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Relationship & Couples Counsellor Relate CC Cert MBACP MNCS (Acc)

About me

NB I am restarting face to face sessions in Oxford on Tuesdays only, 2pm-9pm beginning Tuesday July 20th 2021. I am also continuing with online sessions on Mondays and Fridays. Please feel free to contact me if you would like to enquire about an appointment.

I specialize exclusively as a couples and relationship counsellor and have had a private practice in Oxford for the last 11 years as well as working for Relate Oxford between 2005- 2015.

I estimate that I have given over 6,000 couple counselling sessions and I work with a wide range of relationship issues. These include:

Affairs, betrayal & guilt
Anger, arguments, fights & tension
Aspergers syndrome in relationships
Birth of children - the effect on the relationship
Children leaving home - " the empty nest "
Communication issues
Domestic violence and abuse
Emotional closeness - lack or loss of
Feeling disconnected or alone in your relationship
Financial stress
Separation & divorce
Sexual relationship issues
The future together

This is by no means a fully comprehensive list but may include some of the issues one or both of you are experiencing together.

Couples Counselling

As a couples counsellor I work with the outcome for your relationship that is talked about at our first meeting. With the vast majority of couples this is to move forward together or at least to try to if possible - occasionally for one or both partners it is not.

Understandably it can often feel daunting or challenging to come along and talk to a complete stranger about something as important and personal as your relationship.

You may anticipate and be worried about hearing another round of the shortlist of how you are failing and getting it wrong for your partner. Or perhaps you are desperately trying to get your partner's attention to find out whether you still matter and are important to them.

If anger, tension and fighting are a principal part of your relationship difficulties will they spill over into the counselling session - will the counsellor know how to contain them safely and help you both do that at home?

You may be concerned as to how you are feeling about your partner - maybe you want to try to make it work but are feeling emotionally numb, frozen or detached. So you are not sure that you know how to make it work.

You may worry that the counsellor will judge your actions or side with your partner.

Whatever your individual and couple issues are together, I know that you are both likely to be feeling distressed and that you are caught in a pattern or cycle that tends to be repeating and resisting your individual and collective attempts to fix it.

A cornerstone of how I work is in providing a safe and non-judgmental environment for you to explore your issues with me and each other in the session.

An environment that helps you both feel heard and understood and entitled to the individual and couple experience that you share with each other.

This is instrumental in getting to the core of the issues that have been keeping you apart and assists in you successfully being able to resolve them.

Emotionally Focused Therapy

As a couples counsellor I exclusively use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and am a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist and EFT Supervisor Candidate with ICEEFT ( the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy)

Emotionally Focused Therapy is fast becoming the couples therapy of choice all over the world for counsellors, psychotherapists and psychologists who work with couples.

It is a highly effective and successful way of working with relationships and is a model of therapy that is well researched and one of the few couple therapies that has any sort of outcome data and success rate. It is empirically validated scientifically as a successful way of working with couple relationships.

Looking at the success rate of Emotionally Focused Therapy, a recent meta-analysis of the best studies found 70-73% of couples to be recovered from marital distress and 90% of couples to have significantly improved.

The Next Step

If you would like to find out more about counselling or book a session you can contact me initially by e-mail or phone.

If you decide you would like to come along you can think of the first session as an initial consultation - an independent, stand alone session that does not commit you to counselling.

We will meet together for 50 mins in which you can tell me your story and get to know something of my style and how I work.

This would help you decide whether you want to have ongoing counselling sessions with me.

To enquire further or to book an Initial Consultation please call me on 07890 850563 or e-mail me at

Training, qualifications & experience

Certificate in Counselling Skills- Central School of Counselling and Therapy, London 1994

Certificate in Counselling Theory- Central School of Counselling and Therapy, London 1994

Combined Certificate in Counselling- Central School of Counselling and Therapy, London 1994

Ta101 ( Transactional Analysis) - Institute of transactional Analysis, London 2002

The Relate Graduate Certificate in Couples Counselling- University of East London, 2006

ADR Family Mediation Foundation Training, Bristol 2008

Certification of Emotionally Focused Therapy Training - ICEEFT International Centre For Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, London 2011 -

Certification of Core Skills Advanced Training in Emotionally Focused Therapy - ICEEFT International Centre For Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, London 2012

Diploma in Counselling Supervision - Lindum College, Lincoln 2016

Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT) ICEEFT 2017

Registered Member of the BACP ( the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy).

Accredited Member of the National Counselling Society MNCS (Acc).

Lifetime Member of ICEEFT ( the International Centre For Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy)

EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) Supervisor Candidate ICEEFT 2018

In addition to specializing in working with couples I am also trained in family mediation and alternative dispute resolution.

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

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National Counselling Society (NCS)

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In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

National Counselling Society

Accredited Register Scheme

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National Counselling Society
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

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This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Pre- marriage counselling

Short - term emotional counselling to support separating or divorcing couples.


Additional information

£60 per 50 min session online

Please ask if you are interested in longer sessions.

The Raleigh Park Clinic, 45 Raleigh Park Rd, Oxford, Oxon, OX2 9AR

Type of session

In person

Types of client


Key details

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In person

  I offer Emotionally Focused Therapy Couples Supervision Face to Face: £60 per hour Skype: £50 per hour Tel: 07890 850563 Email: n.

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