Anxiety developing the way forward

Developing a growth mindset is characterised by a belief that our abilities and level of intelligence can grow through dedication and perseverance. It’s about embracing challenges, persisting in the face of setbacks, and seeing effort as a path to mastery. Those with a growth mindset are solution-oriented; they view problems as opportunities to learn and grow rather than insurmountable obstacles.


Solution-finding and the growth mindset

You can't grow holding on

Letting go is an essential component of the growth mindset. It involves releasing attachments to past events, negative emotions, and outdated beliefs. This process creates the mental and emotional space necessary for new ideas, relationships, and experiences to flourish.

The challenge of moving forward

At first glance, the idea of finding solutions while also letting go may seem contradictory. How can one be both tenacious in solving problems and willing to release them? The key lies in discernment—understanding when to push forward and when to step back.

Surrender the pain

Our past experiences can be a rich source of wisdom, but they can also tether us to outdated narratives. Letting go of these attachments means acknowledging their impact on our lives without allowing them to dictate our present or future. It’s about learning from the past, not living in it.

Releasing negative emotions

Negative emotions, while a natural part of the human experience, can become barriers to growth if we cling to them. Releasing these emotions doesn’t mean ignoring them; it means processing them healthily and moving forward with greater clarity and resilience.

Are your  beliefs serving you well?

Beliefs that once served us well may become obsolete as we evolve. Holding on to them can limit our potential. By letting go of these beliefs, we open ourselves to new perspectives and possibilities.

The act of letting go is, in itself, a solution. It’s a conscious choice to prioritise growth over comfort and potential over-familiarity. When we release what no longer serves us, we make room for innovation and creativity. We become better equipped to tackle challenges with fresh eyes and an open mind.

Here to help

Reflection: Take time to reflect on what you’re holding onto and why.

Expression: discover healthy ways to express and process emotions, you will find habits such as journaling or talking with a trusted friend.

Forgiveness: Forgive yourself and others for past mistakes. This isn’t about condoning actions but about freeing yourself from the weight of resentment.

Gratitude: Cultivate gratitude for the lessons learned, even from difficult experiences you have found difficult.

Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness to help you stay present and avoid dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.


The growth mindset is not just about relentless pursuit; it’s also about thoughtful release. Finding solutions and letting go are two sides of the same coin, each vital for personal expansion. By practising the art of release, we allow ourselves to embrace new opportunities and experiences, propelling us toward a more fulfilling and dynamic life.

In essence, growth is a dance between holding on and letting go. It’s about knowing when to exert effort and when to surrender, understanding that sometimes, the best solution is to simply let go and trust in the process of growth.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by David Pender, MBACP, Integrative Psychotherapy | Specialising in Anxiety
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David S. Pender is a qualified BACP therapist who provides counselling and psychotherapy services to adults throughout London & the UK. He has extensive experience in dealing with problems related to anxiety, trauma, chronic stress, social anxiety, panic attacks, generalised anxiety disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder. Free discovery calls

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