Lois King BSc (Integrative Counselling) Norwich and remote counsellor.
There are many reasons why people come for counselling. You might be coming with a specific goal or you may not know what you are looking for yet. I guarantee that whatever you are bringing with you, I will provide a safe, confidential, non-judgemental and professional space where together we can untangle and explore the thoughts, feelings, behaviours and beliefs that are impacting on your life. If, after reading my profile you want to get in touch, please email or phone and we can get started. I look forward to hearing from you.
How can counselling help?
1 - Understanding ourselves
I believe the main focus of counselling is to help us develop a deeper understanding of ourselves and why we might behave, think and feel the way we do. Often, we can discover the most important answers by looking at the ways in which we were related to as children and babies. Even if this is out of our awareness, it most likely gave us the blueprint for the rest of our lives.
Once this blueprint has been understood and explored, we can:
- Experiment with new ways of being
- Change or let go of patterns of behaviour and relating (to others and ourselves) that are causing problems in our lives, and no longer serving us well.
- Understand that real change comes from cultivating our self- acceptance and our self-compassion, and leaning into the idea that we are beautiful and flawed, just like everyone else - that we are fine, just as we are.
2 - Communicating our emotions, needs, desires and boundaries...
Counselling can provide us with a safe space where we can explore how we communicate or indeed are not able to communicate our emotions, desires, needs and boundaries. It can be very powerful and healing to be offered a space where you will be supported and heard - where you are the focus, where you are free of your responsibility to please others, and be what other people expect you to be. I understand though, how daunting it can be to be the focus, and to be heard and seen properly for the first time, so we work at your pace, in a way that pays attention to keeping you feeling safe and respecting your boundaries.
How do I work?
My approach to counselling is Integrative which means I work in a flexible and creative way, that puts my client’s needs at the heart of the work. Alongside many others, I draw on theories of:
- Somatic approaches – how our bodies store experiences and trauma, how we detect bodily responses, and the sense we make of them.
- Internal Family Systems – exploring our ‘internal’ parts and the roles they play.
- Neuroscience – the way the brain develops around our early experiences and the wonderful way in which new neural pathways can be encouraged to grow.
- Holism and the mind body connection.
- Attachment and ways of relating.
- Compassion focused approaches.
- Trauma informed practice.
How the Body and Mind are connected...
I believe there is an inseparable unity of body, mind, emotions and spirit in which all function as one whole process. If we are physically unwell, our emotions and behaviour are impacted, just like, if we are suffering with depression, our bodily systems are affected by that too. We can only fully understand ourselves if we look at all aspects of our lives, and how they influence each other. This seems to be particularly useful when we are suffering with anxiety as it can provide a roadmap for discovering the root of that anxiety, and exploring ways to change our relationship with it, or perhaps even overcome it.
With many years of experience in the medical profession, I have developed a solid understanding of chronic long term health conditions, including CFS/ME, Fibromyalgia, and Endometriosis. I understand how difficult the journey can be and how hard you might have had to fight just to get to where you are now. I am able to weave in aspects of health coaching, nutrition, mindfulness and a solid understanding of physical health to address the issues you might be experiencing in a practical way as well as an emotional one. I also have a good understanding of insomnia and the connection to trauma and anxiety and can help you work with this to improve your sleep and quality of life.
Trauma and P.T.S.D.
I also have a deep understanding of trauma and PTSD and all the ways in which it might affect your life. Together we can explore this in a safe, controlled way whilst teaching you specific skills and tools to cope with the symptoms. Trauma is often stored in the body so I work in an embodied way by supporting you to become more aware of how your emotional and psychological challenges are experienced in your body. By deepening the mind body connection, we can increase your trust of your body and its sensations and work towards regaining a sense of safety.
I am LGBTQ and sex worker friendly.
Training, qualifications & experience
- BSc (Hons) Integrative Counselling - Middlesex University
- Advanced Diploma in Integrative Counselling
- Certificate in Couples Counselling
I have completed extra training in eating disorders, trauma informed practice, sexual abuse/rape, domestic violence/coercion-control, mother-daughter relationships, insomnia, mental health and chronic health conditions, movement and body therapy, gender identity and trans issues, and sexuality/relationships across the lifespan.
- Qualified Nurse - (DipHE)
- ITEC level 3 certificate in Anatomy and Physiology
Right now, I am focusing on my private practice but I also volunteer as a counsellor for 'Off the Record' (A low cost counselling service) in Norwich. I previously worked as a counsellor at Mind and a Nurse in various healthcare settings.
I am committed to my own personal development as a counsellor and regularly attend extra training that allows me to keep up to date with new theory, research and approaches.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
£55.00 per session
Free initial telephone or online session
Concessions offered for
Free initial 20-30 minute phone or online consultation.
£55 per session (60 mins) for individuals.
Longer one-off sessions (90 mins) are available for those with a particular focus and goal - priced at £80.
Fees to be paid on the day in cash or bank transfer..
Some concessions may be available to those on benefits or with a low income who believe my skills and experience might be of particular benefit to them. Please ask.
For one off sessions or short term therapy - please feel free to enquire about availability outside my advertised hours.
I know it can be daunting to make that first step. It's also really important to make sure that you find the right counsellor for you, so take your time and feel free to ask as many questions as you like.
The best way to get started is to send me an email or leave me a message and I get back to you. I aim to respond to all enquiries within 24 hours where possible, but this may be longer at the weekends.
We can arrange a 20-30 minute free consultation where we can explore what you might like to get out of counselling and work out whether I am the right person for you and if we can work together. If the session goes well and you feel like taking the next step we will arrange a day and time to meet up weekly. For some, the same slot each week is important, for others - more flexibility is important, and I am happy to discuss this.
I can offer brief solution focused (6-8 sessions) or open-ended counselling. One off single sessions (up to 90 mins) are also available. Research into single session therapy suggests that it can be very beneficial to those who have a very specific need and goal.
I work from home in a comfortable and private room (accessed via stairs) with parking and access to a toilet five miles outside of the city of Norwich. I also offer online counselling to people in any location. Home visits can be arranged for those with a medical need. Alternative provision can be made for those unable to manage stairs.