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Are you constantly faced with nutritional and health advice from the media about what you should and should not be eating? In today's society we are all inundated with health choices that are changing our relationship with food.  There is media advice about reducing saturated fats, salt and sugar, limiting red meat and increasing fruit and vegetables.  Debates are ongoing about whether margarine is better than butter, sweetener better than sugar, skimmed milk better than...

The term Anorexia Nervosa was first used in1856 to define an illness characterised by self-starvation. To-date, anorexia is shrouded in myth and it may be helpful to dispel some of the more common beliefs and assumptions surrounding the illness. Anorexia is not rooted in vanity, it is not a ‘teenage phase’ or a lifestyle choice. Moreover, perhaps surprisingly, it is not about food. Anorexia is a serious mental health condition, responsible for more loss of life than any other...

Getting through the holiday season without relapse is, in my opinion, easier than the ‘post-holiday blues’. It is vital to be aware of the dip in mood, boredom, isolation, loneliness, disappointment and many other emotions that will also come up during the celebrations but will also be very prevalent afterwards. I have worked for over 15 years with addictions and eating disorders and it is always after an event that a person is more vulnerable to relapse and I have seen it. It is...

Eating is one of our innate survival drives that initiates appetite, resulting in the intake of food. Like breathing and reproduction, these drives are hardwired into every human being. Most of us think about food daily – what we’ll cook for dinner, what we need to shop for, dining out etc. This is normal. It is considered typical at times of stress that we may eat less, or have no appetite. i.e. loss of a loved one or a traumatic event can induce a suppressed appetite. This is...

“True love heals and affects spiritual growth. If we do not grow because of someone else’s love, it’s generally because it is a counterfeit form of love.” John Bradshaw Emotionally abusive parents are manipulative, cunning and toxic. Brilliant impersonators these narcissistic fakes create a world of “alternative facts”. Abused children wear cloaks woven with invisible scars inflicted by the parents’ permanent smear campaigns. Myths follow into...

It is Eating Disorders Awareness Week from 27th February to 5th March 2017, and there is still stigma attached to those who suffer with an eating disorder. There is an undercurrent of ‘they brought it on themselves’ or, especially for those suffering obesity ‘they are greedy and lazy’. In this article, I want to highlight how our relationship with food is not totally of our own making. There is a genetic element to eating disorders, whether it is related to the amount...

According to BEAT research (2015) eating disorders affect 750,000 people in the UK. If you binge and purge you may find yourself in a situation where you feel stuck; you know that you have issues with your eating and yet you are unsure how to go about getting the help that you might need. It might be that you restrict your eating or it might be that you recognise that you binge food and purge after eating. It might be that you eat too much and are overweight or it might be that you overexercise...

An eating disorder, whether anorexia, bulimia or binge eating disorder, is a coping strategy to manage a range of emotional issues. I will look at the anorexic spectrum of eating disorders although there are common emotional factors throughout the spectrum of eating disorders. We hear anorexia linked to wanting to be thin and the power of the media. But why in that case do we all not succumb to this difficult and exhausting range of conditions? We would all like to be attractive physically but...