About me
Welcome, I’m Manjit, founder of Family and Systemic Therapy, a specialist psychotherapy service for individuals, couples and families.
I have over 20 years’ experience working with people across a wide range of difficulties and life experiences. My systemic approach means I’m interested not only in what is happening for you as an individual, but also in the relationships, family experiences and wider contexts that may be shaping how you think, feel and relate to others.
Many of the people I work with have a good understanding of themselves, but still find themselves caught in familiar patterns in relationships. This might be overthinking, people pleasing, difficulty trusting or being vulnerable, pursuing connection when anxious, or withdrawing when things feel too much. Rather than seeing these as fixed personality traits or ‘attachment styles’, I’m interested in understanding where these patterns come from, what they are trying to do for us, and what happens between people when they get activated.
In my work with couples, I often see that the difficulty is not simply about what one person is saying or doing. It is about the cycle that develops between two people. One person may pursue connection while the other withdraws, for example, leaving both feeling unheard, anxious or misunderstood. My role is to slow these moments down, help couples understand what is happening underneath the communication, and find different ways of responding to one another. Couples do not need to be in crisis to come to therapy, and sometimes our work involves making sense of whether and how a relationship can continue.
I also have a particular interest in the impact of early experiences and trauma on relationships, including the ways these experiences can be carried in the body as well as the mind. We can explore the responses that happen in real time, such as fight, flight or freeze and develop a greater understanding of what is happening when familiar patterns are triggered.
I also bring a culturally informed and curious perspective to my work. I understand that family relationships, identity, expectations and ideas about relationships can be shaped by living across cultures and generations. I work collaboratively with clients to explore these influences without losing sight of the wider social and cultural context in which we live.
Systemic therapy can be useful for individuals, couples and families. If you’re considering therapy and would like to understand whether my approach might be right for you, you’re welcome to get in touch for an initial call.
See more at https://www.familyandsystemictherapy.com/
Training, qualifications & experience
I have over 20 years’ experience working with children, adults, couples and families across NHS, public and private settings. Over the last decade, I have worked extensively with children and their families, and I currently work within an NHS adult complex mental health forensic service. Alongside this, I have an established private practice in North London, where I work with individuals, couples and families.
My experience includes working with complex and long-standing difficulties including trauma, addiction and substance misuse, mental health difficulties, neurodiversity, mood disorders, psychosis, personality disorders, ADHD and OCD. I have also worked with families navigating the impact of mental health difficulties, addiction and other significant challenges on their relationships.
My systemic training means that I am interested not only in what someone is experiencing individually, but also in the relationships, family experiences and wider contexts that can shape how difficulties develop and are maintained. I bring this perspective to my work with individuals as well as couples and families. I am also EMDR trained and use this in couple and individual work.
I am also a qualified systemic supervisor, offering supervision to trainees, qualified therapists, psychologists and NHS professionals. I facilitate reflective practice groups across public and private settings and have particular experience supporting professionals to think about relationships, context, power and the complexities of therapeutic work.
Relevant qualifications
MSc Systemic and Family Psychotherapy
MSc Forensic Psychology
EMDR Level 1-3
UKCP registration
AFT membership
Systemic Supervision qualification
ANT Sex and Attachment in couples
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
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UKCP standards cover the range of different psychotherapies. Registration is obtained by training or accrediting with one of its member organisations, or by holding a European Certificate in Psychotherapy. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
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Fees
£110.00 - £180.00
Additional information
£110 - Individual Therapy
£140 - £150 Couples and Family Therapy
£45 Weekly therapeutic woman's group
Low cost slots offered, please enquire
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Further information
As a brown therapist, I understand the unique needs of first generation immigrants and their children. Living in multiple cultures presents a number of challenges that may be hard to understand.
In my culturally informed work, I support clients to find an identity within and outside of the family, examine the roles they take in the family, and practice forming healthier boundaries. I also encourage us to view our work within the context of society today, the pressures to meet expectations, the changing landscape of relationships.
Group Work
I also offer CONNECTED, a weekly therapeutically informed group for women who want to explore these issues further. The group provides space to think about family experiences, relationships, identity, boundaries and the patterns we can find ourselves repeating, while developing greater awareness and choice in how we relate to ourselves and others.
If you would like to find out more about CONNECTED, please get in touch.
