Stephen Weaver MA (Oxon), BD (London), UKCP Registered

Stephen Weaver MA (Oxon), BD (London), UKCP Registered

The Elysian Centre
18 Cinque Ports Street
East Sussex
TN31 7AD


07939 393567

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About me

I am a UKCP-Registered Counsellor and Psychotherapist with a private practice in the City of London, EC4 and Rye, East Sussex, offering counselling and Integrative approaches to psychotherapy.

Before qualifying as a relationship counsellor and then as a psychotherapist and supervisor, I worked as a teacher and as a priest in London.

I hold Diplomas in Counselling, Psychotherapy and Supervision from CCPE London and I have been a UKCP-registred therapist since 2001.

For five years I was the Gay Men's HIV and Sexual Health Counsellor at PACE, since when I have also been working in private practice in the West End/City and in Rye, East Sussex.

Counselling or Psychotherapy?

Counselling is usually short-term (between 1-12 sessions) and can help you to manage problems better, beginning with a survey of what is happening for you right now, then opening out how things might look if you were managing them better and then exploring what might help or hinder you to move from one to the other.

Psychotherapy is usually longer-term work (anything from 3 months to 3 years) and can help you to outgrow inauthentic or harmful ways of being, to consider what might be emerging in your life that opens out the possibility of change and to provide support as you begin to negotiate healing and transformation.

You can find out more about how I work on my website:

Relationship Counselling

I also work with couples on a range of issues, including:

  • Communication
  • Conflict
  • The legacy of family bereavement
  • Family life
  • Feeling distant or estranged
  • Cheating and affairs
  • Sex and intimacy
  • The impact of sex/internet 'addiction'
  • Power struggles and inequality
  • The challenges of mid-life and ageing
  • Sexual diversity/ gay / lgbt issues
  • Creative blocks
  • Spirituality

Sexual Diversity Counselling

I know from my own experience how helpful it is to find support from a gay-affirmative counsellor with some understanding of the issues and how daunting the prospect of taking the first steps can be.

Sexual diversity counselling provides a confidential, non-judgmental and friendly space in which in which you can feel safe and secure when discussing your feelings.

I have a special interest in helping lgbt people to explore the role that spirituality plays in their identity, especially if they have experienced discrimination or rejection from traditional organized religions in their quest for personal or spiritual growth, or if they are coming out in the context of an existing, heterosexual relationship. My hope is to help people live with integrity, creativity and compassion.

I have worked extensively with lgbt clients, including five years as HIV/Gay Men's Sexual Health Counsellor at PACE and I am a Member of the Directory of Pink Therapy.

Training, qualifications & experience

2019 Experiential Dreamwork weekend (Dream Research Institute,CCPE, London)

2016 Training in working with sexual compulsivity in gay and bi men (Pink Therapy)

2014 Essentials of Psychosynthesis (Psychosynthesis Trust, London)

2013 Attendance at Sex-Addiction Conference (ATSAC, London)

2012 Training in treatment-resistant depression (Grayrock, London)

2011 Contemplative Photography retreats (ongoing)

2011 Training in working with shame and self-esteem (Psychotherapy UK, London)

2010 Training in Mindfulness (Grayrock, London)

2009 Intermediate Skills Training for ACT (Mindfulness Training, London)

2008 Introduction to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (Mindfulness Training, London)

2007 CBT training at the Oxford Cognitive Therapy Centre and participation in a series of Jungian Dream Workshops at the British Association of Psychotherapists, London.

2003 Diploma in Supervision (Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education, London)

1998 - 2001 Diploma in Transpersonal Counselling and Psychotherapy (CCPE, London )

1995 -1998 Certificate in Marital Counselling (University College of Ripon and York St.John, Leeds)

Counsellor and Psychotherapist in Private Practice 1999 - present

Average of 15 client hours per week, including EAP work for BUPA, Ceridian, Right Corecare, EAR and First Assist

Gay Mens Sexual Health Counsellor, PACE, London August 2001 -March 2005

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited


Accredited register membership

Other areas of counselling I deal with

  • Couple counselling
  • Compulsive behaviour
  • Creative blocks
  • Decision-making and discernment
  • Dreamwork
  • Faith conflicts
  • Spirituality
  • Gay/lgbt/Sexual diversity
  • Life in The City of London
  • Life crises
  • Loss and bereavement
  • Midlife issues
  • Relationship issues
  • Sex/Internet “addiction”
  • Sexual health
  • Therapeutic use of photography
  • Supervision



Individual counselling : £80 per 50 minute session
Couples counselling: £100 per 60 minute session
Supervision: £70 per session


Individual counselling : £50 per 50 minute session
Couples counselling: £60 per 60 minute session
Supervision: £50 per session

Further information

Some Client Comments:

" I can't tell you how instrumental you've been in helping me find solid ground, my self-worth, and remembering that my instincts are there to be trusted. I feel so much stronger since I came to you for the first time. You've truly have helped me through one of the most unpleasant periods of my life and I am so grateful for that."

" I cannot thank you enough for the help you've given me. I understand myself so much better. I had been cynical about therapy at the beginning but within a few weeks, I realised it was already beneficial and I really cannot believe how far I've come."

"Thank you so much for helping me over the past few weeks. The sessions really helped me make some positive steps towards a happier life. "

"My situation has improved thanks to talking to you which gave me the confidence to take some action to improve things for myself. "

Maps & Directions

Rye, TN31 7AD
London, EC4V

Type of session

Online counselling: Yes
Telephone counselling: Yes
Face to face counselling: Yes
Home visits: No

Practical details

Sign language: Unspecified
Other languages: None


Accessibility information
Wheelchair access: Unspecified


Central London: All day Wednesday and Thursday (Rye: Monday and Tuesday)

Types of client

Older adults

Supervision & training

Supervision for Individuals and Groups .

Online supervision:No
Telephone supervision:Yes
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