Paul Weeden MBACP Therapist, Coach & Supervisor
At times we all have to confront the parts of the human experience that we all dread; experiences involving fear, loss, regret, resentment, anger, guilt, and shame.
All people at times also struggle with- confidence, anxiety, depression and lack of direction.
Some of the time we can get stuck with any of these, and feel paralyzed by the fear of what to do next. Or we may be in denial, or going round in circles.
I'm passionate about helping people to heal their past and find purpose and meaning in their personal & professional lives.
This begins with taking a look at your your currant circumstances and what brought you here. As well as exploring your past and how you feel about it now.
In my work I experience every individual as unique and special in their own way, my integrative counselling & embodiment coaching training reflects this.
The way we typically design a working agreement is by formally assessing your current situation, deciding together a focus of the work, which is often unresolved issues with yourself and possibly others in your life. Then once agreeing to work through these issues as far as we can in order to help process emotions, and replace any unhelpful underlying beliefs and barriers with new more empowering ways of seeing things. We then have the opportunity to come to greater self acceptance of who we are and what brought us here.
We can then focus our attention on what you do day to day and consider what activities are beneficial and which as not serving you.
Many people I’ve treated, like most of us at times feel a combination of; frustration, anxiety and depression about areas of their work and personal life. Many of us have under achieved potential that remains stuck in our cells as latent energy. It is likely your body is trying to communicate to you through your subconscious in some way, probably as a discomfort, like a sort of warning light trying to get your attention.
A lot of the clients I work with find that after addressing the emotional blockages from their past, and then committing to pursuing interests and activities that give them meaning and purpose, they then start to feel a bit better. By that I mean they feel calmer more positive and more in control again.
Some of the ways we decide what might be good to try, is by examining your physical and emotional patterns of behaviour in your daily life.
Your breathing patterns and posture, the way you talk and walk. And then within that, looking at how you go about your day. Most of us do this unconsciously at least half the time.
For example- we might consider your communication style and then look at the pros and cons of your approach.
Another example - we could look at whether you are someone who always makes plans that you keep or whether you are make choices more spontaneously. What might be the advantages and disadvantages of either approach ?
Either way we can practice making adjustments to bring you more balance and choice into our life.
Whatever we would like to develop more or less of, we can work on a plan and strategy that will involve trying new and interesting things that you can learn and grow through the experience.
Please send me an email or call if you would like to discuss having an assessment for a one to one counselling or coaching session or workshop.
Training, qualifications & experience
My main training was through an integrative BACP accredited advanced diploma at the Centre for Personal & Professional Development in North London. I chose this type of training because I believe that different aspects of a wide spectrum of theories can apply to any given situation. In other words, not trying to make a person fit into our training modality, regardless of whether it is applicable to them.
I have worked with a wide diversity of client groups from many different cultures and backgrounds, and I have experience with many different issues, and a capacity to be with the most difficult of feelings as well as help find realistic and achievable solutions. I have gained my experience within NHS Primary Care, as well as with young people in schools via the YMCA, and I also have extensive experience in Counselling agencies such as the As You Are centre in Southwick, as well as running a busy private practice.
I also find looking at what we are experiencing in our bodies can have an invaluable amount of useful information for us to work with, helping you to find what you need to feel better.
Embodied Facilitator- Integration Training
Embodied Intersubjectivity in the clinic
Relational based Clinical supervision
Short term contracts
Working with sandtray
Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training
Living With Dissociation
Partners of Dissociative Survivors
Time limited counselling
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Drug addiction
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I have helped many people to develop their self aware, and to recognize their true potential.
I also offer embodiment coaching as well as brief goal/solution focused therapy.
I have experience of working with survivors of childhood abuse,
and conditions such as bi-polar, ADHD & aspergers.
I've also worked in organizations as well as in private practice with children and young people.
£60-70 per 50 minute session at peak times in London
Lower cost session are sometimes available.
£50-60 per session in West Sussex
Lower cost sessions are sometimes available.
Short term contracts - Solution/Goal Focused Therapy ( SMART) - sometimes we encounter a dilemma in life that only requires an external point of reference for a brief intervention whilst we adjust to the change in feelings or behaviour.
Part of working this way involves experiencing feeling heard and understood, whilst implementing Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) tools to reality test the way we are viewing things.
Brief Psychotherapy & Counselling -
At times, perhaps for practical reasons, we are only be able to work so much on a specific issue, we may just need to feel a bit more able to cope rather than completely solve a problem, or there may be something we have not felt able to share or process that we may benefit from spending some time working through.
- Where achievable we might agree on around twelve 50 minute sessions.
Open-ended contracts -
Integrative psychoodynamic/humamistic therapy
Our primary experiences with our care givers shape the way we engage with the world for the rest of our lives. In an open ended contract we can explore how the past is influencing us in the present, through developing a relationship based on trust, consistency and empathy, whilst working at a pace with which you feel comfortable. During this process we can uncover unconscious drives and defense mechanisms that have become parts of our life script.
- Open ended contract work is usually most suitable for issues that have been with us for most of our lives.
- Where possible we will agree to between 6- 12 sessions in our initial contract and review your progress as we go along.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Monday - Friday 8am-8pm
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
I offer individual and group relational clinical supervision in London and Sussex, as well as on Skype and the telephone.