Neurodiversity-affirming therapy: What is it and how to find it?

The world can often feel like it is made for neurotypical people. Unfortunately, this can apply to the therapy world too. This can mean that there is often a one-size fits all approach when it comes to how therapists work with clients.

In this article, I will explore what neurodiversity-affirming therapy is, what you can expect and how you can find it.

What is neurodiversity-affirming therapy?

In short, neurodiversity-affirming therapy acknowledges and supports neurodivergent differences, rather than seeing them as problems that need to be ‘fixed’. A neurodiversity-affirming therapist will support you to explore whatever you are struggling with. They will recognise that your needs and abilities might be different to those of neurotypical people.

What can I expect in a neurodiversity-affirming therapy session?

Your therapist will explore any preferences you may have about how you will work together. Different therapists can have different ways of doing this. Personally, in my work as a therapist, I aim to follow your lead. I will give you options to see what may feel best for you.

Examples:

1. Many neurodivergent people I work with like to have items to fidget with while they’re talking. Therefore, I always have fidgets available in our sessions.
2. If you struggle with overstimulation, we can discuss whether adjustments to lighting, temperature or sounds might help.
3. Some people prefer to keep moving or dislike direct eye contact. So, one of the options I offer is outdoor therapy. You can read more about outdoor therapy and its benefits in my blog post: 'Outdoor therapy: How to start your journey to feeling better.'

The possibilities of how we work together are endless. You can find out more about the different ways that I work on my counselling directory profile and website.

It is so important that you feel comfortable in your therapy journey. Therefore, my main aim is to put you and your needs at the centre of our work together. Whether you choose to work with me or another therapist, you should feel like you are accepted, valued, and seen for who you are.

What support can I receive?

Your therapy is your space to explore whatever you might be struggling with. This looks different for each person. Your therapist will work with you to explore what you might want to focus on during your sessions.

Some of the things that I have focused on in my work with neurodivergent people include (but are not limited to):

• Find ways to cope with or manage overstimulation (identifying your triggers, warning signs and possible coping strategies). 
• Explore ways to optimise your executive functioning e.g. your ability to plan and focus or navigate any distractions.
• Understand your signs of stress and burnout.
• Learning how to manage stress and situations that you find difficult.
• Explore your self-identity and building self-acceptance.
• Understand how to self-regulate by engaging in your interests and passions.
• Learning to unmask and be your true self, and find safe places and people where you feel able to do this.
• Understand your unique strengths and how to make the most of these in your life.
• Explore any difficulties with social interactions and how to manage these.

How can I find a neurodiversity-affirming therapist?

When looking for a neurodiversity-affirming therapist, it is important to do your research. This is because it will make it more likely that you will find someone best suited to what you’re looking for.

Many therapists who understand the importance of neurodiversity-affirming practice will mention this on their website. They may also speak about their experience working with autism, ADHD, dyslexia, dyscalculia, dyspraxia or high sensitivity.

Some therapist directories, such as the Counselling Directory, allow you to search for therapists with specialised experience. For autistic people, the National Autistic Society has an autism services directory which can be used to look for therapists or other forms of support in your area.

Tip

Before meeting with a therapist, you can ask them whether they identify as a neurodiversity-affirming therapist and how they implement this in their practice.
It’s important to note that even with a neurodiversity-affirming therapist, they may not feel like the right fit. It’s okay to change therapists if you feel that their personality, approach or any other factors are not a good fit for you.