Anxiety and stress sufferers: Do you feel ready?

One crucial declaration regarding progress or recovery is being prepared to take that step and say, "I am ready."

Our personal growth and mental well-being play roles towards our health and happiness. To fully benefit from these aspects of life and reach a point where we're willing to invest in our growth or assist our healing is essential. If you're hesitant or unsure about taking this step, take the opportunity to arrange a friendly conversation with a counsellor. Let's explore some concepts and approaches to support you during your journey.

Concerns that can hold you back

You may have considered counselling or being coached but pulled out at the last minute. When we are already anxious or stressed, it can feel like a huge step.

Do any of the following sound familiar to you? These are a few of the main concerns that have hindered clients.

"Am I just going to make things worse by talking?"

Many survive by brushing things under the carpet, telling themselves they're okay, and smiling through the hard times. Effectively, this is just building up suspension. Suppression happens when you actively push uncomfortable thoughts, feelings, or memories out of your consciousness because you don't know what to do with them. Some people call suppression shutting down or disassociating. If you're thinking about counselling, those barriers seem to be starting to fall apart. 

"I don't have time for counselling."

When you're already overwhelmed, or every moment at work is valuable, taking time out for regular counselling sessions during the day or early evening might feel ​like a real challenge. Online therapy can be convenient if you face barriers like distance or availability.

 ​"I'm not sure counselling will work for me."

When you're already overwhelmed or every moment at work is valuable, taking time out for regular counselling sessions during the day or early evening may feel ​like another burden.

"My husband/wife doesn't believe in counselling."

Often, we may feel that our family or spouse disapproves of therapy or considers it a waste of money. What conversation do you need to have with them? You can help them envision how this could positively impact your relationship, leading to less conflict and greater joy, peace, deeper understanding, and lasting commitment. Connect it to a change you know they would enjoy. Let me know what's worrying you. Counselling can increase your confidence.

​"I'm too ashamed to tell anyone."

In reality, people from all walks of life struggle in some way or another, especially when it comes to their mental health. Sometimes, we feel too embarrassed or ashamed to talk about something we've been keeping secret. It's important to know that these feelings are valid and accepted. Can you trust a counsellor? We work under the principle of strict confidentiality with few exceptions. Before you commence, we can examine everything about privacy and trust.

Why self-care matters

Embracing self-care is not just a routine; it's a powerful tool that can transform your life and well-being and lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life. It's a journey worth embarking on, and the results can be truly inspiring and life-changing.

Self-care is not just a routine; it's a way of embracing your mind and spirit with compassion. By prioritising your health, happiness, and well-being, you are not just taking care of yourself but also recognising your worth and importance. Neglecting your self-care can have a detrimental impact on all aspects of your well-being. So, remember to pause, develop mindfulness skills, and ensure you're well-rested before engaging in activities that will rejuvenate and inspire you. 

This is not selfish; it's vital for maintaining balance and strength, providing security and stability for your future.  

Self-care is crucial and a way to demonstrate your self-worth and importance in your daily routine. Consider adding self-care routines into your schedule, like relaxing with a comforting cup of tea in the morning, going for a brief stroll in nature at lunchtime, or taking a break from screens in the evening to unwind with a good book or soothing music session. You'll be surprised that rewarding yourself can promote and trigger your feel-good hormones' release. 

Taking the time for self-care is essential for your well-being; every small act adds up and can have a meaningful impact in the long run. Remember that you deserve to prioritise your happiness and health. 

The connection between self-esteem and mental well-being

Having a healthy self-image is crucial for your well-being. It affects how you feel about yourself and your life in general. Low self-esteem, on the other hand, is linked to health issues and social difficulties. Understanding the importance of self-esteem can empower you to manage your well-being. You can boost your morale by developing self-kindness and engaging in uplifting self-talk. 

Reflect on your capabilities and successes to boost your morale. It's important to acknowledge and appreciate the wins in life, as they can significantly impact your mental well-being over time. This practice can empower you and make you feel more in control of your mental well-being. Remember, you deserve to prioritise your happiness and health. 

Exploring the growth of oneself

Developing oneself involves more than success and reaching goals; it's a comprehensive process that touches upon different facets of well-being and fulfilment. Pursuing personal growth based on your core beliefs and aspirations means delving into all areas of your life rather than just focusing on a select few for self-improvement purposes. 

Your 'north star', which symbolises your guiding light or ultimate objective in life, signifies the path you aim to follow to stay on course with your values and dreams. This could be a specific goal, a set of values, or a vision for your life. These aspects cover well-being, intellectual health, social connections, and environmental factors, not forgetting financial stability and occupational fulfilment intertwined with spiritual nourishment. However, you choose to approach it. 

Focus on staying active through exercise, maintaining a diet, and getting rest for overall well-being.

Emotions are essential, and acknowledging them is a sign of strength. By utilising methods such as writing in a journal or practising meditation, along with seeking advice from a friend or counsellor, you can handle your emotions effectively and feel empowered in your journey of personal growth. 

Keep evolving by educating yourself through reading books, taking courses, and engaging in conversations. 

Socialise with others and cultivate connections while maintaining a positive outlook on life. This optimism can be a powerful force in your growth journey, keeping you hopeful and motivated. 

• Design an environment for living and working in harmony.
• Handle your money smartly when it comes to finances.
• Embark on a journey of self-discovery by enhancing your beliefs and core values. 

Always remember that personal growth is a process in life. Take care of yourself by acknowledging the smallest achievements and enjoying the journey of evolving into the finest version of yourself.