Gayle Creasey UKCP
Welcome to my profile which I hope you will find helpful. My name is Gayle Creasey and I offer counselling and psychotherapy for adults, couples and young people aged 5-20 years. I also offer mindfulness and self-compassion training for adults and young people.
I have a private practice just outside Beaconsfield in Buckinghamshire.
I qualified as an Integrative Child Psychotherapist in 2007 and as a mindfulness teacher in 2011. My counselling and psychotherapy work with adults has grown out of the extensive mindfulness training with adults that I have offered over the past six years. Learning mindfulness can highlight areas in life where you might want to understand yourself better and habits of thinking and behaviour you might want to change. Sometimes mindfulness is not enough on its own and I have found that a combination of mindfulness and counselling or psychotherapy can be very helpful.
I have completed training with the International Centre for Clinical Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy and work with couples wanting to heal past and current hurts, end difficult dynamics and deepen their connection.
All couples go through difficult times. Sometimes we get stuck in re-occurring patterns of distress which can undermine the fundamental connection in our relationship. This can feel very lonely, frustrating and painful.
These are some of the difficulties which bring people to couples counselling:
- communication breakdown, frequent arguments
- blaming and criticism
- sense of isolation and hurt feelings
- withdrawing, stonewalling or distancing
- issues with intimacy and sex
- affairs and betrayal of trust
- discerning separation or navigating divorce
- fertility issues
- adjusting to the birth of a baby
- cross-cultural relationships
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a type of couples counselling. It has been applied with great success to couples struggling with problems in their relationship.
EFT focuses on the emotional connection between partners or spouses by:
- de-escalating the conflict
- creating a safe emotional connection
- strengthening bonds between partners
Research studies find that 70-75% of couples receiving EFT move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements.
When a relationship is working well, partners will feel they have someone they can depend on to be there for them and someone who is responsive to them. With the support of a caring understanding partner, life’s problems become more bearable and our well-being is good.
When relationships are under stress, couples develop unhelpful patterns of managing the tension between them. These coping strategies often lead to endless arguments or an avoidance of communication with problems bubbling away in the silence. Both strategies increase the distance between partners.
Couples counselling can help you understand yourself and your partner better which will make it easier to interact positively with one another. Beyond learning skills like de-escalating conflicts and keeping arguments healthy and constructive, couples counselling can help you strengthen the very foundation of your relationship through a deeper and more resilient emotional bond.
How I work with couples:
I offer a safe space where both of you can feel listened to and valued and together we can explore what is happening in your relationship.
I do not take sides or offer ready made solutions to your situation. Instead, couples counselling can provide you with an opportunity to:
- address stuck patterns and negative cycles in your relationship
- make sense of your own emotions and those of your partner
- learn more about your own and your partner’s inner world and emotional needs
develop deeper understanding, closeness and safety in the relationship.
Everything discussed is strictly confidential and handled with warmth, care and sensitivity.
Couples counselling takes on average 12-20 sessions, depending on the level of couple distress and commitment to the relationship and the counselling itself.
Please be aware that recovering from an affair or when there is a history of trauma it is a more complex process and usually takes at least a year to complete couples counselling.
I offer daytime and evening sessions Mondays to Friday between 8am- 8pm.
Counselling & Psychotherapy for Adults
Sometimes it can be hard to know what to do with our difficult thoughts and feelings and to find words to communicate with the people who care about us. Often this can leave us feeling confused, upset or angry, and as though the painful feelings are taking over our life. When we cannot make sense of and manage our feelings, they are often expressed though our behaviour and we can find ourselves being angry and aggressive, tearful, withdrawn or turning to alcohol, drugs, food, sex, over work, self harm or any other means to numb ourselves to the pain.
We can feel alone and separate from those around us, even family and friends, when we are struggling with life. Sometimes we cannot confide how we are really feeling for fear of upsetting others.
In a safe and confidential space, I offer you the chance to talk, and to feel accepted and understood. I will not to judge or criticize you, or tell you what you should or should not be doing. Instead I will listen and try to understand what it is like to be you.
Together, you will come to understand your thoughts, feelings and experiences more clearly so that you can make sense of your situation. You may find using the creative arts helpful in this process. With new understanding, you will be able to identify your needs, desires and the first steps towards feeling more at ease with yourself and your life again.
