About me

Questions you may be asking: Will my relationships always be like this? How can we/I overcome the past & familiar patterns? Why did they have an affair? When will we be intimate again? Are we still in love? Should we separate? Am I a bad person? Why do I feel sad? What’s this anxiety about? Is this depression? How do I/we stop fighting?

My passion is to support and walk alongside my clients experience of uncertainty & change - from couples & individuals who feel it's make or break to families in conflict. As a specialist relationship counsellor, I can help you navigate the challenges and fears you face together or alone. I've been featured on BBC Radio 4 Woman's Hour  - please see link: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p06hfxg9

I've adapted my practice from largely in person to online counselling, via video/teletherapy to help stem the spread of Coronavirus.

Being a relationship specialist, I use my insight and expertise to work with you on your issues, helping you “stop being stuck” and moving you forward. I help you to dig deeper and look beyond your behaviour and emotions, from shouting & anger to panic attacks & despair. Together we find new ways of being with tools to help you manage better and navigate life’s twists and turns.

In my work, I see people struggling with how they communicate - often this can be symptomatic of something else, from infidelity, depression to intimacy or family issues. Often the same patterns keep repeating. I can help you break this cycle.

I've worked with Relate, the relationship charity, where I saw families, couples & individuals stuck in patterns of distress and anxiety because they didn't understand how to create change. It's frustrating and at this point a relationship counsellor like myself can help you take that step.

It warms my heart that I am helping people be in happier relationships, with themselves and those they cherish, particularly in these sad & difficult times.

As I used to live and practice as a counsellor in London, East Dulwich, SE22 for years and recently moved to Sheffield where I grew up & love, I understand many different ways of being and living. Whether in Sheffield or London, taking steps to reach for help is courageous. I invite couples, families and individuals of all backgrounds to get in touch.

Training, qualifications & experience

Being trained as an integrative counsellor, I combine many psychological theories, from psychodynamic – the inner world - to systemic practice – the wider contexts of your life.

I believe that no one glove fits all – which is why being trained in different theoretical modalities gives me the flexibility to adapt according to client needs. Not only do I combine, narrative therapy techniques with attachment based theory, I also use mindfulness practice to complement the healing process.

  • PG Diploma Couples Relationship Counselling
  • Relate Institute Introduction to Counselling
  • PG Certificate in Systemic Practice with Families and Couples - IFT
  • Individuals Counsellor – Quaggy Children’s Development Trust
  • Trained Samaritan Volunteer
  • Relate Suicide Risk and Support Certification
  • Relate Institute Introduction to Mindfulness Certification
  • MBSR –Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, NICE accredited course
  • Advanced Relate Domestic Violence and Child Protection Safeguarding Certification
  • PG Dip Level Two Narrative Therapy -Institute of Narrative Therapy

Affiliations and memberships

  • MBACP registered member (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy)
  • Registered member AICTP (Association of Integrative Coach-Therapists Professionals)
  • Relate Registered Practitioner
  • BAATN member (The Black African and Asian Therapy Network)

Areas of work

  • Communication
  • Confidence & self-esteem
  • Conflict
  • Sexual Issues
  • Depression & anxiety
  • Family relationships
  • Infidelity/affairs
  • Intimacy & closeness
  • Jealousy & distrust
  • Relationship life stages
  • Separation/divorce
  • Crises – panic attacks
  • Pre-nuptial counselling
  • Understanding each other
  • Anger issues
  • Work relationships
  • Friendships
  • Personal development
  • Finding your SELF
  • Isolation and Fears
  • Bullying
  • Racism
  • Gender/sexuality.

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Relationship Issues. Infidelity. Affairs. Betrayal. Trauma. Rebuilding Trust. Sex. Intimacy.

Anxiety. Depression. Stress. Couples. Family Issues. Emotional Instability.

Panic attacks. Poor communication. Lack of self-esteem. Sadness. Loneliness. Self-harming.

Abuse. Verbal abuse. Emotional abuse. Physical abuse. Gender. Sexuality. Gay. Lesbian.

Photos & videos


Concessions offered for

  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors

Additional information


Couples counselling is weekly and can be either short term (4-12 sessions) or long-term (12 or more).

50minute sessions are £50.

Family counselling is weekly, fortnightly or monthly and can be either short term (4-12 sessions) or long-term (12 or more). These are always 60 minutes at £50.

Individual counselling is weekly and can be either short term (4-12 sessions) or long-term (12 or more). These are 50minute sessions at £50.

I have allocated slots that are at reduced rates for non-paid carers, NHS staff and students, please ask.

If you are having financial issues, then I can offer reduced packages - please ask.

Initial consultation

It’s important for you to get the right counsellor. I offer a reduced rate of £45 for this session, where you can see how it feels to work with me and decide if you wish to continue. There is no obligation. This initial session, is also for me to see if I can offer you the best form of counselling. It maybe after this time together, I refer you to a different counsellor or a more specialised service.


I have a 48hour cancellation policy. If this is not given I will charge the full amount of the session. Payments are made in advance of each session.

Notice of holidays is given two weeks in advance, unless there are unforeseen difficulties or circumstances – which will then be discussed.


I can offer daytime and evening slots - I will endeavour to respond within 24hours of receiving your email with my availability.

Further information

Whether you are a couple, a family or an individual - I would love to hear from you, as this means you have taken the first steps to facilitate change. Please go to my website for more details: https://rayoflightrelationshipcounselling.com

14 Brocco Bank
South Yorkshire
S11 8RR

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Older adults

Key details

There is no specific wheelchair access at my work premises currently.


Anshu Rastogi

Anshu Rastogi