So how do we define here what love really is? "Idealization is the mental process by means of which the objects qualities and values are elevated to…

Who am I and why does it matter? Can I be me or must I be like you? Will you love me for who I am? These are some of the questions we struggle with…

When your relationship is in crisis, it very important to be able to slow right down in what is often a very fast process. To be willing and able to…

Divorce is a known major life-changing event which is often associated with psychological problems such as depression and anxiety, with unhelpful cop…

Infidelity, many would suggest it heralds the end of the relationship yet it need not necessarily be so. Infidelity is a huge emotional crisis and un…

A good couples counsellor would work with the relationship and the couple within it. When do we begin to learn about relationships? Although not con…

Anger is one of the most difficult - and often frightening - emotions to manage in a relationship. At one end of the anger spectrum, couples may be o…

What I neverlearnedfrom my motherwas thatjust becausesomeone desires youdoesnot mean they value you.desire is the kind of thing thateats youandleaves…

Everyone deserves to find love. Even if you have experienced many disappointments in the past such as unfaithful partners, dishonesty, anxiety or eve…

Growing up in a household that held more arguments, disagreements and silent treatment, than laughter, smiles and support I know too well the impact…

“I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again.” - John Gottman…

We do, or we learn to, value ourselves in terms of our worth and self-belief but how much attention do we place on valuing our values? Knowing our va…