Research has shown that our way of relating to significant others in adulthood is likely to be influenced by the early bonds, otherwise known as atta…

"No offence, I’m just being honest…"We've all heard, something like this… the above phrase followed by "you are ugly", "you are wrong", or "you are a…

Marriage saving in a nutshellI hold sessions with a couple whose relationship has turned around, grown and discovered its mojo. Their occasional sess…

Counselling can help, following the discovery of an affair, in at least five ways.  Firstly, it can help the couple in thinking through their next s…

It is common in long-term relationships for sex to become infrequent, unsatisfying or stop completely - more common than most people realise. Trying…

One of the biggest causes of relationship breakdown is resentment in relationships. That bitter indignation that your partner is treating you unfairl…

As humans one of the most exciting and rewarding things to happen to us is finding a partner with whom we feel we can live the rest of our lives. The…

The drama triangle was first described by Stephen Karpman way back in the 1960s. It’s a very simple way to visualise an unhelpful pattern which may b…

“Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticise me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forg…

Much research has been undertaken into understanding stability in relationships, notably by John Gottmann (1999) and his colleagues. The Gottman Ins…

The journey to real empowerment is not unlike riding a wave, because when we are disempowered, we can often feel something, not entirely dissimilar t…

Many of us will have experienced jealousy and its associated behaviours. Somehow we know that jealousy is not a positive, desired feeling without bei…