Rediscovering identity beyond eating disorder recovery

Recovery from an eating disorder involves not just recovering physically but also rediscovering and reshaping your sense of self. The journey of recovery often necessitates letting go of the identity tightly intertwined with the disorder and embracing a new, healthier perspective on who you are. Here’s how you can embark on this transformative process with acceptance, values-based skills, and insightful journal prompts to guide your self-discovery.

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Understanding the role of eating disorders in identity

Eating disorders often develop as coping mechanisms, offering a sense of control or a distraction from underlying emotional distress. Over time, these behaviours can become central to how individuals perceive themselves, impacting their relationships, daily routines, and overall well-being. Letting go of these patterns requires unravelling their hold on identity and embracing a new way of living authentically.


Steps to rediscover and develop your identity:

Practise acceptance and mindful awareness

  • Journal prompt: Reflect on the ways your eating disorder has shaped your identity. How has it influenced your thoughts, behaviours, and relationships? Write about any challenges or fears you have about letting go of these patterns.
  • Acceptance exercise: Spend time each day acknowledging your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Notice any resistance or discomfort that arises and allow yourself to sit with it, practicing self-compassion in these moments.

Clarify your values

Values are fundamental beliefs that guide our attitudes and actions. They reflect what is important to us, influencing our decisions and behaviour. Values can be personal, such as honesty and kindness, or societal, like justice and equality, shaping how we interact with the world around us. There is no right or wrong value because values are subjective and deeply personal, shaped by individual experiences, cultures, and perspectives. 

“Values are like fingerprints, nobody's are the same, but you leave them all over everything you do.”

  • Journal prompt: Identify three core values that are important to you. How do these values align with your aspirations for the future? Write about how living authentically according to these values can support your recovery journey.
  • Values exploration: Consider scenarios where you felt fulfilled and aligned with your values. What activities or behaviours were involved? How can you incorporate more of these experiences into your daily life?

Set values-based goals

  • Journal prompt: Describe a specific goal you would like to achieve in the next month that reflects one of your core values. Break down this goal into smaller steps and outline how you will track your progress.
  • Action plan: Write a letter to yourself detailing why achieving this goal is important to you. Include strategies for overcoming obstacles and celebrate each milestone along the way.

Practice self-compassion and self-care

  • Journal prompt: Reflect on a recent setback or challenging moment in your recovery journey. How did you respond to yourself during this time? Write a compassionate letter to yourself, offering kindness and encouragement.
  • Self-care rituals: Create a list of self-care activities that nurture your physical and emotional well-being. Commit to incorporating at least one of these practices into your daily routine.

Engage in meaningful activities

  • Journal prompt: Describe an activity or hobby you enjoyed before your eating disorder. How did this activity make you feel? Write about ways to reintroduce this passion into your life or explore new interests that bring you joy.
  • Exploration exercise: Make a list of local community organisations or volunteer opportunities that align with your values. Choose one initiative to research further and consider how you can contribute your time and talents.

Build a supportive network

  • Journal prompt: Reflect on the individuals in your life who have supported you during challenging times. What qualities do these supporters possess? Write about ways you can nurture these relationships and express gratitude for their encouragement.
  • Supportive circle: Create a visualisation exercise where you imagine yourself surrounded by a supportive circle of friends, family, and mentors. Describe the qualities each person brings to your journey of self-discovery and recovery.

Embracing your journey of self-discovery

Rediscovering your identity beyond an eating disorder involves embracing acceptance, clarifying your values, and taking meaningful action toward a fulfilling life.

Use these journal prompts to deepen your self-reflection and support your growth:

  • Celebrate your progress: Write about a recent accomplishment or positive change in your recovery journey. How did this achievement align with your values and aspirations?
  • Exploring new perspectives: Describe a time when you gained a new perspective on yourself or your recovery journey. How did this insight impact your sense of identity and personal growth?
  • Future vision: Envision your ideal future self, free from the constraints of your eating disorder. Describe this vision in detail, focusing on the values, activities, and relationships that bring you fulfilment and happiness.

The journey of finding a new sense of self beyond eating disorder recovery is about embracing who you are authentically. By practising acceptance, clarifying your values, setting goals aligned with these values, and engaging in meaningful activities, you can cultivate a life rich in purpose and fulfilment. Remember, your identity is multifaceted and constantly evolving — embrace the process of self-discovery with curiosity, compassion, and courage.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Laura Gwilt, BSc(Hons), PGDip, Accredited
Birmingham, West Midlands, B18

Laura is an experienced CBT psychotherapist specialising in anxiety disorders, trauma, and eating disorders. With a background in providing support within inpatient hospitals, Laura's commitment to early intervention is fueled by a passion for promoting well-being and resilience.

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