Will I have to cry?

One of the things that can put people off seeking help from a counsellor is the worry that they will be expected to cry and 'let it all out'. Breaking down in front of someone else can be a daunting prospect, and men in particular find the whole idea off-putting.

However, counselling can be very effective without the client necessarily having to get upset or reveal every deepest feeling. A respectful counsellor will allow their client to reveal only as much as they are comfortable with, and will 'back off' if the client starts to feel very uncomfortable.

It is possible to use counselling as a quiet, safe space for privately contemplating you inner thoughts and feelings, with the counsellor acting as a resource and guide. As trust grows between client and counsellor, it may feel easier to touch on more difficult subjects. Instead of feeling exposed or bullied, the client feels safe and respected.

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Written by Virginia Sherborne MBACP (Accred.)

I am a qualified counsellor and Accredited member of the BACP, seeing clients at Wellforce in the centre of Sheffield. I have specialist training in bereavement, rape/sexual abuse, trauma and parenting. My clients include young people as well as adults.
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Written by Virginia Sherborne MBACP (Accred.)

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