Gurvinder Dhesi MBACP, MA, MBPsS, BSc. Counselling & Psychotherapy
My name is Gurvinder and I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. I have 10 years’ experience practising in the NHS and various therapeutic community-based settings. I became a counsellor after my own very positive experience of being a client in long-term therapy, which made lasting changes to how I saw and felt about my life.
I offer individual counselling and psychotherapy and also group therapy in Stoke Newington, Stamford Hill, Hackney N16 and undertake short-term and long-term therapeutic work with the aim of enabling you to enhance your life and to live it more fully. I will work collaboratively with you to identify the sources of your difficulties or concerns, and help you to gain a deeper insight into yourself. I am committed to providing sessions in a safe, confidential and non-judgemental environment. I also provide counselling in Punjabi, Hindi, and Urdu.
About my counselling and psychotherapy
I offer evidence based psychological therapy which is collaborative, respectful and tailored to you. My aim is to help you understand yourselves and to gain insight through self-knowledge and lived experience. My hope is that you get to know and accept who you truly are, and in the process find meaning in life and overcome its difficulties. By gaining insight you can take charge of your life and be empowered to make informed choices.
The way I work
I am trained as an integrative counsellor and combine approaches to psychotherapy based on the presenting concerns and needs of my clients. I take the view that there is no single approach that can treat all people in all situations as each individual’s counselling is specific to their individual needs and personal circumstances. I see individuals on a weekly basis. It's sometimes possible however to arrange a one off single session or more intense blocks of sessions can be arranged which can be very effective during crisis.
Area of Work
I am experienced in helping people who have difficulties with: Addiction; Anger; Anxiety, Stress and Panic Attacks; Bereavement and Loss; Depression; Domestic Abuse and Sexual Violence involving Trauma focused Therapy; Relationship Problems. I explain more about each of these below.
Frequently indulging in something that feels good at the time then causes other problems is a vicious cycle that can be hard to get out of. It could be drugs, drink, sex, anxiety, the list goes on. Working together we will explore and identify the triggers that lead to the addictive behaviour and find new ways to break the vicious cycle you are in through making alternative choices to achieve positive change.
Are you experiencing feelings of rage that feel impossible to contain, leading to explosive outbursts, breaking things, becoming violent, arguing with the people around you, losing your temper quickly, and lashing out physically or verbally? We can work together to identify the triggers for your anger and to find different ways for you to respond and express your emotions appropriately. By learning methods to manage your anger you can use it constructively to motivate yourself or solve problems.
Anxiety, Stress, & Panic Attacks
Though these issues can affect different people in different ways, I have put them together under the same umbrella as they can all be debilitating and overwhelming in a similar way, causing difficulty with functioning on a day-to-day basis; you may find yourself avoiding certain social situations and other people, or put off carrying out necessary daily tasks and activities. Recognising the negative effect anxiety, stress, and panic attacks have on your life, and understanding that this is not OK is an important first step. Counselling and psychotherapy can help, as through working together we will understand the difficulties you're experiencing and identify any underlying issues that may be causing your anxiety, stress, or panic attacks. Once your personal stress triggers are identified we will find new ways of coping thereby reducing their occurrence.
Bereavement & Loss
This could be grief following the death of loved ones, your own serious illness, or the loss of something or someone. Through counselling I can help you with understanding your mourning process, explore issues that could potentially prevent you from moving on, resolve any conflict still remaining, and aid you in adjusting to a new sense of self.
If you're feeling deeply unmotivated and disconnected, unable to engage in life, or in a low mood that feels inescapable no matter what you do or try, constantly tearful and worried, having problems with concentration, irritable and intolerant of others, or indecisive then you may be experiencing depression. Psychotherapy can help you move forward.
