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About me

You may have an idea of what has brought you to therapy, or you may feel confused and overwhelmed. Perhaps you would like change in your life, or maybe you want to find acceptance for what you cannot change. After an initial discussion, we would tailor an approach to suit you as an individual. I believe that what works in therapy is a trusting relationship and I offer a professional and confidential space for this to develop. I’m Tom and I currently provide specialised 1:1 therapy both privately and at the Priory Hospital North London, for anxiety, depression, anger management, borderline personality disorder, and addiction, for young people and adults.

Training, qualifications & experience

My approach to therapy is integrative, which allows me to draw from a range of skills depending on your needs. I have additional training in Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT). The main goals of DBT are to find healthy ways to manage emotions and improve relationships with others. It is particularly effective for self harm or suicidal behaviours, and addictions. My training is provided by the British Isles DBT training team who are the leaders in DBT training within the UK & Ireland.

My overall style is friendly, empathic, and down to earth. I specialise in working with intense emotions. If you are experiencing difficulty with anger, fear, sadness, guilt, etc., we work together to develop techniques to balance these feelings. This sometimes involves alternative ways of thinking, behaving, or learning skills to cope, such as mindfulness or self compassion.

If you think that you have addictive behaviours - either alcohol/drugs or any other pattern of problematic behaviour - I would offer you an individual service depending on your needs. I have extensive experience working in a treatment centre for addiction and am passionate about offering a non-judgemental and flexible approach.

I’m also a COSRT registered sex and relationship student therapist, developing skills to work with sexual and relationship problems, and working towards a diploma with the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology.

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

DBT skills training

Therapies offered

  • Cognitive and behavioural therapies
  • Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
  • Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT)
  • Group therapy
  • Humanistic therapies
  • Integrative
  • Mindfulness
  • Other therapies
  • Person-centred therapy
  • Psychoanalytical and psychodynamic
  • Psychodynamic therapy


Additional information

I appreciate that finding the right therapist can be challenging. I offer a free 15 minute phone or zoom consultation to discuss if we can work together, and if my skills are a suitable fit. During the first session, we would discuss how the process works, what your expectations are, and eventually establish your goals and how best to proceed. I offer both long and short term therapy, which is usually weekly. Currently, I am only able to offer therapy via zoom due to the pandemic.

Please contact me for session rates.

St. Albans

Hemel Hempstead

Type of session


Types of client

Young people
Tom Coles, MBACP

Tom Coles, MBACP