Anger: the tip of the iceberg
Anger: the tip of the iceberg.
How you can help your child
The majority of the referrals I receive are to do with issues around anger. It can be a tremendous trigger to those around it and cause a great deal of worry and stress to both parent and child. From toddler tantrums to teenage meltdowns, anger can be a big issue. It is often, however, just the tip of an iceberg and is often an outward visible expression of other underlining, quieter emotions.
In this practical workshop we will explore anger, the techniques I use in my creative therapy practice to help and some ideas you can use at home.
The three areas we will look at will be:
- Anger past and present. First of all we will investigate how anger impacted us as children and how our own parents dealt with it in us. This in turn will help provide invaluable insight into how we perceive anger now and how that has transfers onto our relationship to it if demonstrated on our own children. Are we constantly on guard, or more relaxed? Do you notice differences in your partner?
- The angry label. What can happen with anger is that we're so busy trying to deal with the behaviour, and don't get me wrong that is important, but sometimes we're so busy doing that we forget to look at what's happening for the child. Firefighting without looking at the cause. We will look at ways to help alter how the child sees themselves and how to help them relearn patterns of behaviour. Anger is a coping mechanism so we will look at how we can help children empower children to better manage angry feelings themselves through grounding techniques and mindfulness.
- The rest of the iceberg. We will journey into the depths to explore the feelings that anger could be masking. We will look at ways to develop emotional literacy around these hidden feelings to aid better communication and help avoid the angry overwhelm. Talking about feelings may not come naturally and may be difficult, so I will introduce you to some games you can play as a family which will normalise these conversations without judgement or criticism.
This workshop will not only help aid in your understanding of your own relationship
to anger it will also give you tools to help you develop your child's understanding too.
The next workshop will look into the world of the anxious, withdrawn child.
About Tania Freeman
This workshop will be run by Creative Arts Therapist Tania Freeman. MBACP. CATT trained.