Anshu Rastogi - Rayoflightrelationshipcounselling

Anshu Rastogi - Rayoflightrelationshipcounselling

Flat 3 166 Peckham Rye
East Dulwich
Greater London
SE22 9QH

175-177 Borough High Street
Greater London

0208 693 4863 / 07725 527 741

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About me

Questions some of you could be wondering about, before you get in touch: How can we/I overcome patterns from the past? Will my relationships always be like this? Why did they have an affair? When will we start being intimate again? What do we have to do to fall back in love? Should we separate? Why am I not bonding with my child? Why do I feel so low? Am I good enough? Who am I?

My expertise has helped listeners on BBC Radio 4 Woman's Hour-

Being a relationship specialist, I use my insight and expertise to work with you on your issues, helping you “stop being stuck” and moving you forward. I help clients to dig deeper and look beyond their behaviour and emotions. Together we find new ways of being with tools to help you manage better and navigate life’s twists and turns. My passion is to support and walk alongside my clients experience of uncertainty and change - from couples & individuals who feel it's make or break to families in conflict.

In my work, I see many people struggling with how they communicate - often this can be symptomatic of something else, from infidelity, depression to sexual or family issues. Often the same patterns keep repeating. I can help you break this cycle.

I also work with Relate, the relationship charity, where I see families and couples stuck in cycles of distress and anxiety because they don't understand how to create change. It's frustrating and at this point a relationship counsellor like myself can help you take that step.

It warms my heart that I am helping people be in happier relationships, with themselves and those they cherish. I invite couples, families and individuals of all backgrounds to get in touch. I offer counselling in a safe, calm and confidential space from East Dulwich & London Bridge (SE1 1HR, Thursdays, 11,15am, 12.15pm, 1.15pm only).

Training, qualifications & experience

Being trained as an integrative counsellor, I combine many psychological theories, from psychodynamic – the inner world - to systemic practice – the wider contexts of your life.

I believe that no one glove fits all – which is why being trained in different theoretical modalities gives me the flexibility to adapt according to client needs. Not only do I combine, narrative therapy techniques with attachment based theory, I also use mindfulness practice to complement the healing process.

  • PG Diploma Couples Relationship Counselling
  • Relate Institute Introduction to Counselling
  • PG Certificate in Systemic Practice with Families and Couples - IFT
  • Individuals Counsellor – Quaggy Children’s Development Trust
  • Trained Samaritan Volunteer
  • Relate Suicide Risk and Support Certification
  • Relate Institute Introduction to Mindfulness Certification
  • MBSR –Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, NICE accredited course
  • Advanced Relate Domestic Violence and Child Protection Safeguarding Certification
  • PG Dip Level Two Narrative Therapy -Institute of Narrative Therapy

Affiliations and memberships

  • MBACP registered member (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy)
  • Registered member AICTP (Association of Integrative Coach-Therapists Professionals)
  • Relate Registered Practitioner
  • BAATN member (The Black African and Asian Therapy Network)

Areas of work

  • Communication
  • Confidence & self-esteem
  • Conflict
  • Sexual Issues
  • Depression & anxiety
  • Family relationships
  • Infidelity/affairs
  • Intimacy & closeness
  • Jealousy & distrust
  • Relationship life stages
  • Separation/divorce
  • Crises – panic attacks
  • Pre-nuptial counselling
  • Understanding each other
  • Anger issues
  • Work relationships
  • Friendships
  • Personal development
  • Finding your SELF
  • Isolation and Fears
  • Bullying
  • Racism
  • Gender/sexuality.

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Other areas of counselling I deal with

Relationship Issues. Infidelity. Affairs. Betrayal. Trauma. Rebuilding Trust. Sex. Intimacy.

Anxiety. Depression. Stress. Couples. Family Issues. Emotional Instability. Porn Addiction.

Panic attacks. Poor communication. Lack of self-esteem. Sadness. Loneliness. Self-harming.

Abuse. Verbal abuse. Emotional abuse. Physical abuse. Gender. Sexuality. Gay. Lesbian.

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Couples counselling is weekly and can be either short term (4-12 sessions) or long-term (12 or more).

50minute sessions are £65.

Family counselling is weekly, fortnightly or monthly and can be either short term (4-12 sessions) or long-term (12 or more). These are always 60 minutes at £65.

Individual counselling is weekly and can be either short term (4-12 sessions) or long-term (12 or more). These are 50minute sessions at £65.

I have allocated slots that are at reduced rates for non-paid carers and students.

Initial consultation

It’s important for you to get the right counsellor. I offer a reduced rate of £55 for this session, where you can see how it feels to work with me and decide if you wish to continue. There is no obligation. This initial session, is also for me to see if I can offer you the best form of counselling. It maybe after this time together, I refer you to a different counsellor or a more specialised service.


I have a 48hour cancellation policy. If this is not given I will charge the full amount of the session. Payments are made in advance of each session.

Notice of holidays is given two weeks in advance, unless there are unforeseen difficulties or circumstances – which will then be discussed.

Further information

Whether you are a couple, a family of an individual - I would love to hear from you, as this means you have taken the first steps to facilitate change. Please go to my website for more details:

Please note I am also a personal coach-therapist and can offer coaching to those who require more work and personal goals and training. Go to:

Maps & Directions

London, SE22 9QH
London, SE1 1HR

Type of session

Online counselling: Yes
Telephone counselling: Yes
Face to face counselling: Yes
Home visits: No

Practical details

Sign language: Unspecified
Other languages: None


Accessibility information
Wheelchair access: Unspecified

There is no specific wheelchair access at either of my work premises currently.


I can offer daytime and evening slots - I will endeavour to respond within 24hours of receiving your email with my availability.

Types of client

Older adults