Caroline Neilson Adv. Dip, Registered MBACP.
The Parish Centre
Everyone brings their unique way of being into every relationship and I feel that the counselling alliance must reflect this. I believe everyone needs to feel valued, respected and supported , but life can often throw up situations and circumstances, whereby you may lose sight of the things that you need most for yourself. Being listened to and heard can bring about a great sense of relief , especially when you feel that you are facing your problems all alone.
I see the counselling relationship as a joint venture, in which the counsellor facilitates exploration into present and past experiences, enabling greater understanding of what has shaped the person you are now and how you can create the changes you would like.
I believe that the first aim of the therapeutic relationship is to create a trusting, safe environment which establishes a building block from which to explore difficult issues. Choosing a counsellor who is right for you is an important part of the process.
It may feel daunting to make the first contact. Sometimes the anxiety can be lessened if you have been able to prepare for the first meeting . I am happy to respond to an email and then have a brief chat before you decide to make your first visit.
As an integrative counsellor, I work from a humanistic grounding, which means that I feel it is essential to offer a warm, accepting, non-judgmental and authentic working relationship. The Integrative approach also means that I work with bringing hidden aspects of yourself into awareness and include transpersonal elements in my way of working. The transpersonal is an internal knowing - the part of you that knows when something does or doesn't feel right, but is often drowned out by doubts and fears. This is an holistic approach, incorporating intuition, emotions, thoughts, behaviours and body awareness.
I have worked with a variety of issues including;- trauma, sexual abuse, self-harm , obsessive and addictive behaviours, suicidal and destructive thoughts. My first aim is to develop a trusting, genuine relationship, which fosters a sense of safety . I believe in working with the person in front of me, rather than focusing on the problem . In my experience, once an individual begins to accept themselves and understand why they have developed a certain behaviour , the behaviour/addiction begins to assume less importance in their life and they begin to build healthier structures to replace the old behaviours.
I can also offer different ways of working which tap into the imagination such as:- body awareness, working with objects, sand, writing, metaphors, drawing and dreams.
Training, qualifications & experience
Surrey Drugs and Alcohol Care - Telephone counselling for individuals with alcohol and substance related issues.
Volunteer Counselling Guildcare , caring for carers
Volunteer Counselling Information shop , working with young Adults
Advance Diploma in Integrative counselling and Therapy
BACP - Certificate of Proficiency (Registered number 065899)
Transactional Analysis TA101
Counselling skills levels 1,2,3 NCFE
Previous background :-
Working for a charity organisation teaching refugee children language, education and life skills.
Primary school teacher, English BA HONs with QTS
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anorexia nervosa
- Asperger's syndrome
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Bulimia nervosa
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
An introductory session lasting around 45 mins ( cost £ 20) - to get to know each other and discuss what you might need from the counselling relationship.
A counselling session costs £40 and lasts for one hour. We meet on a regular weekly basis.
A Concessionary rate of £30 - £35 is available for those on a lower income, subject to agreement.
Home visits may also be possible to arrange for individuals who have difficulties getting out.
Couples counselling £50 an hour.
"I am so grateful to be able to work with Caroline. When I look at how far I've come, my experience of life has changed through this process and feels so much richer now. That's not to say I don't still have difficulties and a way to go, but I've developed and continue to develop the resolve to deal with these. Nor is that to say, I haven't had to work hard myself, but being in therapy throughout this has been a tremendous support. With Caroline, I really feel like I have someone there who is on my side and a lot of the time that is all I have needed. Having such a supportive relationship in my life has, I feel, been key in developing a much better relationship with myself. 5* recommendation from me :)"
Mark ( Worthing )
'Caroline instantly made me feel at ease and conversation started easily. Throughout the sessions, I was encouraged to start focusing on myself again and how it important it was to show my needs and weaknesses to others and not keep my anxieties to myself .
Caroline didn't solve my problems, she showed me how to work through them.
After each session , I felt inspired and confident about my future. '
'I've recently come to the end of a long journey and chapter in my life and I can honestly say I feel brand new! Thankfully I had Caroline, with me, to hold my hand through the ups and downs.
When I first came to see Caroline she made me feel comfortable and welcome which, for me, helped me relax and, probably for the first time, helped me be me. She was always calming, welcoming and very professional. Sometimes it was hard, sometimes I felt sad and some things were difficult to deal with and work through, but I never felt judged. I've come a long way and I now feel like I know who I am and where I fit into my life.
I would highly recommend anyone who has any struggles, in life, to take the step and have some counselling. Let's face it, that is all of us! , and Caroline is the perfect professional to help you find the way to a happier, better you.'
Female ( Arundel )
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Types of client