About me

I am truly passionate about helping individuals and couples create healthy relationships. Having worked for Relate in Gloucestershire, Berkshire and Warwickshire since 1996, I have had the pleasure of providing relationship counselling to people who have struggled due to painful relationship patterns.

It has been my privilege to witness the transformation of my clients as they break their destructive patterns - to form relationships that are based on honesty, respect, and true intimacy.

How may I help you?
I draw upon a broad spectrum of psychotherapeutic knowledge, I believe that no single approach has all the answers, therefore I can offer the most effective tools and techniques from different modalities and have helped clients overcome:

  • relationship breakdowns
  • renegotiating a relationship
  • end of a significant relationship
  • depression
  • life stage
  • low self-esteem after separation
  • bereavement
  • abuse
  • loneliness
  • stress and anxiety

My approach is to enable the exploration of feelings and thoughts about oneself and relationships with others and to understand the connection between how our past experiences and our current behaviours may result in negative outcomes. The process is collaborative, based on respect, and is non-judgemental.

Assessment Consultation
In my opinion, the key to gaining the best possible outcome is the therapeutic relationship between the therapist and the client(s). Therefore I will always recommend an Assessment Consultation to see if you feel comfortable working with me, likewise, to see if I can offer the expertise you need. The length of ongoing therapy will depend on your individual needs and is usually for a mutually agreed period discussed at the end of the Assessment Consultation.

Training, qualifications & experience

  • Diploma in Psychotherapy
  • Certified Relate Counsellor - Psychodynamic/Systemic
  • EFT Practitioner
  • NLP Practitioner
  • Solution Focused Brief Therapist

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Anxiety and depression

Photos & videos


From £55.00 to £75.00

Additional information

A Free Introductory Call...
If you are unsure then why not take the opportunity to contact me to arrange a suitable time for a free 15-minute consultation by phone, Skype, or Zoom with no obligation - where I can answer any questions you may have, it is also important to see if you will feel comfortable working with me, likewise, to see if I can offer the expertise you need.

Many of my clients who have engaged in the virtual service over the last 20 months have reported that there is little if any notable difference between this and in-person sessions, in some respects it is far more flexible and saves time on travel to the venue. 

ZOOM VIRTUAL CONFERENCING sessions are encrypted to ensure confidentiality.  However, it is every clients' responsibility to manage their own privacy and level of disclosure when meeting online 

ZOOM VIRTUAL SESSION FEES - I have been successfully running 100's of online sessions with individuals and couples across the UK in the last 18 months, below are the fees for the virtual service: 

  • For individuals, the assessment consultation will be £55.00 including ongoing sessions.
  • For couples, the assessment consultation and all ongoing sessions will be £65.

IN-PERSON FEES  -  Sessions will be held at the Regency Practice in Cheltenham.

  • Cheltenham. For couple counselling per session £75.
  • For individual counselling per session £65.


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Further information

Here is a little feedback from some of my clients:

"I have not had an opportunity to say how much I appreciated all you did for us. I was really at the end of my tether when I contacted you and felt almost as if there was no way forward. You have helped to give us hope and a new way forward and I cannot thank you enough. It is so good to have my husband no longer depressed and for us as a couple to be closer and happier and to talk to one another. I feel we have learned skills to help us in the future." - John and Penny

"Just to say thank you for your support and insight over the past few months, and for helping me to find a better place in life." Noola G.

"Honora enabled me (a notoriously closed soul) to find an outlet to talk in a space that I felt supported and understood. This proved alien to me at first but due to her help I think/hope my wife's understanding of me, and in contrast, my greater understanding of her will play a huge part in our long future together." Mr & Mrs Samuel D

The Regency Practice
Clarendon House
42 Clarendon Street
GL50 3PL

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Older adults


Honora Totman

Honora Totman