Elaine Tarsh MBACP (Accred) Couples Counselling, Sex & Porn Addiction Therapy
Is your relationship going through a sticky patch? Perhaps you and your partner are bickering all the time or you have lost the 'spark'. Maybe you or your partner have been struggling with an addiction to porn and don't know where to turn for help and support. Trying to make changes in your life and relationship can be tough. I help couples and individuals improve their relationships.
I am a Relate trained counsellor and sex therapist with over 17 years’ experience, offering specialist therapy for couples and individuals experiencing relationship difficulties and problems around intimacy. I offer a professional, flexible and highly confidential service.
I know from experience that deciding to seek counselling can be challenging and I aim to make the process as accessible and comfortable as possible. As an integrative counsellor, I can draw upon several different psychological approaches to meet the needs of clients.
Many issues can cause relationship problems not helped by the pressured way we live our lives and I provide a secure, non-judgemental approach to improve communication. I also offer sex therapy to clients who are experiencing problems with intimacy.
I work to make real sustainable changes in relationships. If you have lost your sense of connection and you are stuck in a relationship where it is not good enough to stay and not bad enough to go then get in touch to book an initial assessment.
If you have any questions please call and leave a message and I will get back to you as soon as possible. Please see below for more details of my work and the areas that I have had success in tackling with clients.
Many issues can cause relationship problems. Issues I have worked with include:
Abuse, Affairs and betrayal, Anxiety, Arguments, Bereavement, Commitment to the relationship, Communication difficulties, Depression, Domestic Violence, Feelings of loss when children leave home, Issues with stepfamilies, Loss of identity, Low self-esteem, Parenting, Past relationship issues that are affecting the present one, Problematic viewing of pornography (porn addiction), Retirement concerns, Separation and divorce, Sexual disagreements, Sexuality
Counselling offers the opportunity to explore your relationship and think about what you might want to change. It is not about returning to the early days of your relationship but about what is right for the present and the future.
The end of a relationship is never easy and a relationship breakdown can be both painful and confusing. If your relationship has ended and you are struggling to deal with the fall-out, I can support you throughout this painful time. Counselling offers you a fresh perspective, the chance to constructively manage your separation and successfully move on.
Sex and Relationship Therapy
Sometimes sexual problems and relationship difficulties are connected, and it is not uncommon for couples to be unhappy with their sexual relationship. By working together, it is possible to understand why these problems have emerged and work towards resolving them. I have worked with clients with a wide range of sexual issues including:
- Difficulties reaching orgasm (Anorgasmia), Delayed ejaculation, Difficulties arising from sexual abuse, Erectile difficulties, Internet addiction, Lack of sexual information, Loss of desire or low desire for partner or sex, Pain during intercourse (Dyspareunia), Premature ejaculation, Vaginismus
I have experience working with clients concerned about relationship and intimacy problems, generalised anxiety, social/health anxiety, depression, postnatal depression, abuse, domestic violence and moving on post-divorce or the end of a relationship.
Sex Addiction Therapy
Sex addiction covers any sexual activity that feels ‘out of control’ and which, despite trying to stop, clients find they are unable to do so. It may include a single behaviour or many different types of sexual behaviour. Some examples are:
- Compulsive viewing of pornography (often escalating), Chat lines, Visiting prostitutes, Multiple ongoing affairs, Visiting sex cinemas, Exhibitionism, Voyeurism, Compulsive masturbation, Fetishes, Anonymous sex, Telephone sex, Illegal sexual practices
Acknowledging that you have a problem is the first step to sorting the problem out. Many people struggle to deal with these issues alone, even when they are determined to change their behaviour. If you want to explore how I work call me for a no-obligation 10-minute chat.
Take a look at my website www.pornaddictiontherapy.co.uk for further information.
Support for Partners
Discovering that your partner has a problem with out of control sexual behaviour is devastating. More often than not partners feel isolated and don’t know where to turn. Their partner may be in denial and they don’t know what to do. I help partners, both male, and female, through this overwhelming experience, often when they don’t know where to turn. If you think this may describe your situation then call me for a no-obligation 10-minute chat to see if I may be able to help.
Training, qualifications & experience
BA (Hons) Social Sciences, Manchester Metropolitan University
Certificate in Marital & Couple Counselling (Relate)
Postgraduate Certificate in Relationship Therapy (Psychosexual Therapy), the University of Hull in collaboration with Relate
Level 5 Diploma in Sex Addiction Counselling
I continue to undertake on-going professional development courses.
All counselling and therapy is strictly confidential and I adhere to the BACP Code of Ethics.
I hold an enhanced DBS (CRB) check and professional indemnity insurance.
I have been counselling for 16 years including 17 years as a couple counsellor and psychosexual therapist at Relate.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I have a particular interest in working with cultural difference within relationships. Cultural and religious differences matter less when couples first get together but, as time goes on, different attitudes and beliefs matter more and can become contentious issues.
If you or a member of your family has issues with sexuality, I work with the aim of supporting acceptance and understanding.
My core beliefs incorporate respect, kindness and truthfulness.
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Individual Counselling - £60
Couple Counselling - £70
Sex Addiction Therapy - £60
Telephone/online Counselling - £60/£70
I am occasionally able to offer lower-cost sessions during the day. Please do ask.
Payment is by card, bank transfer or cash.
My practice is based in Radlett, Hertfordshire, a short distance from Radlett Station - 30 minutes from Kings Cross by train. I cover Radlett, Shenley, Elstree, Borehamwood, St Albans, Bricket Wood, Watford, Bushey, Hemel Hempstead and North London including Stanmore, Mill Hill and Edgware.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Monday to Thursday - 8.30 am - 7.30 pm
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|