How to find the right therapist for you

Starting therapy can be daunting for many reasons. For some the prospect of opening up boxes of emotions that have been hidden away, sometimes for a very long time, can be difficult.

Alongside this, there are the practical challenges associated with starting therapy. Or more specifically, the difficult task of finding not only a good therapist but a therapist who is good for you. To help with this challenge I’ve put together some things to consider when embarking on your search for your therapist. 

Considerations when looking for a therapist

Qualifications

‘Counsellor’ and ‘therapist’ aren’t protected titles in the UK, meaning that legally anyone can choose to describe themself in this way. As such, it’s always worth checking the qualifications of your prospective therapist.

Providing therapy is about so much more than just listening to a client and a qualified therapist will have the skills and knowledge necessary to work safely and effectively. Some might have chosen to qualify via a diploma, others will have a foundation or bachelor's degree, or perhaps a postgraduate qualification. If you’re considering working with someone and are unsure about their level of training, just ask them.

Memberships

Check if your therapist is a member of a professional organisation such as the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) or the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS).

These regulatory bodies aim to maintain industry standards and when signing up for membership a therapist commits to their ethical codes and best practice. Membership also provides reassurance of the training and qualifications held by the therapist, as well as their commitment to ongoing training. 

Therapeutic approach

The therapeutic approach, or modality, of a therapist guides them in their work. It provides a foundation to how they work with clients and their presenting issues. Some modalities that you might be familiar with are cognitive behavioural therapy, psychodynamic therapy and humanistic therapy.

When looking for a therapist it’s worth familiarising yourself with these different approaches and getting a feel for which one might best suit you and your reasons for seeking therapy. 

Specialisms and goals

As well as working within a particular approach, some therapists will specialise in dealing with specific client groups - couples, adolescents, LGBTQ+ clients - or presenting issues such as attachment issues, relationship problems and phobias. If you have a specific issue that you are taking to therapy it’s worth considering a therapist who is experienced in working in that area. 

Trusting your instinct

Most therapists will provide a free introductory call in order to discuss your reasons for seeking therapy and to find out if you could work together. I’d always recommend taking up this offer. A therapist could be qualified, signed up to a professional body, have a wealth of experience in your problem and work with an approach that speaks to you, but they still might not be the right therapist for you.

In order for therapy to work you need to feel safe enough to be vulnerable, to open up to your therapist and explore your emotions. Ultimately you need to feel comfortable with them. Notice how you feel during the introductory call and listen to your gut instinct. If they’re right for you, you’ll know.