The human brain relies on other brains to thrive and survive

The human brain relies on other brains to thrive and survive.

This statement came from the NY neuroscientist David Eagleman who is currently presenting a BBC 4 series on how our brains and minds work.

The human brain relies on other brains to thrive and survive, however, if at critical stages in our lives the other brains are not helpful or supportive enough, or perhaps are bullies, or are frightening, or shamming, then we are unable to thrive. 

We grow up feeling distrustful that relationships can give us what we need. Our early experiences colour our sense of others. You know when you feel deeply wounded by a comment, or troubled by a tense or cold atmosphere. You know how terrible it feels to be left out – not included in the team, or being made redundant, or being bereaved.

The relationship with a counsellor or psychotherapist who is on your side can give your brain and mind a developmental second chance. Therapy works through regular brain to brain meetings that enable your brain to grow new connections that in turn improve your relationships and life experience.