Lohani Noor

Founding Director of ThIRST, The Institute for Relational and Sexual Therapies.

I am an experienced empathic and relational psychotherapist with a special interest in psychosexual processes. I also offer supervision and have a long history of working with others in a supportive capacity. I began my career working for the National Association of Young People In Care. For many years after that I worked as a Residential Social Worker. The client groups I worked with included mental health, drug & alcohol, addiction, compulsive behaviours, sex offenders, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, low self esteem, relationship issues, loss of direction in life, self abuse and so on.

In addition to therapeutic work I also competed nationally and internationally as a Bodybuilder and strength athlete. Until recently I continued to work in the sports arena as a UKBFF/PCA/IPFA Judge. I am mindful of the ways in which healthy lifestyle choices can be overlooked by individuals who do not have the internal resources to recognise the full range of options available to them. Further there are many ways in which people struggle to accept success and sabotage their own success. You may find it difficult to be seen or carry authority.

I understand that sometimes life does not run as smoothly as you hope it would and sometimes unhappy memories from the past can be unexpectedly triggered by current events. Without support, the quality of your life can be greatly impacted by such occurrences. Research has shown that spending time with a therapist can help you work though difficulties and bring closure and greater harmony to your life.

The service I offer is flexible and will be tailored to meet your need, whether that be depression, anxiety, lack of self esteem, anger management, shame, relationship issues, substance misuse and self harm, eating disorders, sexual abuse, body dysmorphia, psychosexual concerns and so on. Regardless of your presenting issue I will support and facilitate your journey towards becoming a better version of yourself.

I understand and value the experience of the client and so I am always keen to ensure treatment plans are developed within your awareness with your clear understanding, commitment and acceptance. Through developing mindfulness and ownership I would invite the growth of your confidence and motivation in becoming a co-constructor of the therapy process.

I work with individuals and also couples/groups.
Please speak to me directly about groups as the groups I run can vary in their remit

Media Profile - I am a couples and relational therapist on the BBC programme Sex On The Couch, currently available on player. I also write for national and International, news, and health & beauty magazines and have appeared on radio 4 as well as other mainstream media outlets.

Author and narrator of '12 Steps to Sexual Connection' available on Audible. A couples relational guide.

Registered therapist with the LGBT Foundation.

Registered therapist with stopSO.

I am available online and in person. I accept clients worldwide.

CEP and clinical lead on Adult Care Experienced therapy groups.

Editorial board member of Sexual and Relationship Therapy Journal - International Perspectives.

I have done a considerable amount of work with Asian people who struggle to find a sense of belonging in the western world, In particular I have worked around arranged marriages and the struggle to balance Asian and Western values. To assert ones beliefs and find a way to still be ok with the originating culture.

Please contact me directly for a breakdown of fees, thank you.

I am available online or in person. My schedule is varied and flexible and so I can facilitate clients worldwide accounting for tie differences.