About me

Where you might be finding yourself

Many men struggle in their relationships - as a partner, as a father and as a friend. Even though we have many resources, actual interactions in the world can be fraught with guilt, anger and anxiety. So much so that we find ourselves soothing our soul with food, sport and alcohol.

Despite being able to generate enough money to feel safe enough in the world, we can find ourselves questioning what we’re doing, wondering whether we’re engaged in what is really of value. The need to find meaning in our lives often feels essential yet leaves us feeling empty.

What I can offer

My own search for meaning or faith journey, along with my desire to live fully in relationships, has often driven me. These have become both a source of great satisfaction and joy, as well as a source of pain and struggle.

I offer the opportunity to meet with another person at a deeper level - to have all of our parts welcomed as they are and to courageously explore what’s going on together so that we can discover new ways forward.

Working with men, relationships and meaning is my absolute passion because I’ve spent a lot of time trying to live in and work out the messiness of these parts of my own life. So, I don’t believe that there is a state of pure peace that we all can get to. However, my expertise is to help you unleash your own personal powers for living within the tensions and messiness of real life.

What to expect if you get in touch

We'll arrange a free first session to give us both a chance to explore if and how we might be able to work well together  This is also an opportunity to discuss any concerns or queries you might have. After this, we can schedule in regular appointments. You will always have the final choice on how many appointments you wish to have and how often.

Training, qualifications & experience

MA Counselling from Waverley Abbey College (accredited by the University of Roehampton)

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Therapies offered

  • Cognitive and behavioural therapies
  • Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
  • Existential therapy
  • Humanistic therapies
  • Integrative
  • Person-centred therapy


The first session is free to give us an opportunity to meet each other and explore if and how we might work well together.

After this, the cost per session is £75.

I also have a limited number of sessions at a reduced rate of £40 should this be helpful.

Concessions offered for

  • Keyworkers
  • Low income
  • OAPs
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed


I have availability on Wednesday and Thursdays, including evenings.

Further information

I work via the online platform, Zoom.

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Type of session

In person
Home visits

Practical details

Sign language
Other languages None

Types of client



Thomas Rowland

Thomas Rowland