Having a meaning in life

During childhood, some of our early thoughts can be associated with the question 'What is this world we live in?' Sooner or later, as we grow older, our thoughts can then form into another kind of question - what shall I do with my life?

Sometimes along the way, as we grow, obstacles can occur. A physical injury can happen. Or an emotional trauma, such as a serious loss. The impact of this can influence our view of our life. Such instances can also instigate a new path to follow. Though, they can also affect our lives where we feel future plans may be altered. 

An example of a life pathway could be the important emphasis we have when choosing a future career. This fundamentally will be a long-term period of life and can be harrowing to think of. What can I do for the next 30 or 40 years? We could feel extra pressure on ourselves and also feel overwhelmed.

During this decisional period, asking for support and guidance could help. However, this could also be viewed as one of the key starting points for experiencing empowerment; the development of our future vision. 

Expectations in what we will carry out in our lives could set us up for disappointment. If an open mind is adopted, we can go with the flow and stream of life with a less tense mindset. In other words, recognising the benefit of staying in the present moment, without too much fear or over-planning of the future. 

If our path that we have carefully crafted is swept away from beneath our feet, then we are experiencing a test. A change in direction, requiring some deep thought and reflection with applied action. Our own resistance to change could block us. Having perseverance in forming a new start could be the remedy. The test and how we manage it can influence the new path we begin to create. 

Looking back at my own life, there were a few hurdles to cross that required perseverance and action. The anguish I felt when experiencing hardship was replaced by relief once I passed through the transition I encountered. The lesson from the test gave me some new learning and a fresh resolve. It taught me a lot about the quote “life is too short.”

In therapy, an important goal to work towards could be to gain a healthier mental health. If a meaning to this goal is also attached, then the action necessary has a guiding process. In a nutshell, developing a meaning whilst recovering can help to facilitate recovery.

If a person has something to work towards, then the journey to the destination becomes more achievable.

If you are feeling stuck in yourself and are experiencing disillusionment, it may help to reach out for a solution. A close friend, a family member or a professional such as a therapist may help you to be heard and also importantly guide you to a new perspective.

Sometimes, a kick start with a new idea can be the antidote to moving towards something better. It’s possible with a new meaning or a tweaked meaning to get to where you desire to be in your life.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Warren Vinciguerra, BA (Hons) Registered MBACP
Guildford GU2 & Chertsey KT16

A restored therapist from my own haunted past. I work with this experience closely when treating clients with similar issues. Educational experience of studying for 5 years where I gained a hard-earned BA (Hons) in Counselling. Working at some of the UK’s leading private treatment centres practising therapy with some of the leading researchers.

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