Domestic Abuse and Sexual Violence
I have many years of experience of working as a front line practitioner with women and girls affected by domestic and sexual violence. I aim to provide trauma focused therapy creating a therapeutic process that is reparation in nature, building trust through transparency within the client/therapist relationship. I work at my client’s pace to create a safe environment where the presenting trauma can be explored. I will work collaboratively with you in order to restore the power and control that the abuse took way and to empower you to make your own informed life choices and not to be defined by the abuse.
Intimate relationships are the source of great highs and sometimes unbearable lows, whether it is with your family, partner or friends. You may also be finding work colleagues difficult or be struggling to adapt to different social situations while maintaining a true sense of 'me'. We can explore and understand the emotional dynamic that upsets the relationships most important to you.
I offer 2 different kinds of group therapy; Psychoanalytic based and CBT based. I explain more about each below.
Psychoanalytic Based Group Therapy
“There is nothing inhuman, evil, or irrational which does not give some comfort, provided it is shared by a group.” - Erich Fromm
Psychoanalytic based group therapy is a useful way for people who share a common problem to get support and advice from each other.
While a group may seem a bit intimidating at first, I have found from running therapeutic groups that once people overcome this worry they really benefit from meeting and sharing with others in the group. It can help you realise you’re not alone in your experiences.
The group will look at how the past is relevant to the present and I will guide you through this process. This type of therapy is concerned with how things are here and now. It is not possible to prevent pain and trouble in the future but we can build up emotional and mental resilience to become more able to cope with the problems and frustrations of life.
CBT Based Group Therapy
“Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them.” – Epictetus
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a talking therapy that looks at the way our thoughts and feelings affect the way we behave. CBT is based on the idea that your thoughts, feelings, physical sensations and actions are interconnected, and that negative thoughts and feelings can trap you in a vicious cycle of behaviour. It aims to help you crack this cycle by breaking down overwhelming problems into smaller parts and showing you how to change these negative patterns to improve the way you feel.
Unlike some other talking therapy, in CBT the focus is on your current problems, rather than issues from your past. It looks for practical ways to improve your state of mind on a daily basis.
Please visit my website to find out more about group therapy.
I work integratively and creatively using existing traditional theoretical frameworks identified under psychodynamic, humanistic, and behavioural schools of thought. It’s not easy to convey meaningful information about talking therapy or myself as a therapist on a website. Research consistently shows it's the client/therapist relationship which is all important, more than the approach used. Each person and individual session is unique, so how I work is determined by what difficulties are being experienced at that time and the outcome hoped for. My approach focuses on the interaction between the two people in the therapy room.
Training, qualifications & experience
My professional qualifications and training
- BSc in Psychology- Brunel University
- Certificate in Person-Centred Counselling- London Metropolitan University.
- MA in Integrative Counselling- London Metropolitan University.
- The Fundamentals of Therapeutic Mentoring in Addressing the Emotional Repercussions of Dyslexia - GroOops
- Working with Trauma- CPD WPF.
- Supporting survivors of rape and sexual abuse- RASASC.
- Working with Survivors of Domestic and Sexual Violence-MARAC accredited .
- Working with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)- RASASC.
I am currently studying a certificate in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)- Institute of Counselling (IoC) and attend various continuous professional development training courses as a part of my clinical development. I also have a growing interest in trauma work and will be looking towards further development in this field.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
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Individual counselling & Psychotherapy
Individual sessions costs £60 per session. I also offer concessional fees based on circumstances. Fees are payable by cash or direct debt bank transferred before each session and are non-refundable. Fees are reviewed each year and I will inform you well in advance of changes. I charge for missed or cancelled sessions outside of the agreed 48 hours’ notice period, unless an alternative time during that calendar week is agreed.
Psychoanalytic based Group Therapy
Sessions last for 60 minutes and take place every week at the same time and place. The work is open ended and the duration of the group will be determined by the members of the group. Each session costs £30 per person.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy based Group Therapy
Each session will last for 2 hours and costs £30 per person. CBT based group therapy takes place over 12 sessions with group members making a commitment to attend all sessions.
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Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
|Other languages:||Punjabi, Hindi, Urdu|
Types of client