Our earliest patterns of relating, feeling and expressing (or not) anger will all impact on our future relationships. In other words, earliest object…

The way in which we communicate, how we speak to our partner and how we are heard is frequently based on unhealthy ways of thinking. An example may b…

As therapists, we are trained to 'listen' to stay silent whilst attending completely to what our client is not only speaking but also what is not bei…

Once a pattern of real communication has been established as the couple learn to actively listen to each other, we may address further issues as to h…

Dr Lance Dodes MD, director of the substance abuse treatment centre at Harvard Maclean hospital, suggests that our traditional view of dependencies n…

It is not an exaggeration to say that loneliness can be life threatening - particularly if we see the world as a hostile and harsh place. I guess we…

Many people who access counselling or psychological therapy have reservations about whether it will help, what other people will think, or believe th…

Teams from London School of Economics and University of Sussex recently studied how happy people were during the day. Questions posed were simple: wh…

Although there is usually a great emphasis in therapy on encouraging clients to take more control of their lives, and to build their own futures, the…

The truth is that we will all face challenges in life. Sometimes we will manage well on our own but at other times we can find ourselves struggling,…

This is typically my opening line for new clients. This question cuts to the core of why this new client is sitting with me today. It allows them the…

Anxiety can take many forms and is experienced differently by each individual. Symptoms of anxiety can be both physical and psychological. When extre…