Bola Shonubi BA (Hons) MSc (Psych) (MBACP) Psychotherapist
Lily House 11/12 The Shrubberies
I am a Counsellor/Psychotherapist. Becoming a counsellor was something that I had a great interest in from a very, very early age. I wanted to listen to people, help them understand themselves and ultimately give hope.
As I matured and got older I began to look for organisations where I could volunteer to just listen and be there for people that were facing difficult times in their lives. I started volunteering at Mencap (I believe that is now called Mind). I realised that this was a calling/vocation and decided to find out how to train to become a qualified counsellor/psychotherapist. I started training in 1998 while working within another Industry that I knew I would be leaving to follow my calling.
I work predominantly within the psychodynamic model of psychotherapy. This type of therapy focuses on revealing the unconscious content of an individual's psyche to help relieve or understand where psychic tension originates or is coming from. To bring the unconscious mind into consciousness, this helps individuals to understand their deep rooted feelings. This helps to try and resolve the problems and issues that they are experiencing.
Our psyche can bury into our unconscious painful feelings and memories which are to difficult for the conscious mind to process. As a result of the burying of these painful memories and experiences individuals can sometimes behave in ways which they do not understand. Psychodynamic psychotherapy helps to understand these behaviours and make significant changes in these behaviours.
Individuals who are genuinely interested in exploring themselves and are looking for self knowledge as to why they behave the way they do,as well as symptom relief will benefit most from this type of therapy.
This type of therapy will also be of benefit to individuals who seem to “have it all” but still feel “empty” or troubled inside.
Training, qualifications & experience
Since 1998 I have completed various training courses in Counselling, culminating in qualifying with a Master of Science degree in Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy from Birkbeck College, University of London.
I began my clinical work, pre and post qualification at the Complex Care Clinic of St Ann's Hospital part of the Haringey, Enfield and Barnet NHS Trust in London. I provided psychodynamic therapy for individuals who had very complex psychological/emotional/mental health problems such as borderline personality disorder, paranoid schizoid disorders, depression, anxiety and many more. Most of the therapy that I provided was long term, face to face.
As well as providing therapy from my private practice at Lily House, I also work at the The Rectory Lane Psychotherapy Clinic at North Essex Partnership, NHS Foundation Trust. I provide psychotherapy for individuals who have very complex longstanding psychological and emotional issues.
I have also provided and still provide short term face to face counselling to individuals who as a result of traumatic life events in adulthood, have felt they have been unable to cope with or make sense of life anymore. Traumatic life events such as a death in the family, divorce, redundancy, domestic violence and other tragic life events.
I worked as a counsellor at the Enfield Women's Centre providing counselling to women that had experienced domestic violence, childhood sexual abuse, rape, depression, anxiety, low self esteem and a general inability to cope with life.
I have also worked with women who have undergone abortions or termination of pregnancies and are having difficulty with the decision they made or the decision they were pressured into.
Summary of Qualifications
Master of Science (Psychotherapy and Counselling)
Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling & Psychotherapy
Higher Certificate In Counselling
Bachelor of Arts - Philosophy
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship issues
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
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Assessment session at Lily House £75.00 for 60 minutes
Therapy sessions at Lilyhouse £65.00 for 50 minute session.
Couples therapy £85.00 for 50 mins
Assessment session at Leadenhall £95.00 for 60 minutes.
Couples therapy at Leadenhall £120.00 for 50 minutes
Therapy Sessions at Leadenhall £85.00 for 50 minutes
The assessment session is not a therapy session, it is the consultation session where I will find out about you, your experiences from early childhood to adulthood, your family setup, your work (if you do work) and what brings you to seek therapy. By doing this I will try to identify or understand the psychological or personal issues and problems that you are experiencing.
Towards the end of the assessment session we will decide if you will start weekly therapy with me as your therapist under the psychodynamic model. Or if you feel that you are not yet ready for therapy or the psychodynamic model is not tor you.
Therapy sessions are client led, unlike the assessment session where I ask questions and am given answers by you. In the therapy session whatever you as the client brings to the therapy session is what will be explored. Sessions take place at least once a week at the same time and on the same day of the week.
I am registered with Private Health Insurers.
I adhere to the BACP ethical framework in my practice.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Mondays - Fridays 8.00 am - 6.00pm.
Types of client