Do you feel like you are in a "stuck" place in your relationship? Arguments go round in the same circles and you feel unheard by your partner? These feelings can often build up over time and may be caused by any number of factors - an affair, communication break down, stepfamily and/or extended family issues, a new baby or simply an accumulation of what may seem like small things that have been stored up until they become a larger problem. This is when it can be helpful to have some impartial input to help you look at things in a calm and constructive way to enable you to make the right decisions for yourselves and your relationship. Naturally you may feel a little apprehensive about coming to counselling, especially if you have not experienced this before. However, you should regard this as a positive step towards finding the best path forward for both of you.
I am a Relate trained counsellor, based in Harrogate, with extensive experience of working with couples and individuals. I work in a non-judgemental, confidential and impartial manner at all times - I will never take sides or tell you what to do. I will, however, help you to work through the issues that you bring to the sessions in a balanced and rational manner so that you can start to communicate together in a way that feels best for you and allows you to feel heard.
Your first session is your chance to talk about what has been going on for you and to chat about how we could work together in a way that suits you best. After this session, we would normally meet weekly until you get to a point where you feel that your relationship is back on track and is heading in a more positive direction. Sometimes you may find that it becomes clear during counselling that the future may not be together. If this is the case, it is important to look at how you will communicate going forward, especially if there are children involved. There is no set agenda for your sessions. We will work flexibly, at a pace and in the direction you feel most helpful.
I offer sessions during the day and in the evenings. I also offer some sessions on Saturdays by arrangement.
How counselling can help
For many people, being able to talk to someone who is totally impartial and non-judgemental can feel very helpful. Each hour that you spend in the sessions gives you a safe space in which to explore your emotions in a way that feels calm and takes the drama out of the situation. Taking what you have discussed away with you and putting it into practice at home can often be enough to break the cycle that you have been in and herald the start of a new way of communicating together in a more open and honest manner.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a fully qualified Relate trained counsellor, and also work as a mediator through ARCH Resolution in Harrogate. I have been involved in a variety of diverse family and neighbour cases. I also see clients via BUPA’s employee assistance scheme. I am a registered member of BACP and work within their ethical framework and practice guidelines. As part of good practice, I attend regular supervision and continuing professional development training.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Very flexible - days, evenings and weekends by arrangement