Caroline Neilson Adv. Dip, Registered MBACP.
Everyone brings their unique, and individual , way of being into every relationship and I feel that the counselling alliance must reflect this.
Being listened to, and heard, can bring about a great sense of relief , especially when you feel that you are facing your problems all alone. Everyone has the right to feel valued , cared for and supported. However , people will often put the needs of others before themselves. It is important , first and foremost, to develop self care and compassion. This is not selfish ( as people often tend to think ). It is from this place that we can be of most help to others.
I see the counselling relationship as a joint venture, in which the counsellor facilitates exploration into past and present experiences, enabling greater understanding of what has shaped you and how you can create the changes you would like now.
I believe that the first aim of the therapeutic relationship is to create a trusting, safe environment which establishes a building block from which to explore difficult issues. Choosing a counsellor who is right for you is an important part of the process.
It may feel daunting to make the first contact. Sometimes the anxiety can be lessened if you have been able to prepare for the first meeting . I am happy to respond to an email and then have a brief chat before you decide to make your first visit.
As an integrative counsellor, I work from a humanistic grounding, which means that I feel it is essential to offer a warm, accepting, non-judgmental and authentic working relationship. The Integrative approach also means that I work with bringing hidden aspects of yourself into awareness and include transpersonal elements in my way of working. The transpersonal is an internal knowing - the part of you that knows when something does or doesn't feel right, but is often drowned out by doubts and fears. This is an holistic approach, incorporating intuition, emotions, thoughts, behaviours and body awareness.
I have worked with a variety of issues including;- anxiety, depression, trauma, sexual abuse, self-harm , obsessive and addictive behaviours, suicidal and destructive thoughts. My first aim is to develop a trusting, genuine relationship, which fosters a sense of safety . I believe in working with the person in front of me, rather than focusing on the problem . In my experience, once an individual begins to accept themselves and understand why they have developed a certain behaviour , the behaviour/addiction begins to assume less importance in their life and they begin to build healthier structures to replace the old behaviours.
I can also offer different ways of working which tap into the imagination such as:- body awareness, working with objects, sand, writing, metaphors, drawing and dreams.
Training, qualifications & experience
8 Years Private practice
10 years, including training hours.
Advance Diploma in Integrative counselling and Therapy
BACP - Certificate of Proficiency (Registered number 065899) AEDP - Accelerated Emotional Dynamic Therapy - AEDP Level 1 Therapist
Transactional Analysis TA101
Counselling skills levels 1,2,3 NCFE
Distance learning Assessor - Assessing NCFE Counselling skills 2
Surrey Drugs and Alcohol Care - Telephone counselling for individuals with alcohol and substance related issues.
Volunteer Counselling Guildcare , caring for carers
Volunteer Counselling Information shop , working with young Adults
Previous background :-
Working for a charity organisation teaching refugee children language, education and life skills.
Primary school teacher, English BA HONs with QTS
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
An introductory session lasting around 50/60 mins ( cost £ 35) - to get to know each other and discuss what you might need from the counselling relationship.
A counselling session costs £45 and lasts for one hour. We meet on a regular weekly or fortnightly basis , depending on what your budget will allow for .
A Concessionary rate of £35 - £40 is available for those on a lower income, subject to agreement.
Home visits may also be possible to arrange for individuals who have difficulties getting out.
Couples counselling £65 an hour.
"I am so grateful to be able to work with Caroline. When I look at how far I've come, my experience of life has changed through this process and feels so much richer now. That's not to say I don't still have difficulties and a way to go, but I've developed and continue to develop the resolve to deal with these. Nor is that to say, I haven't had to work hard myself, but being in therapy throughout this has been a tremendous support. With Caroline, I really feel like I have someone there who is on my side and a lot of the time that is all I have needed. Having such a supportive relationship in my life has, I feel, been key in developing a much better relationship with myself. 5* recommendation from me :)"
Mark ( Worthing )
'Caroline instantly made me feel at ease and conversation started easily. Throughout the sessions, I was encouraged to start focusing on myself again and how it important it was to show my needs and weaknesses to others and not keep my anxieties to myself .
Caroline didn't solve my problems, she showed me how to work through them.
After each session , I felt inspired and confident about my future. '
'I've recently come to the end of a long journey and chapter in my life and I can honestly say I feel brand new! Thankfully I had Caroline, with me, to hold my hand through the ups and downs.
When I first came to see Caroline she made me feel comfortable and welcome which, for me, helped me relax and, probably for the first time, helped me be me. She was always calming, welcoming and very professional. Sometimes it was hard, sometimes I felt sad and some things were difficult to deal with and work through, but I never felt judged. I've come a long way and I now feel like I know who I am and where I fit into my life.
I would highly recommend anyone who has any struggles, in life, to take the step and have some counselling. Let's face it, that is all of us! , and Caroline is the perfect professional to help you find the way to a happier, better you.'
Female ( Arundel )