Divorce after a long marriage often comes about after many years of small defining moments, sometimes big moments that have added up and connected to…

It is hard for some people to imagine sitting in a therapy group and talking about their most intimate feelings and experiences. When thinking about…

Sometimes with the best will in the world our partner refuses to do couples therapy. You know that the time has come to make some changes as your rel…

A people pleaser is an individual that has developed a learnt behaviour of pleasing others in exchange for love, acceptance or approval. This learnt…

At the start of Paula Fox's novel, Poor George, the narrator asks, 'Who listens?' Perhaps the prospects of being listened to aren't quite as bleak as…

We only exist in our parents’ gaze until we learn how to view ourselves objectively. Beginning from the moment we are born, the process of emotional…

Unhealthy relationships can start early and last a lifetime. Young people sometimes think teasing, name-calling are “normal” part of a relationship.…

There probably does not exist a couple relationship that has not experienced some kind of conflict; in fact, conflict resolution might be a key compo…

In her new book Esther Perel suggests that there are benefits of having an affair to the couple relationship. I would like to reiterate some of her s…

The idea of differentiation in a relationship involves the notion of two life forces at odds with each other: that of being an independent individual…

I am often presented with clients having very heated arguments about trivial aspects of life. How and when dishes are washed up, constantly checking…

We read that communication is the key to a good relationship. Yet, good communication does not come without making time for each other and practice.…