Yvonne Barham, Individuals & Couples, BACP (Accred) BUPA & Aviva registered
We all have stories to tell, many of us think that our lives are not worth talking about, that we are not important enough to speak out or even have a right to be heard and something, usually ourselves stops us from honouring who we are.
My passion is people, I work with anyone who feels out of the ordinary or who doesn't quite fit in, maybe feeling alone or lonely or finding it hard to make friends or trust. We all feel this way at times and its ok to be yourself.
I have a special interest in adults who as children witnessed or were the victims of Domestic Abuse. And following on from this adults who have been diagnosed with BPD or are struggling with intense mood swings, no sense of self, relationship problems, fears of abandonment, destructive behaviours or sucidal thoughts.
My role as a counsellor is to provide you with a warm, safe and grounded space, where your thoughts, emotions, experiences and behaviours can be shared with another so they can be heard, felt and understood and validated.
Therapy offers a way of being curious about you and your world, to look at other possibilities, in a safe, non threatening, confidential relationship with a therapist.
It provides support from someone with a different perspective. It's a place where you can talk openly and honestly about the things that are affecting you.
I have worked in the NHS, the voluntary sector and in private practice. I have a wealth of experience in sucessfully working with a wide range of issues that include, anxiety disorders and depression, childhood and current abuse including domestic violence, relationship issues, eating disorders, identity and self-worth, women’s issues, transitions and changes in life such as becoming a parent, marrying and ageing, transgender and sexuality, rape, sexual assault and violence, addictions, co-dependency and bullying and adults with ASD.
Therapy can take many forms, the best is the one that works for you. Research tells us that the most important part of therapy is the relationship you have with your therapist. Each of my client's is respected as an individual with unique experiences and expectations. So each course of therapy is bespoke to you.
We all take our mental health for granted until we notice that things aren’t quite right. We’re all susceptible to our thoughts and feelings affecting our well-being. You may have noticed changes such as a loss of energy, a loss of direction, feeling angry and so on.
It can be hard to open up and talk about difficult stuff, but talking can change what you think and feel about your past experiences and this can help you to make different choices now and in the future.
How I work.
I work in an integrative, creative and embodied way. This means that I have trained in a number of modalities and draw from them according to your needs.
Sometimes words can't describe what has happened, so I might offer another way of expressing yourself, like squeezing dough or scribbling on paper. I might use CBT to show you how to challenge your negative thoughts or look at what's making you behave in a destructive way. I might notice how you fidget and reflect this back to you.
It's helpfull for me to hear about your life up to the present, to understand how your past has influenced you and this this can be done using a timeline or genogram. Its a very fast way to gain alot of information in a safe way.
The benefits of therapy are many, such as feeling better about yourself, less anxiety, more energy, greater confidence, improved communication and better relationships.
As part of my training to become a counsellor, I had to be a counselling client, I understand how difficult it is to be vulnerable with another, to face myself and not hide, I continue this process today.
Previously, I co-managed a charity for women and girls who have been sexually assaulted or raped. I have worked as a counsellor in a GP practice, an addictions agency, a hospice and a womens centre. I bring this experience and knowledge to my work.
Prior to training, I painted portraits and abstract art using mixed media. I have a passion for all forms of 'Art' and a bigger passion to do what I can for the Planet 'Earth'.
It’s important to find the right therapist for you. The best way to know if I can be helpful to you is to have a FREE 15 mins initial session, so I can answer your questions and calm any anxieties around what therapy is about and the benefits for you.
I am a BUPA registered counsellor: Fee assured: Verified Account
I am an Aviva recognised provider
Training, qualifications & experience
Supporting Carers of Autistic individuals through Training (SCATT) Eastcote
Group Facilitation training with City Lit
Borderline Personality Disorder workshop
Transgender Training with Rikki Arundel
Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling: CPCAB
PgDip Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy: CPCAB
PODS; (Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors) training in Working with Relational Trauma
Intensive Stop Smoking using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy:
Relate trained facilitators-Couple Counselling;
Bereavement training with the Hospice Movement:
Face to face work with clients who have suffered a bereavement:
Rape and sexual assault training with the Women's Counselling Service (Hounslow):
Telephone helpline work, for men and women:
Training counsellors in working with clients:
Guest speaker at Met Police training session for child protection:
Addiction training specifically alcohol & drug addiction: face to face work with clients:
Women only Centre; face to face work with women clients
Child Protection Training facilitated by Brent & Harrow Health Authority
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Borderline personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- I have specialist training in working with people with ASD.
- I'm happy to see elderly residents in their nursing home.
- I have a special interest in domestic abuse and the effects of this on family members.
Choosing the right therapist is difficult so I offer a free initial 15 minute telephone consultation which will give you an opportunity to talk through what you want from counselling as well as giving you a feel of what future sessions would be like.
Special Rates for student counsellors and low earners
Individual sessions: £50 per session (60 mins)
Couple Counselling £66 per session (60 mins-90 mins)
FaceTime available for IPhone, IMac users
Skype available on request
I look forward to meeting you.
Close to all transport links, Tube, Bus and Rail
Easy travel from Hillingdon, Hertfordshire & Brent
Easy access from A40, A41, M25, Hayes Bypass
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Appointments are available for Early morning & Evening consultations, Monday to Saturday.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|