Matthew Adam MSc MSW BSC (UKCP and AFT Accred)
Hi, I'm Matthew and I am an independent Family Counsellor. I have worked with children and families for over 20 years, helping them manage their emotional health and wellbeing. Often the things that worry children and young people can lead to family issues and I work with children and young people individually or with the whole family, depending of your needs.
I have helped children, young people and their parents work through a range of difficulties including managing challenging behaviour, social and generalised anxiety, sleeping difficulties, anger management, frequent family clashes, the effects of marital tension, bereavement, depression, drug and alcohol use, autism and Asperger's Syndrome, self-harming behaviour and eating difficulties. I also specialise in couples and individual counselling.
I work with people helping them to think about how they communicate with others and how certain behaviours can be problematic in relationships. My main aim is to help people find new ways of communicating their thoughts and feelings so that loved ones can help them get through their difficulties. Communication is not always a simple process. How a person sees things will always be different from the next person and this makes communication complex.
By focusing on relationships as a resource and strength to managing difficult times, I recognise how important it is that different points of view are considered. This can be achieved with everyone in the room or individually by thinking about what someone important to you might say or think about those things that are important to you.
So you know how I work and what to expect from our work, it can be helpful to know how our meetings might be structured. When I meet with families, couples or individuals I spend time trying to understand the issues that you want to be discussed. Once I have an understanding about your concerns I will ask you what you want to achieve. It is important to set specific goals for counselling and therapy. This helps you to know what you want to work on and whether you are making progress. When a goal has been reached it is important to review the work and think about whether or not to finish.
Counselling does not have to be a long process and I usually meet with clients for brief periods of time. Our work might be one session only, or last up to 6 sessions. It really depends on how you think it is going and whether or not you have found new ways of coping with your difficulties. My sessions are usually scheduled fortnightly so that you can think about what we talked about in between meetings.
If you have any child and adolescent related questions or would like to know more about how I work with the dilemmas and difficulties that can occur for young people and their families, please contact me. I offer free telephone and email consultation and am happy to think with you about your concerns before you commit to seeing someone. Sometimes a simple conversation can make all the difference!
Training, qualifications & experience
Master of Social Work
MSc Systemic Psychotherapy with Families and Couples
PG Diploma in Systemic Supervision
PG Certificate in CYP-IAPT Systemic Supervision PG Certificate in CYP-IAPT Leadership PG Certificate in Health and Social Care Commissioning
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Attachment disorder in children
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Behaviour problems
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Children’s learning difficulties
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Depression and anxiety in children
- Domestic violence
- Drug addiction
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Separation anxiety
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
- Young carers
£65 per hour for family sessions
£55 per hour for couple sessions
£50 per hour for individual sessions
Sessions are usually scheduled fortnightly, three-weekly or monthly depending on your needs. This is because relationship counselling focuses your thinking about interactions outside of meetings. It is often helpful to have time between meetings to try out suggested ways of communicating or to reflect on what everyone has said.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I am available on Tuesday evenings and on various weekdays during normal working hours.
Types of client
Supervision & training
I am an Accredited Systemic Supervisor.