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Nick Haynes Relationship & Couples Counsellor Relate CC Cert MBACP MNCS (Acc)

Oxford, Oxon, OX2 9AR
07890 850563 07890 850563 Registered / Accredited

About me

NB Due to Covid-19 Government regulations I have suspended all my face to face couple sessions and temporarily moved all my couple sessions to the online Zoom video platform. Please contact me for further information about sessions online. Thankyou.

I specialize exclusively as a couples and relationship counsellor and have had a private practice in Oxford for the last 11 years as well as working for Relate Oxford between 2005- 2015.

I estimate that I have given over 6,000 couple counselling sessions and I work with a wide range of relationship issues. These include:

Affairs, betrayal & guilt
Anger, arguments, fights & tension
Anxiety
Aspergers syndrome in relationships
Birth of children - the effect on the relationship
Children leaving home - " the empty nest "
Communication issues
Depression
Domestic violence and abuse
Emotional closeness - lack or loss of
Feeling disconnected or alone in your relationship
Financial stress
Separation & divorce
Sexual relationship issues
Stress
Tension
The future together
Worry

This is by no means a fully comprehensive list but may include some of the issues one or both of you are experiencing together.

Couples Counselling

As a couples counsellor I work with the outcome for your relationship that is talked about at our first meeting. With the vast majority of couples this is to move forward together or at least to try to if possible - occasionally for one or both partners it is not.

Understandably it can often feel daunting or challenging to come along and talk to a complete stranger about something as important and personal as your relationship.

You may anticipate and be worried about hearing another round of the shortlist of how you are failing and getting it wrong for your partner. Or perhaps you are desperately trying to get your partner's attention to find out whether you still matter and are important to them.

If anger, tension and fighting are a principal part of your relationship difficulties will they spill over into the counselling session - will the counsellor know how to contain them safely and help you both do that at home?

You may be concerned as to how you are feeling about your partner - maybe you want to try to make it work but are feeling emotionally numb, frozen or detached. So you are not sure that you know how to make it work.

You may worry that the counsellor will judge your actions or side with your partner.

Whatever your individual and couple issues are together, I know that you are both likely to be feeling distressed and that you are caught in a pattern or cycle that tends to be repeating and resisting your individual and collective attempts to fix it.

A cornerstone of how I work is in providing a safe and non-judgmental environment for you to explore your issues with me and each other in the session.

An environment that helps you both feel heard and understood and entitled to the individual and couple experience that you share with each other.

This is instrumental in getting to the core of the issues that have been keeping you apart and assists in you successfully being able to resolve them.

Emotionally Focused Therapy

As a couples counsellor I exclusively use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and am a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist and EFT Supervisor Candidate with ICEEFT ( the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy) www.iceeft.com

Emotionally Focused Therapy is fast becoming the couples therapy of choice all over the world for counsellors, psychotherapists and psychologists who work with couples.

It is a highly effective and successful way of working with relationships and is a model of therapy that is well researched and one of the few couple therapies that has any sort of outcome data and success rate. It is empirically validated scientifically as a successful way of working with couple relationships.

Looking at the success rate of Emotionally Focused Therapy, a recent meta-analysis of the best studies found 70-73% of couples to be recovered from marital distress and 90% of couples to have significantly improved.

The Next Step

If you would like to find out more about counselling or book a session you can contact me initially by e-mail or phone.

If you decide you would like to come along you can think of the first session as an initial consultation - an independent, stand alone session that does not commit you to counselling.

We will meet together for 50 mins in which you can tell me your story and get to know something of my style and how I work.

This would help you decide whether you want to have ongoing counselling sessions with me.

To enquire further or to book an Initial Consultation please call me on 07890 850563 or e-mail me at n.haynes54@gmail.com


Training, qualifications & experience

Certificate in Counselling Skills- Central School of Counselling and Therapy, London 1994

Certificate in Counselling Theory- Central School of Counselling and Therapy, London 1994

Combined Certificate in Counselling- Central School of Counselling and Therapy, London 1994

Ta101 ( Transactional Analysis) - Institute of transactional Analysis, London 2002

The Relate Graduate Certificate in Couples Counselling- University of East London, 2006

ADR Family Mediation Foundation Training, Bristol 2008

Certification of Emotionally Focused Therapy Training - ICEEFT International Centre For Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, London 2011 - www.iceeft.com

Certification of Core Skills Advanced Training in Emotionally Focused Therapy - ICEEFT International Centre For Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, London 2012

Diploma in Counselling Supervision - Lindum College, Lincoln 2016

Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT) ICEEFT 2017

Registered Member of the BACP ( the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy).

Accredited Member of the National Counselling Society MNCS (Acc).

Lifetime Member of ICEEFT ( the International Centre For Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy)

EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) Supervisor Candidate ICEEFT 2018

In addition to specializing in working with couples I am also trained in family mediation and alternative dispute resolution.

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.

BACP

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

NCS

National Counselling Society

The National Counselling Society

This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations.

In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

National Counselling Society

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Pre- marriage counselling

Short - term emotional counselling to support separating or divorcing couples.

Therapies offered

  • Couples counselling

Fees

£60 per 50 min session online

Please ask if you are interested in longer sessions.



The Raleigh Park Clinic
45 Raleigh Park Rd
Oxford
Oxon
OX2 9AR

Type of session

In person
Online
Phone
Home visits

Practical details

Sign language Unspecified
Other languages None

Accessibility

Wheelchair user access

Wheelchair-accessible premises should have step-free access for wheelchair users and individuals who are unable to climb stairs. If a counsellor's premises aren't step-free, they may offer alternative services such as telephone/web-based appointments, home visits, or meeting clients in different location, so you can choose the option that suits you best.

You can contact the counsellor to discuss the options available.

Under the Equality Act 2010 service providers have a duty to make reasonable adjustments to ensure that individuals with disabilities can access their service. You can read more about reasonable adjustments to help you to access services on the CAB website.

Wheelchair user access

Types of client

Adults
Couples

Supervision

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Online supervision
Telephone supervision

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Nick Haynes Relationship & Couples Counsellor Relate CC Cert MBACP MNCS (Acc)

Nick Haynes Relationship & Couples Counsellor Relate CC Cert MBACP MNCS (Acc)