Early experience and attachment
Our early attachments to a caregiver or a parent lay the foundation for the way we operate in our relationships as adults. Deeply rooted in our attachment system is a pattern of relating we may or may not be aware of.
When people come to therapy, they are usually grappling with something they want to understand and seek to find why they think, feel and do the things they do. As therapists, we often see entrenched patterns of relating that are outside of our client’s awareness, and insight alone is often not enough. We are compelled to engage in a therapeutic encounter in which we hope to facilitate the resolution of unfinished business in our clients from their early experiences and to restore for them a sense of agency and completion.
We can seek to illuminate what is happening for the client when our own attachment system is called to action. This is where our counter transference responses become useful in recognising the therapeutic process and from there we can begin to let a different experience unfold for our clients giving rise to new feelings and thoughts about trust, intimacy and self-expression, facilitated by a ‘good enough’ reparative relationship.
I draw from object relations theory, attachment theory and neuroscience along with Relational Transactional Analysis as a way of charting these often untravelled territories with our clients and indeed ourselves. I present theory for discussion along with experiential material and create a space for process time so that you can begin to formulate your own understanding of the complexities in your relationships with clients. I invite you to notice how your clients may impact you and to work with the transformative nature of the way in which your clients might change you at some level.
About Louise Witney
Louise Witney CTA (p)
Louise is a Transactional Analyst Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor in Maidstone and has been working in the profession for about 15 years