“It doesn’t make sense, I don’t make sense” “One minute I’m ok and then I’ve gone somewhere else” “Other people think I’m crazy” “People don’t und…

How easily can you ask for what you want and what you don’t, and can you say no? Every person in the world has needs and wants, and in a relationshi…

When relationships work they can feel like “heaven” and when they go wrong they might feel like “hell”, leaving us very unhappy, unsettled and low in…

In my birth family, I was brought up to believe that there was only one way to think; one way to react to something. When, at eleven, I was sent to a…

Stress, pressure and roles Where did it go wrong? Well, it can be for many different reasons, but there are usually common themes. We live in a fast…

When I was growing up I had two friends - I'll call them John and Paul. While my family life had boundaries and structure, both John and Paul's seeme…

“If only he would listen…". "If only she would let me get a word in edgeways…”. These - and other rather more colourful comments - will often be hea…

It's that time again where the school summer term ends. Our young people have probably worked hard to harness great exam results with a view to atten…

Research by people such as John Bowlby [et al] suggests that we learn about relationships from birth, but that may not necessarily be the case. Is it…

Empathy is seriously under-rated. It may not be an attribute that immediately springs to mind if listing personal qualities you'd desire in a friend…

A genogram is a family map that both the client and therapist draw together. It can be used therapeutically to give clients an overview of family rel…

Lets face it, we all have our anxieties, however for some, our experience in past relationships has taught us to be more anxious in the present than…