I am experienced in working with issues such as:
- anger management & aggression
- anxiety & emotional worries
- bereavement & loss
- depression/ post natal depression
- domestic abuse
- family issues
- low self esteem
- relationship issues
- separation & divorce
- trauma & abuse
Counselling & Psychotherapy for Children & Adolescents
Young people have difficult thoughts and feelings for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes it can be difficult for them to know what to do with these thoughts and feelings, and to find words to communicate with the people who care about them.
Therapy can offer a child a safe and confidential space to explore how they are feeling, what they need and how to achieve their goals. Creative Arts therapy allows the young person to use art materials and play to make sense of their situation.
I have worked as a counsellor and psychotherapist with children and teenagers for nine years, both in private practice and in primary and secondary schools with the Place2Be Project, YMCA and Cabrini Children’s Society.
I worked for 3 years for an organisation called Rise providing psychotherapy to children and young people who have experienced domestic abuse and with local authorities offering therapeutic support to young people who are fostered and adopted.
I currently have a private practice in Central London (WC2N) and Chalfont St Peter, Buckinghamshire.
I have extensive experience of working with issues such as:
- Anger & aggression
- Anxiety & emotional worries
- Bereavement & loss
- Domestic abuse
- Friendship difficulties
- Lack of confidence
- Low self esteem
- Parental separation & divorce
- Self harm
- School difficulties
- Trauma & abuse
- Withdrawn behaviour
Creative Arts Therapy
Sometimes it can be a struggle to find words to express how we are feeling. Other times, we use words but can be left feeling that the full force of our feelings and experience is not conveyed by them. This can leave us feeling alone and separate from those around us.
Using the creative arts means that you, or your child, do not always have to rely on words to express what is going on inside you. Instead, you can use images and metaphor to connect with the feelings and issues affecting your well being.
Children and young people can find it especially hard to talk about what is going on for them and relying purely on talking within their therapy can often leave the child feeling that the therapy is stressful and ‘hard work’. By using the creative arts, I aim to bring a sense of playfulness, fun and exploration to children and adults alike.
What are the Creative Arts?
I work using drawing, painting, sand tray, clay, music, poetry and puppets. Each of these offers a way to externalise, explore and find a language for your thoughts and feelings.
Pease be re-assured that you, or your child, do not need to feel creative or good at art. Using the creative arts may help you to find a new, unexpected language for what you are feeling and it is this language which is important, not being artistic. In some, or all, of your sessions you or your child may just want to talk and I will always be guided by you.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf" Jon Kabat-Zinn
People training in mindfulness report that as a result they:
- find new and effective ways of managing stress & anxiety
- learn to handle their thoughts, moods and emotions more effectively
- are better able to deal with physical, mental, emotional and social issues
- live their lives more fully
What is Mindfulness?
Using meditation, breathing and simple exercises, mindfulness helps you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings so that instead of being overwhelmed by them, you're better able to manage them.
Mindfulness has been called "affectionate attention" because it deepens your potential for kindness and understanding by cultivating new ways of being which are less about judging yourself and your experiences and more about noticing what is actually happening in any moment.
While the roots of mindfulness lie in Buddhist meditation practices, it incorporates recent scientific advances to offer a secular approach. It is a skill that anyone can train in and research shows that such training brings great benefits to well being.
The Benefits of Mindfulness:
Mindfulness can greatly increase our enjoyment of life and the things that really matter most to us, including our relationships and it can help us to appreciate the ordinary, everyday pleasures in our lives
Mindfulness has also been proven to help with:
- addictive behaviours
Mindfulness has a positive affect on physical problems such as heart disease, hypertension and chronic pain. It also improves concentration and attention, and strengthens the immune response, helping to defend against illness.
I offer one to one mindfulness training and run 8 week mindfulness group courses (MBSR/MBCT). Please see my website for details about current courses and monthly mindfulness half day workshops.
Training, qualifications & experience
I qualified as an Integrative Child Psychotherapist from the Institute for Art in Therapy and Education (IATE) in 2007 and have been accredited with the United Kingdom Council of Psychotherapists (UKCP) since 2009.
I trained to teach mindfulness with Bangor University in 2011. I became a certified .b mindfulness teacher of young people in 2014 and trained with the Centre for Mindful Self Compassion to teach the 8 week Mindful Self Compassion course in 2014.
My training to work with couples was with the International Centre for Clinical Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy. I have completed the Externship training course for couples.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Physical abuse
Individual sessions £55 per 50 minute session.
Couples sessions £65 per 60 minute session/ £80 per 75 minute session.
Please contact me to discuss costs of mindfulness courses and individual sessions.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
8am - 8pm weekdays
Types of client