and at ease with the Counsellor whom you choose to let into your very private world. It is for this reason that I do not charge for your 30 minute Initial Consultation giving us the opportunity to discuss your needs, for you to hear how I work and see how it would feel to work together further.
I trained and work as an Integrative Counsellor, drawing upon theories and techniques from different approaches such as; Psychodynamic, (your past/present relationships) Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, CBT (the impact of your thoughts and feelings upon your behaviour), Systemic (what’s happening around you, for example within your family). Essentially, the Integrative Approach allows me to tailor the therapy to your individual need as therapy is not a ‘one size fits all’ approach.
However, don't worry if none of this makes sense to you right now as the emphasis of my approach is the relationship between client and counsellor. What is most important is I will be there for you, to listen to your problems, and help you, to the very best of my ability to move forward, through what is probably a very difficult period in your life.
If you are reading this you are probably in a place where you are seeking support, and you are now one step closer to getting that support…keep going….I look forward to welcoming you as a client and to working with you.
Training, qualifications & experience
- Levels 1, 2 & 3 Counselling Practice & Theory
- Relate Certificate in Relationship Counselling
- AFT Certificate in Family Therapy
- Therapeutic Counselling Certificate
- Post Graduate Diploma in Psychosexual Therapy
- ATSAC Professional Certificate in Sexual Addiction
- The Hall Recovery Course for Sex Addiction
- Level 6 Certificate in Clinical Supervision
- I am an Accredited member of The College of Sex and Relationship Therapy (COSRT)
- I am a member of The Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity (ATSAC) and work within their guidelines and codes of ethics.
*All qualifications can be viewed upon request
I continue to engage in ongoing Professional Development Training/Courses/Workshops/Conferences to ensure my skills, knowledge and practice are kept up to date (certificates available to view, upon request).
I am an experienced and fully qualified Relationship, Individual and Family Counsellor and Psychosexual Therapist with 18 years’ experience helping people with a variety of issues – I work with individuals, couples, families and young people and welcome clients from the LGBTQI Community.
I am also offer training, delivering a variety of courses, for example, Counselling Skills and Managing Stress, to both the public and private sectors.
Over my 18 years working as a qualified Counsellor and Therapist I have respected individuality and uniqueness, not discriminating, ensuring therapy is available to all and have helped many couples, individuals and families work through a variety of issues, such as, relationship breakdown, communication problems, bereavement, depression, bullying, anger, stress, trauma, low self esteem, physical, sexual and domestic abuse, redundancy, adoption, as well as sexual issues relating to difficulties, addictions and identity.
I have regular supervision, both individually and as part of a group of qualified Counsellors, working within the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) guidelines for ongoing professional development. I am an accredited member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity (ATSAC).
I have experience working with language translators, and with deaf clients and their sign interpreters.
I hold a current Enhanced DBS Certificate and I have Private Indemnity Insurance.
You can find my website for further information and client feedback by clicking the icon at the top of this page.
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists
COSRT is the UK’s leading membership organisation for therapists specialising in sexual and relationship issues.
All members must abide by their Code of Ethics and the performance of accredited members is regularly monitored.
Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
The Association for Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity (ATSAC) is the leading UK organisation providing hope, information, support, and treatment options for those affected by sexual addiction and compulsivity.
ATSAC sets standards of practice for qualified therapists and provides accreditation for specialist training courses. A therapist who has gone through ATSAC recognised training will have the knowledge to respect and work with you sensitively to find out how best to support your needs.
Therapy options may include one-to-one sessions, group work, and/or relationship counselling. ATSAC is a not-for-profit organisation.
Areas of counselling I deal with
I offer you a 30 minute free initial consultation. This gives you the opportunity to meet with me, ask any questions you may have about me, how I work, or about the counselling process but more importantly to see if you feel comfortable choosing to work with me further. As I believe it is very important to feel completely comfortable and at ease with the counsellor whom 'you choose'.
You are under no obligation to book further sessions at the end of your initial consultation, as I encourage you to reflect and take time to consider if you feel I am someone you believe could help you.
If you should choose to go ahead with counselling, after the free initial consultation fees are;
£50 Per Session
♦ Young People
£50 Per Session
♦ Psychosexual Therapy
£55 Per Session
♦ Sex / Porn Compulsivity
All sessions are 50 minutes
Payments by cash at each session or bank transfer 24hrs before for all online/telephone sessions.
I appreciate for some people daytime appointments can be difficult, therefore I can offer later appointments between 6pm-8pm, however evening appointments will incur an extra fee of £5 per session.
Counselling Room is wheelchair accessible
24 hours notice is required to rearrange or to cancel an appointment. The full fee for the appointment must be paid for if cancelled 24 hours or less beforehand.
