The me-me-me mother - or father: Working with the toxic legacy

02073 782 050 02073 782 050 / 02073 782 008 02073 782 008
19th November 2022, 10.00am - 4.00pm
Counsellors and trainees
Qualified practitioners £85, Counselling/psychotherapy trainees £75, WPF Therapy trainees/staff £60

This workshop will be delivered via Zoom.

  • What is a narcissistic parent? How can we recognise this? 
  • How do we recognise the deep wounds, psychic pain and impossible relationships in later life?
  • How do we deal with that narcissistic parents from our adult selves?
  • How can we work with the lasting impact of narcissistic parenting with our adult clients?

"When I’m dead, you’ll be all alone because your father doesn’t want you. Just remember that and treat me nicely." Thus, Ariel Leve quotes her bohemian poet mother in her memoir about their difficult relationship,  An Abbreviated Life. 

Many of our clients have been propelled into our consulting rooms due to the wounds from narcissistic parenting. Many of us may have ended up as therapists for the same reasons. 

Workshop aims

By the end of the workshop you can expect:

  • An understanding of narcissism.
  • Familiarity with specific symptoms, issues and characteristics of adult children of narcissists.
  • Relevant theory – e.g. narcissistic rage; Shaw’s ‘traumatic narcissism’; Fairbairn’s rejecting object.
  • Ideas on working with adult children of narcissistic parents. 


There will be a tutor presentation on narcissistic parenting; the definition of narcissism and its characteristics, then an outline of its effects on offspring as well as group discussions.

Group discussion and questions. There will be space for thinking about our clinical work as well as working with the transference and countertransference. 

Workshop leader

Wendy Bristow trained at WPF Therapy and has worked in private practice in Central London and then Angel for the past seven years. Her background is in the media - she worked as a magazine journalist and editor before training as an executive coach. She then coached and trained editors and journalists at the BBC, Conde Nast and all the major magazine houses and some newspapers. She, therefore, has some 30 years’ experience of being self-employed. She has written on the legacy of narcissistic parenting for Therapy Today and the therapy portal Welldoing. 

Target audience

This workshop is open to training and qualified counsellors and psychotherapists. The focus of the workshop will be psychodynamic thinking but practitioners of all modalities are welcome to attend. Please note that by booking on this workshop you agree to keep all discussion confidential.

Please also note that by booking a ticket for this event, you are agreeing to our terms and conditions for CPD events, so please read through them carefully before making your purchase.

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Hosted by WPF Therapy

WPF Therapy is a well established and respected therapy training organisation. Throughout the year we provide CPD workshops and lectures to augment the clinical and theoretical learning offered by training organisations. This also offers the opportunity to focus on topics pertinent to the clinical work provided by new and established practitioners.

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