So you're considering counselling, but not quite sure? Here is a brief overview of what you may consider:
It is normal for relationships to suffer as the strains of everyday life mount. Pressures of work, family, money, health, affairs, rejection, loss – the list is endless and can all take their toll on a relationship. Suddenly the person we sought comfort from, we now reject and the relationship that once recharged us leaves us feeling drained and disappointed.
Couple counselling can help you recognise and address destructive patterns of behaving and communicating. New relationship skills can be learned, enabling you to deal with discussions on emotive topics, improving communication and decreasing conflict within the relationship, leading to a healthier and happier relationship.
Relationship Counselling can help you whatever your sexual orientation and relationship status, and whether you come alone or with a partner.
At some stages in your life you may feel you need to speak to someone and get help with a problem. That problem can be a specific difficulty related to your personal life, work or a relationship with a partner or family member. It may be that you feel your life is not in your control and you need direction to achieve your goals and happiness.
During these difficult times we can struggle to make sense of these times on our own and may need extra support to help us move forward and make changes. Throughout my career I have helped many people address and change issues they were facing, such as anxiety, stress, bereavement, relationship issues, family issues, sexual issues and work problem. These are just a small example of issues that individual therapy may help you with.
Many families can be a big source of love, support and encouragement but sometimes relationships within families can be put under everyday pressures and face unexpected change. For example, coping with a new baby, siblings not getting along, difficulties with parents/in-laws or facing challenges parenting teenagers as they strive for more independence. This can leave some family members feeling isolated or disregarded, finding it difficult to adapt or accept the changes, causing family conflict.
Family Counselling can help family members address destructive patterns of behaving and communicating, enabling them to learn new effective ways to communicate. This will help reduce conflict within the family and strengthen relationships enabling the family to support each other through difficult times and unite as a family.
Children & Young People Counselling
For children and young people, counselling offers a safe and confidential environment to talk to a trusted adult who won’t judge them, and who isn't their parent, as some things are difficult to talk to parents about. Just like adults, young people can experience a range of difficulties in their life in which counselling could be helpful. For example, anxiety, low confidence and self-esteem, challenging relationships at school due to breakdown of friendships, bullying, peer-pressure or exam stress.
I apply the same principles when working with children and young people as I do with adults. I offer respect, warmth, empathy and compassion and trust by; working together I can help you find your own way in life through personal growth and increased confidence.
Sessions for children and young people are age-appropriate and tailored to their individual needs. However, for young children sessions are more likely to include elements of play, art and creativity to encourage communication.
Sex is a very personal thing, and for many people talking about sexual issues can be difficult and embarrassing. However, talking about the issues and seeking help is often the best thing you can do to improve your sex life as sexual issues can arise at any time in your life for a range of reasons and can have a significant impact upon the couple relationship.
It’s natural to want better sex and sometimes there are specific psychological or medical reasons for your difficulties. Many sexual problems are psychological in origin and this is what psycho sexual therapy deals with. If you are in a relationship which is essentially sound but it is suffering because of sexual problems then PST, more commonly known as ‘sex therapy’ can help.
Please head over to my website for further information on Psychosexual Therapy
Sexual Compulsivity generally referred to as Sexual Addiction is the term used to describe any sexual activity that feels 'out of control'. That might be sex with a partner, viewing pornography, masturbation, visiting sex workers, or any number of other sexual activities. Although many of these activities don't cause a problem for most people, a person experiencing sexual compulsivity feels compelled to engage in their chosen activity, in spite of the problems it may cause in their personal/family/work relationships.
Please head over to my website for further information on how I can help in this area
Excessive use of sexual porn/fantasy can change how you feel about partner sex as it can even cause lack of desire and erectile dysfunction. If your use of the internet is having a negative impact on your life and starting to have priority over other interests, for example, friends, family and romantic relationships you may need support.
You may even have escalated from viewing porn to escaping into your virtual world enrolling on dating sites, meeting people online for cybersex, arranging one night stands with strangers or starting serial affairs. If your use of the internet/porn is having a negative impact on your life and starting to have priority over other interests, for example, friends, family and romantic relationships you may need support.
Please head over to my website for further information on how I can help in this area
Support for Partners
I also offer support for partners as most partners are devastated to discover their partner has issues with sex and/or pornography and many find it difficult to believe it’s even true. Others may have been battling for years to discover the truth and may feel relieved when the truth is finally out. Partners need their own space to recover from the shock of discovery and someone who understands the problem who can help them decide what their future will hold.
I hold the ATSAC Professional Certificate in Treating Sexual Compulsivity and have undertaken The Hall Recovery Course Training. I offer a compassionate, ethical practice and due to the sensitive nature of this work, all clients can be assured of total discretion and absolute confidentiality, as with all other areas of my practice.